So I want to change my middle name to R0se because it has so much meaning to me and it’s the name I remember loving since I was a little kid. It’s not too common in the place I live in. I love the name but I’m scared to bring the name change up to my parents and I don’t know if it’s a good thing to change my name at this age (I’m 15), I just don’t wanna end up regretting it so please give me some advice on what to do!
I’ve been trying to convince myself right now to be completely set on the name change, you can read the text for that but it’s absolutely not necessary, that text is mostly for myself to document!
Trying to convince myself (really long text)
It ties into my favorite color, flower, aesthetic, crystal, singer & lyric and I’ve liked all of these things for a long time, in most cases since I was little! My friends and family also associate me with some of these things.
I adore the symbolism of roses; they symbolize love and so many other sweet things!
my family would be a bit disappointed if I’ll change my name but I feel like they would understand how much meaning R0se has to me
I’d get a more official name day for my mn! May 4 is the official Finnish name day for Roosa, Rosa and Ruusu (common R0se variants in Finland) and all the R0se variants unofficially. My MN’s current name day is so made up and unofficial that even I forget it often, plus it’s the same day as my mom’s official name day.
my FN is common and I encounter so many people with it and I only like one nn for it (and I prefer it as an affectionate nn with friends), my current MN is really rare but it has no nicknames. R0se is rare enough and has nickname potential so if I don’t want to be FN (InsertInitialHere), I could go by R0se or my favorite nicknames for it!
I can hear the struggle in your voice and I’m sorry this is difficult for you. As a mom, I can relate to how your parents might feel but it also sounds like a very well considered and significant name for you. I think they would understand and it sounds they may already associate the name with you. It sounds like the legal/formal change is what you’re having to convince yourself of, not the name itself.
For now I’d suggest making a social change and not a legal one. Use it as a nickname or however you would if you changed it. I’m not familiar with name days but go ahead and celebrate it as you would if you changed it. If some time passes and you still strongly feel a legal change is what you want then you should, even adding it as a second middle to honor your birth name as well as chosen name.
One other thing to consider. At 15, would you need parental consent to legally change it? I’m not sure where you’re at but in the US, where I am, there is a fee and process to change a name unless you have a life change (Marriage, divorce, etc). So if you do get married you could take advantage of that and change the middle and last name both if you choose.
Sorry for the long response, I’m a cautious person by nature so I’d wait but a name change is not a bad thing, especially when it means so much.
You’ve clearly thought a lot about this, and I think you should go for it. As for your parents, I could understand why they’d be on the fence, so what if instead of changing your MN, you add to it? Keep your original and add your new one. I have 2 middle names. You could try it with both MNs for a few years, and if you’re unhappy, you could just change it again when you’re 18, either by dropping your original mn, or adding something different if you feel your new one doesn’t suit after all.
Tbh, as it’s your MN, I’d say go for it. You don’t have much to lose as it’s “just” your MN (not saying that to diminish of course)
@ChristinaMae114@BabyNameOpinions Thanks for affirming and giving advice, I appreciate it so much! My parents probably don’t associate the name itself with me but I think they associate it to a few things they associate with me.
I’m probably not doing two middles because my last name is long and then my full name won’t find on certain documents etc. and it just wouldn’t be practical.
I need parental consent but I don’t think it’s a problem, my mom has basically told me that she thinks name changes are the decision of the person and not the parents and that if me or my brother did a name change, she’d try to support it even if she feels a little disappointed. There’s a fee too but it’s quite small and I can pay for it myself.
R0se seems like a great choice for you, suits you well and makes you happy. It’s also a solid, versatile choice, that matures well and isn’t so lively to be regretted!
Could you change it ‘informally’ for now?
First, spend some time signing, introducing and thinking of yourself as [fn] R0se, so you can see if it definitely works for you? Then maybe speak to friends about about it, so they can call you it. When you’re all set and sure it’s right, then it might feel easier to tell your family?
Equally, it might be worth floating the idea that you’re thinking of changing it, so it’s not a shock/big deal when you do?
I guess just spend some time being [fn] R0se for a bit, then you’ll know if it feels right? I think it’s a lovely name, suits you well and clearly has a lot of meaning and thought behind it
Thank you for the advice and all the compliments/nice things you said, you helped me a lot! also sorry for replying so late, I just now revisited this post!
also sorry for replying so late, I just now revisited this post!