I think partially the circumstances “excuse” the name. I already wrote how I feel about it, but I don’t hold it against someone for reporting the name of their 6 year old. I would like to hear an account from someone with a 6 year old with an unusual name in public school somewhere in the US (for example), preferably somewhere that’s not a big city, like NY. It’s hard to know what you mean by “[name]Africa[/name].” Home school, I think most of us understand, kids are somewhat isolated from would-be playmates during the education process but may go to co-schooling where different parents teach a few kids on a subject they are more an expert on, and/or have some other activities among children the same age, like sports or girl scouts.
[name]Africa[/name] can mean a lot of things, and I don’t know if the OP is from [name]Africa[/name] or an expat, and what the living conditions and surrounding culture is like. There are some major cities in [name]Africa[/name], but I don’t know what that means, how are they similar and how are they different than cities in the US? What other kinds of names are popular in your locale? If the names used tend to be recognizably of some [name]African[/name] language, are they common words in that language as well as [name]Butterfly[/name] is in English?
Are you staying there, is this your home and [name]Butterfly[/name]'s home for good, or are you stationed for a period of time? Were you born there, does this go better with the local culture than it would in the US?
There are a lot of things I’m curious about! I still stand by my former statement, but I think a lot of mystique about choosing an unusual name may seem more fitting for your current surroundings - all you have stated is that she has an English word name, is homeschooled (somewhat isolated from her peers), and your parents disapprove of the name. People are taking it pretty hard, but we don’t probably know what it’s like there. I don’t know that anyone has enough information to feel comfortable with the choice as long as we have some idea this name does not seem fitting with our own cultural standards of a “real” name, who can be successful with this name or a more boring name would be better. “But in [name]Africa[/name], it might be just fine.” I want to know more about that, actually.
I want to know more about the area and what other people are doing - is [name]Butterfly[/name] as unusual where you are, relatively, as it is here in the US? And are you staying put, is [name]Butterfly[/name] going to have a pretty good chance of staying there for the rest of her life? Are your parents in [name]Africa[/name] as well?
I think I just don’t want to make assumptions - a lot of us are from the US, but by no means are we all, plenty from the UK and Australia, but quite a showing from all over the world. One tends to think how will this person’s name fare where I live, and it’s hard to figure out the situation if you are in fact living in [name]Africa[/name] because you’ve always lived in [name]Africa[/name] - you use an English-language word for the name of your daughter, and did not specify where in [name]Africa[/name]. South [name]Africa[/name]? And that your parents were embarrassed to say her name. I don’t know what any of that means. I don’t want to assume Africans (of unspecified nationality) would be more open-minded about a weird name, or that you are American (perhaps) and may not be there for the duration, in which case, [name]Butterfly[/name] might have a relatively more unusual name when she returns to the states. See, without more information, I am inventing scenarios. I still don’t see this name as a complete detriment - it’s quite eccentric, and I still think it’s great that you went with your gut instead of conceding to pressure to be, uh, tasteful, as it seems to be defined.
I don’t think the OP has added any thoughts since starting this thread, but I do recall this person posting before, had mentioned this name as her daughter’s name and that she lived in [name]Africa[/name]. Am I too nosy? What are the actual “ramifications,” if we can call them that, of choosing this name for your daughter, living in [name]Africa[/name] (what other people are doing), and if there is any reason any of us might think you are not living in [name]Africa[/name] forever, or truth to that presumption.