just an update....

I just want to thank you for the encouragement, the thoughts and prayers. I would be a little over 2 months with [name_m]Bean[/name_m]. We named him or her [name_u]Riley[/name_u] [name_m]Bean[/name_m] found it fitting. I had my D&E last monday all went well. I have been having some trouble. I do miss the baby. All my life i have wanted a child or more. I know our day will come. and another thing is I feel like i let my hubby down. he has had heart break before. he would have had a daughter [name_f]Zoe[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f], but the woman he was dating wasn’t all their mentally. she had mental health issues and aborted the baby at 6 months pregnant. I know it’s my mind thinking too much. but i am at peace but in away i had all the things counted down. i would have been 7 months on my 25th birthday. sorry i just need to vent. but I do thank you for being comforting at this time.

Thanks for checking in. I was thinking of you and hoping your procedure wasn’t too bad. I hope you can find comfort in the next few months. I know it’s very difficult. Take it easy.

[name_f]Hope[/name_f] all is well with you, I’m currently 12weeks with my first and terrified. I think your very brave and I’m sure you’ll have a family when its right xxx

[name_f]Glad[/name_f] to hear the procedure went well. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time but it’s still very soon after and I think that’s totally to be expected. It’s not the kind of thing most women will get over in a week or two. Give yourself lots of time - as much as you need - to mourn and grieve. It took me a year before I felt ready to try again (though most women start much sooner than that). There’s no rush and the best thing you can do for yourself is just ride through it all. Cry when you feel like it. It can take a couple of months for your hormones to get back to normal even and that can also make you feel better. if you start to feel really bad or like you can’t deal with it, there are tons of great therapists out there that would be happy to help (I went and it helped a lot)! Take care!

thank you :slight_smile:

Oh my, I hope you’re all feeling okay. My thought’s are with you. I understand it’s difficult. Take time to let it all out. Crying is normal. Wait to adjust and don’t try until you feel ready. I’m sure you will have a beautiful family when the time is right. :slight_smile:

It is normal with the emotions you are going through. My boyfriend and I just lost our baby about 4 weeks ago now. I feel like going through the emotions has helped. And it still feels weird to say I had a MC but honestly now that AF has showed up this week I almost feel closer as weird as that sounds. Its like telling me my body is getting back to normal and I can close this chapter. I to wanted a child so badly and the fact it he or she was taken away is what hurts. But you will have your chance at being a mom and dont think you are letting your husband down. Your body knows best and I believe higher powers have a plan for everyone. [name_m]Just[/name_m] go through the emotions cry if you have, think about it if you want to, and talk about it if you need to. And its okay if you need to take a year before you try again. I thought after people told me that they were crazy and there was no way I was waiting but after thinking about it I cant even handle it possibly happening again so we decided to wait a year. Its okay to <3 Glad to hear everything went okay and hopefully you will get a little bundle soon. :slight_smile:

So sorry for your loss. :frowning: [name_f]Hope[/name_f] you and your husband are blessed with a healthy pregnancy and baby when the time is right!

Hugs, honey, I am so sorry. <3

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Take the time you need to grieve. There are a lot more of us out here than you would think, who have felt the same loss. As a mommy you never, ever forget that little one. ((virtual hugs))

So sorry…I hope you feel better soon, you are in my thoughts. And I am absolutely sure you will have a lot of wonderful babies soon! Huge hugs your way!

You’re in my prayers! Lean on God :slight_smile:

We’re sorry to hear about your loss and hope you are finding some solace here and with each other and your friends and family.