So we all know it’s a common thing for sons and fathers to share first names, but what about mothers and daughters?
This came to mind when I realized how much I adore the name [name]Alessandra[/name]. [name]Both[/name] for myself and a daughter. (I’m changing my name and it’s one of the main contenders)
Is it less acceptable for a daughter to share her first name with her mother? Or is it a non-issue?
What are your thoughts on “name-sharing” and Jrs?
I’m all for mothers naming their daughters after themselves, a sweet thing to do 
But I’m a little hesitant in your case, since [name]Alessandra[/name] is not your birth name. If you first change your own name to [name]Alessandra[/name], and then a few years later name your daughter Alessansra, it seems a little obsessive and would raise quite a few eyebrows. If it were a more common name, it might be less of a problem, like [name]Katherine[/name] or [name]Elizabeth[/name], but [name]Alessandra[/name] is very distinct. As a middle name, I’m all for it, but not as a first name.
You should decide what’s more important to you, being called [name]Alessandra[/name] yourself, or being able to give the name to your daugther. I think one will prove to outweigh the other if you really think about it.
I also think that by the time you actually have children, you might have changed your mind entirely and it won’t be a problem ^^
That is my exact worry! I would not want her to feel like I expect her to be like me either, last thing I’d want!
I think I might sacrifice it for a future daughter. My name tastes don’t change to much, and I wasn’t 100% sold on [name]Alessandra[/name] for myself anyways. 
I guess you solved your problem then ^^
And there’s also the fact that you as an adult can handle all the various reactions and raised eyebrows, and your daughter might even love having the same name as her mother, especially when it’s such a princessy one, but eventually she’s going to catch on to people’s thoughts about it and understand, and she won’t be able to handle it as well, nor should she be forced to.
[name]Alessandra[/name] is a beautiful name for a little girl
Agreed once again!
I think she’d love it. I have two names stashed away for my first daughter, and based on her personality/looks I’m going to name here one of them.
I have another question, would it be weird if my name was a variant of [name]Alessandra[/name]? Like mine would be say [name]Alexandra[/name], and her’s is [name]Alessandra[/name], is that still too close?
It sounds like you’re pretty decided on this already, but I figured I’d put in my two cents. I don’t think there’s any reason why a woman couldn’t have a little girl be her jr… I wouldn’t want to do it (mainly because I don’t think [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Marie[/name] is fabulous enough to pass on, lol), but I am seriously considering using [name]Asher[/name] nn [name]Ash[/name] for a little boy!
I do agree with @dearest though that it would come across as a bit pretentious if you changed your name to [name]Alessandra[/name] and then named your daughter that, too. I do think that [name]Alexandra[/name] and [name]Alessandra[/name] are still too close, but I think if you name yourself [name]Alexa[/name] or [name]Alexia[/name] and then name your daughter [name]Alessandra[/name], I don’t think that’s too close. I do think [name]Alessia[/name] and [name]Alessandra[/name] are still too close, though, since I’ve always heard that [name]Alessia[/name] is a diminutive of [name]Alessandra[/name].
Good luck!
I have a co-worker whose daughter shares her name, and to be honest, I thought it was kinda lame, and I did think it was pretentious. FWIW, I don’t like it when father’s and sons share the same name, but it seemed even worse for a girl. Your child should have her own identity, not just be a carbon copy of you. You should put her feelings ahead of your own desires when it comes to the name. Would you have liked it if your mother named you after herself?
In some families it is a long standing tradition. If you don’t already have the tradition though, most people will think you have an ego problem. It’s a little unfair that men can get away with it and women can’t. Aside from the inequality I think every child should get his own name.
lol, I actually would have. I admit, no, I wouldn’t want to be [name]Karen[/name] [name]Arlene[/name], [name]Jr[/name]., but my grandmother was [name]Arlene[/name] [name]Grace[/name], and my mom is [name]Karen[/name] [name]Arlene[/name]… and my other grandmother was [name]Ruth[/name] [name]Mae[/name] and her daughter was [name]Jacquelyn[/name] [name]Ruth[/name]… I would have much preferred to be [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Arlene[/name], [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Grace[/name], [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Karen[/name], or even [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Ruth[/name] to carry on the family tradition than to just be boring, filler, “oh, it just sounded nice” [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Marie[/name]. My mom is my best friend, and I would have carried the name [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Karen[/name] SO proudly.
I’ve thought about doing this. Not so much as giving a daughter the same exact name as me, but similar to mine. Like with the name [name]Catherine[/name] [name]Annabel[/name] - it’s close to my name, but the MN also honors two late family members. That way, she still has her own name to go by.
You raise great points. I personally really dislike naming after other family members, especially with first names.
The only reason I considered this, was because it wouldn’t be “after me”, I really adore the name [name]Alessandra[/name] and wanted to use it, but I’m not guaranteed children, let alone a daughter. But at the same time, I’d love having a daughter with that name.
I’m probably just going to cross my fingers and hope for the best, and use it in the future for a daughter rather than myself.
I don’t see any issue with a mother naming her daughter after herself. My great-grandfather wanted my parents to name me [name]Carrie[/name] [name]Mae[/name] - my mom said no because her name is [name]Carrie[/name], but spelled differently. I honestly wouldn’t mind having the same name as my mom. I would still be the same person, just with my mom’s name.