This idea came from when I was reading a thread on another site (I think baby name wizard). It basically discussed what people choose to do about the names they are considering/chose for their future or unborn children: are they “keepers” who choose to keep the names under wraps, or are they “broadcasters” who don’t hold back their choices?
So, which are you? It seems like there are many on here, like myself, who keep the names secret for various reasons. My reasons are mainly that I don’t feel like hearing criticism from family members and that I just prefer to keep something secret, since we will probably be sharing the gender, when we are pregnant.
So…what about all y’all?
With DS we made the mistake of telling people the names we were considering (well more like arguing over lol) & we had so many hurtful comments. Im usually pretty thick skinnned but during pregnancy it really upset me - I blame the hormones lol.
During DD’s pregnancy we/I (split with their dad during pregnancy) didn’t tell anyone any names on the list & very few people felt brave enough to say they disliked/hated her name once she was here so it was definitely better & less stressful.
I’d definitely keep any future babies names a secret, I just don’t feel like I need other people’s negativity just because my choices aren’t ‘typical/traditional’ names like a lot of my family prefer.
I have pretty thick skin, and I know my family hates my name tastes, but I still broadcast to them. I want to know if there is someone horrible in the family with the name. I don’t care if it’s, “I don’t like ___ person” but I know I have a name that I’d be offended if a hypothetical child of mine used and I don’t want to unknowingly show a family member a new baby with a name that brings up horrible memories. You could probably ask about that without outing the name. Also, I’m an only child in my adoptive family, so there aren’t any fears that a sibling could use a name I like. If there were, I’d keep it a secret because girl names are the most impossible things for me; I’d be livid to have to go back and figure a new one out.
I’ve only broadcast to one friend, who has a different taste in names than I. Also, one coworker/friend, but he’s never going to have kids, so the secret’s safe with him. I keep it a secret around anyone else.
Absolutely a “keeper”. We so strongly don’t disclose that it drives people crazy.
I would say I’m a mix of both. For instance family and my boyfriend’s are extremely critical. Always have been. Also, my boyfriend’s parents are very opinionated about what I should name our kids. I’m not the kind to bend easily to their opinions (especially about names) but I don’t need the pressure or negativity from them in the meantime.
On the other hand, I am virtually incapable of keeping my mouth shut and adore baby names as a topic anyway, so if I have a friend that will listen, I will talk all darn day about my name choices hahaha
A broadcaster. I don’t care what others think to a point–I like what I like! I’ll probably ask for input, see if anyone prefers any honor names, but mostly we’ll go for what we like (probably [name_m]Casper[/name_m] and [name_f]Winifred[/name_f]).