Love them then hate them?

Hey guys,

Starting this thread just to make sure I’m not losing my mind… I’ve been in love with a few names for YEARS now ([name_f]Abigail[/name_f] has been my fav since I was 12 years old) But very recently I’m not as attached to names as I felt I was before… Has anyone had a name they thought would never leave their list but one day it just didn’t feel as special anymore? My name choices are all over the place… Old English, [name_m]French[/name_m], Russian, [name_m]German[/name_m]… You name it and I’ll probably love it.

Another Question!
Anyone having trouble choosing a front runner? Since [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] has started losing it’s spark, I haven’t been able to choose between my other favourites as to which I would use first.

Sure. Some names have lost their spark to me and I’ve crossed them off the list, others have stayed but I became less certain of using them on the first boy or girl. In my head my first boy has always been [name_u]Elliott[/name_u], but if I had a baby boy right now, I could also absolutely see myself choosing [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] or [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], I still love [name_u]Elliott[/name_u] and in a way I feel like I would have to choose it since it’s been my #1 boys’ name since I was 10, but I’m not as stuck on it as I have been a year or two ago and once I have to make the choice, I will go with the name I like best, then.
Basically, if somebody asked me: “If you had 3 boys, what would you name them, eldest to youngest?” for an answer’s sake, I’d say [name_u]Elliott[/name_u], [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] & [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] but in reality it might as well be [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], [name_u]Elliott[/name_u] & [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] or [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] & [name_u]Elliott[/name_u].
Same with girls. In my head I can have two girls named [name_f]Flora[/name_f] and [name_f]Rose[/name_f], so who is older doesn’t matter, but in reality I might just get one girl and which name I’d choose would just depend on the day.
Unless you’re naming a baby soon, I wouldn’t worry to much about having a frontrunner; or have one for Nameberry but don’t put yourself in a place where you feel like if you love another name more the day the kid is born, you would still have to choose your “frontrunner”.

I think it’s normal. People’s taste changes over time. When I was a teenager my favorite names were [name_u]Sydney[/name_u], [name_u]Alexis[/name_u], and [name_u]Rhian[/name_u], none of which are on my current list. [name_m]Dominic[/name_m] had been a long time favorite of mine, but has moved it’s way slightly down my list and is no longer my top boy name. [name_u]Tristan[/name_u] and [name_m]Jasper[/name_m] which I thought I would never like are quickly growing on me and moving their way up my list. Sometimes you move on for good and sometimes you just need a break from them and they’ll end up back on your list after a hiatus. [name_m]Just[/name_m] go with what feels right and what it is you like now.

[name_m]Ah[/name_m], I know just what you mean. My favourites just aren’t sparkling for me anymore either, and I too am struggling to come up with an ultimate favourite name and combo. I’m just not as attached to any particular name nowadays, like I used to be, though that could be a good or a bad thing, depending on how you choose to see it. I think perhaps, that for me, I’ve been looking at names so much lately and loving so, so many, that it’s created absolute chaos in my mind! Things change all the time in life though, names and style/taste included, so I’m not all too worried about it - I’m just using the time to think outside my usual favourites and look into long list favourites I may not have considered too much for use before.

As for names I always adored and at the time never thought I’d fall out of love with: [name_f]Jordana[/name_f], [name_f]Sarai[/name_f] & most recently, [name_f]Lalita[/name_f]. While yes, I do still like them a lot, I just no longer love and want to use them for various reasons.

No, you’re not losing your mind - try not to let it get to you too much, especially if you don’t have a baby due any time soon. The sparkle will come back soon enough, if not old loves refreshed, into new ones found.

For me, it happens when I talk about names I like with others.
For example, my favourite name as a child was [name_f]Katya[/name_f], hands down. However over time, niggling thoughts have come in like “is it too Russian, I’m not Russian” and “will the nickname be [name_f]Katie[/name_f]? I don’t want that name.” These are ALL from other people.
Another example is the name [name_f]Saffron[/name_f] which I think is cute and spunky but I’ve been told that in some areas it’s a really trashy name and it’s entirely put me off.

Moral of this story… [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t tell anyone anything about your favourite names :stuck_out_tongue:

[name_f]Glad[/name_f] I’m not the only one who’s had the problem :slight_smile:

opheliaflora - You summed me up 100%; I always say my names in sets, so if [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] is my top name on the day the sibset for girls would be [name_f]Abigail[/name_f], [name_f]Lucille[/name_f] & [name_f]Marceline[/name_f]… Boys [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] & [name_m]Kenneth[/name_m]. Never really separated them…

caralion - I love the name [name_f]Katya[/name_f] (I’m not Russian either >.> They just have such beautiful names lol). [btw [name_f]Saffron[/name_f] didn’t make me think trashy at all tbh, quite the opposite - darn little spice is worth more than gold. I think it has a fair amount of cool factor really ^^]

My favourite name has lost spark to me a few times but at the end of the day I dont think I could name my daughter anything but that.

Yes! This has happened to me. A couple of times. For the longest time, my favorite names were [name_f]Lily[/name_f] and [name_u]Noah[/name_u]. I just loved them so much. I was even really concerned because my cousin’s favorite name was [name_f]Lily[/name_f], as well, and he ended up having a little girl earlier this year. For awhile I was concerned he would name her [name_f]Lily[/name_f]. He named her [name_u]Quinn[/name_u]. A name I never thought of before, but now I love so incredibly much and wish I could use it myself lol. Now, I realize [name_u]Noah[/name_u] is incredibly popular and [name_f]Lily[/name_f] just doesn’t click for me anymore. It’s sweet, but probably a name I won’t ever use.

Then my favorite movie came out, [name_m]Little[/name_m] Miss [name_f]Sunshine[/name_f], and [name_f]Olive[/name_f] became a possibility. Before I knew it, I adored [name_f]Olive[/name_f]. My husband wasn’t fond of the name, but I convinced myself that I would make him fall in love lol. It still very well could be a name I choose for my future daughter (if I were to have a daughter). [name_m]Miles[/name_m]/[name_m]Milo[/name_m] was my favorite boys name. My husband even agreed he liked the name [name_m]Miles[/name_m] or [name_m]Milo[/name_m].

But here I am, with two new favorites - [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] and [name_m]Samson[/name_m]. Now, I’m 95% sure these will be our children’s names. But who knows. Over the years, I just think my taste in names have changed. It actually concerns me a little because I worry once I have a child, years later, I’ll wish I named them something different. But I’ve been told that rarely happens and that your child just becomes the perfect little “[name_f]Lucy[/name_f]” or whatever you decide to name them and you simply couldn’t picture them with another name.

I think [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] is a classic and beautiful name, but it’s understandable that you’re older self has a different taste than your 12 year old self. I’m sure something will click with you when finding a new “favorite.” :slight_smile: I always seem to have a couple favorites that stay at the top for a year or so, but my top 10 changes frequently. Discover new names and let them sit on your favorites list for awhile until one just really stands out.

For me, a deeper meaning really helps. For example, I love the name [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. It honors my mom because my mom’s favorite TV show is “I [name_u]Love[/name_u] [name_f]Lucy[/name_f].” I also love [name_f]Lucille[/name_f] Ball and think she is a great role model for girls. I also love that [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] means light. I’m a photographer so I feel connected to it’s meaning. Plus I just like the name. It’s classic, short and sweet.

As for [name_m]Samson[/name_m], my husband has always told me he likes the name [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]. I’m not the biggest fan, but I do like the beginning “[name_u]Sam[/name_u].” So I explored other options and found [name_m]Samson[/name_m]. I like that my husband and I kind of came up with this one together. Makes it feel more special. [name_m]Samson[/name_m] also means sun. Soooo, when I think of [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] (light) and [name_m]Samson[/name_m] (sun) as siblings, I just find it adorable.

Sorry for the rant. :slight_smile:

Yes! I feel like names always sound better in sets :slight_smile: Or at least with middle names.

… [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] [name_f]Clementine[/name_f], [name_m]Samson[/name_m] [name_m]Bruno[/name_m], [name_f]Olive[/name_f] [name_u]Juniper[/name_u], [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] [name_m]Maxwell[/name_m], etc… I love saying them out loud, too!