In a nutshell…
My older daughter has two middle names, the latter one being my mother’s name.
I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant with my second (and last) child, another girl.
My husband and I had finally agreed on her full name, which also includes two middles; the latter of which was to be his mum’s middle name (I am not fond of the name itself, nor of his mother, but was prepared to suck it up.)
Last week, however, something happened which has totally turned me off paying tribute to this woman (it was the straw that broke the camel’s back, really.) I no longer feel comfortable using the name.
I still want two middles, and would like for the second to have familial significance. Here’s where my question comes in.
Would it be totally horrific to use my father’s name in this spot? She’s is very likely to be his last grandchild; my only sibling has two older sons (11 and 21) with two middle names each, none of which pay tribute to my dad.
Dad’s name is [name_u]Murray[/name_u], which is clearly neither especially appealing nor a female name. However, it does sound like a surname, and it’s not unheard of for girls to be given their mother’s surname as a middle.
Also, it begins with M, which fits with the initials we had planned ([name_f]MiL[/name_f]'s middle begins with M, too) so that wouldn’t change. My older daughter’s initials spell something sweet, and I struggled to find an okay configuration for this baby’s names.
Phew! Sorry if that was awkwardly explained.
*In case anyone were to suggest using a form of my dad’s own middle name, it’s [name_m]Henry[/name_m]. Not much better, and [name_f]Henrietta[/name_f] ain’t my bag.