I’d like to hear what fellow berries would suggest about our last name dilemma. DH is basically set on giving his LN to our children. I’m not really going to fight him on this- he is the last male of his generation, so he wants to keep the LN going. I kept my maiden name when we married, and I would like to feel “related” by name to our kids, too. For reference, DH’s LN is Dutch, 2 syllables, and sounds like Beckers. My LN is British, 2 syllables, and sounds like Pretty.
We’re not so into the hyphenated LN idea.
What do you think of doing a double last name, with no hyphen? So Girls’ name Pretty Beckers or
Boys’ name Pretty Beckers?
If we go that route, do we give our children middle names as well? So then they have 4 names…? Also, if you have a double last name with no hyphen, does the 1st or 2nd last name ever end up getting dropped on forms or applications?
Alternatively, we could just use my LN as a MN for our child- if that route, do I only do that for female children, or for males as well? (My actual last name is not as girl-specific as “pretty”.)
Or, another option, 1st child gets DH’s LN and 2nd child gets my LN. Not sure how I’d feel about our kids having 2 different LNs. (We’re expecting our 1st right now but hope to have at least 2 children.)
So confused, and DH is not at a stage where he enjoys playing the name game, so I’d love your thoughts/advice.