So, my wife and I are struggling to figure out what to do for our boy’s middle name. After a bit of a debate, we have decided on the first name of [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] (probably going with Bash as a nickname). Our last name ends in ‘er’, so we’ve been avoiding names that end in that as well.
Here’s our problem, though. We want the middle name to be a family name. We have in narrowed down to [name_u]Dean[/name_u] (my grandpa’s name - he passed away right after my wife and I started dating) and [name_m]William[/name_m] (my wife’s grandpa’s name who is still living).
At this point, it almost feels like we’re choosing between the two grandparents, and that’s not what we’re intending. We’ve toyed with the idea of doing [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] [name_u]Dean[/name_u] ____, but we’ve never really been a fan of two middle names and that would be a pretty long name as well. But the positive with that is we get to honor both sides of the family, especially since it’s likely this will be our only child.
We’re just not sure where to go with it from here. Any thoughts/opinions/etc. are appreciated!
I’m not a fan of double middles either. Is the baby getting just your last name? If so, I tend to vote for a name from your wife’s family since he will already have your grandfather’s last name. [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] is nice.
I actually quite like [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] [name_u]Dean[/name_u]! While it is a long name, it’s not too much of a tongue twister so I think it still works
For some reason, when I say it out loud [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] by itself does sound like a few too many syllables, and kind of unfinished. Not sure why! Adding [name_u]Dean[/name_u] just kind of grounds it a bit more, and rounds it off nicely for me
That being said, if you are not a fan of two middles then I would go with just [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_u]Dean[/name_u]!
I would use [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] [name_u]Dean[/name_u] if you think you’ll regret using one name and not the other. Assuming the baby will have your surname, I would choose [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] if you only want one middle. [name_m]William[/name_m] is from your wife’s side, and great-grandfather [name_m]William[/name_m] is still alive to be honored by the honor.
[name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] doesn’t some finished to me either. If you don’t want to do two middles maybe try to find a name that combines both? Wilden, [name_m]Walden[/name_m], Wilden, [name_m]Dilan[/name_m], eh, these are pretty bad.:D, but something along those lines might work to honor both.
If this is likely to be your only child, I would use all 3 names.
Here is something no one else has mentioned. If you plan on having more children, I would just use [name_m]William[/name_m]. It is a wonderful thing to honor someone who you’ve lost but to honor someone who is still here means they get to know and enjoy that special connection to your baby. I think it’s a really special feeling to have that. Also between the two names, I could see using [name_u]Dean[/name_u] as the middle even for a girl if you don’t have another boy. Although some might think me strange for saying that.
Thanks everyone for the responses. We really appreciate the unbiased opinions.
A lot of what has been said is what we’ve been going through. To honor someone alive would certainly be special to them as they get to keep that with them. Honoring someone who has passed, to me, helps them be remembered.
I think in the ideal world, we’d do both middle name. We just never really gave that serious consideration before this debate. We’re just afraid that it’s too much… But it’s the obvious way of honoring both grandparents.
I’m not usually a big fan of 2 middles names except for some occasions like this one! I think it works very nicely or like sarah1880 said you could do that! Good [name_m]Luck[/name_m] on whatever you choose!
My son is a “Bash” [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] as well; I’m biased, but I think it’s a fantastic choice! If you were choosing to give him two middle names for no reason other than liking them both, I’d be against it. But since you’re honoring two very special people I see no reason for it not to work. [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] [name_m]William[/name_m] [name_u]Dean[/name_u] is terrific; you’ll never regret remembering a loved one.
