Have you berries ever loved a name that has a negative association with someone? If so did your love for the name overrule the association and you are still happy to use it or were you like nope that person named x was awful so can’t use it?
Really curious as a name I love currently has a negative association as it belongs to someone who isn’t the best but considering overlooking it what do you guys think? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you have a name like this!
Thanks berries 
oh boy yes! in 100% honesty i am a petty person and the name is ruined for me. even if the person isn’t so bad, but our relationship went sour it’s enough to turn me off.
the one name i’m currently struggling with is nuri, it’s nearly identical to a name of a family member that isn’t in the top of our graces, and i can’t get over how the sound reminds me of them, even though i love the name.
but hey, if you love the name and you are ok with it, iif the name itself brings you joy, the sound of it makes you smile and not frown, don’t see why not. unless they’ve severely wronged you or a family member, in which case, maybe not.
I think the main thing to consider is whether or not you’ll think of the person when you hear the name. Some of my favourites are also the names of people I don’t like, but I don’t think of those people so I’ll still use them.
It depends on the name. I like the name [name_f]Olympia[/name_f] but it reminds me too much of a really awful girl I knew named [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] and I just can’t get past it. However, I like the name [name_u]Robin[/name_u]/Robyn for both genders and I knew an annoying man called [name_m]Robert[/name_m] but that doesn’t bother me.
It’s definitely happened both ways for me. I know an [name_f]Emma[/name_f] that’s not very nice, but [name_f]Emma[/name_f] has so many other positive associations that I feel like I can overlook it (especially since I won’t even know her by the time I have kids!)
I have [name_m]Stephen[/name_m] in my UC but I would never use it IRL because it is extremely similar to one of my uncles name (who’s a homophobic/transphobic /everything-phobic conspiracy theorist type 
). Same with [name_m]Nicholas[/name_m]. I love the name so much but I would never be able to use it because of terrible associations in my past.
I don’t know. I like [name_f]Gabrielle[/name_f] and [name_u]Gabriel[/name_u], but I know an awful, rude [name_u]Gabriel[/name_u]. Most of the time (like with [name_f]Juliet[/name_f], where the most famous [name_f]Juliet[/name_f] was not exactly a good influence), I can shake the negative association, but knowing someone that rude, like [name_u]Gabriel[/name_u], bothers me a bit. And the rude [name_u]Gabriel[/name_u] doesn’t seem to have any redeeming qualities either. I knew a mean [name_m]Gregory[/name_m] but I’d use [name_m]Gregory[/name_m] because that [name_m]Gregory[/name_m] had redeeming qualities (he was strangely polite and incredibly insecure for a reason). So, I guess it just depends for me.
Honestly, I think it just depends on how you feel at the time. When we were naming our first child, there were some names that I eliminated because of negative associations I had at the time. Eight years later, we’re about to name kid number three and most of those associations have faded, so some of those names are back in for consideration.
Oh, that’s sad! [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is such a pretty name. I am pretty biased though, being as my middle name is a [name_m]Luc[/name_m]- variant.
@coffeeorangecats [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is one for me, too. It’s such a shame because it’s so pretty, but I don’t know that I ever won’t think of her. Variants like [name_f]Lucie[/name_f] and [name_f]Lucille[/name_f] are okay for me though.
Thank you for the feedback it’s so interesting to hear you guys thoughts!
I am loving [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] at this precise moment I just think it’s beautiful features my ‘[name_f]Rose[/name_f]’ a name I’m in love with but feel that it’s too popular in my social circle despite my social circle & berries strongly disagreeing & just ticks so many boxes. I love the associations with nature, [name_m]Shakespeare[/name_m], the meanings, the association with remembrance and that it also honours [name_f]Mary[/name_f] another family name. Only downside is that I went to school with a girl called [name_f]Alice[/name_f] we were such close friends and then she stole money from my family. Her mum was [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] and not a great person. I don’t see this family at all/never speak of them and it’s only something in the back of my mind that’s like is that strange to use the name despite the connection to [name_f]Alice[/name_f] and a situation that happened 10 years ago? Also there’s the association with the horror film [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f]’s baby but as my trusted friend said you’ve never even seen the film, it came out in the 1960s or whatever so it’s a very dated reference. She also thinks the [name_f]Alice[/name_f] thing isn’t relevant as I’m not naming the baby [name_f]Alice[/name_f]. She thinks as [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] has so many pluses I should go for it and stop planting doubts in my mind. Anyways of course wanted to see what you berries thought about names with a negative association it’s nice to hear some people overlooked the association. I’m not the only one!