Kalyani (an [name]Indian[/name] name) is actually my mum’s name and I haven’t actually ever really liked it though I totally adore my mum… But the other day - my mum surprised me when she said that she would love us to use it…A real dilemma as nature won’t allow us to have a large family but what to do…It’s impossible to honour my mum, hubbys mum and other folk that have sentimental connections…
In [name]Indian[/name] it is pronounced ‘[name]Kohl[/name]-uuni’ but how would the west pronounce it do you think - just curious…
Yes, [name]Kal[/name]-yah-nee is how I would have said it. You could use it in the middle? 2 middles? Or you could just tell her you worry it would offend all the others you’d want to honor as well.
Okay that’s interesting - I thought folk would pronounce it - [name]Calie[/name] - [name]Ani[/name]…
Yes - it’s getting head in a right muddle trying to include too many names so I think I must just have tell people that as we don’t want to offend anyone - we won’t use any family names.
I can see it as a potential middle and though I’m not a huge fan of two middles, in this case it might help get all the people you want to honor and allow you to use a name you like in the first spot.
Otherwise, just kindly tell them that you don’t want to hurt anyone and so you won’t be using family names.