What is it with mother’s pissing off their kids? My mom seems to do it ALOT! I hope that I can be different for my kids. Esp as they get older so they don’t mind talking to me & confiding in me. [name]Do[/name] I just have a mom with a sucky personality or is this completely normal?
What’s the most recent thing your mom did/said to piss you off?
Yeah, I know, this may seem in bad taste with Mother’s [name]Day[/name] being next weekend. But that brings up another question: [name]Do[/name] you unknowingly forget about your mom on Mother’s [name]Day[/name] since becoming a mom yourself?
My mom never does or says anything to make me mad on purpose. She does frustrate me sometimes. She lives about 30 minutes away from me, so we don’t see each other that often Once or twice ebery couple of weeks. So, when we do see each other, we spend all of our time talking and catching up and just being together, and I enjoy every minute of it. To answer your question, no, I never forget my mom on Mother’s [name]Day[/name]. I usually go to church with her and have dinner with her. It’s going to be hard this year though, because my husband it preaching the Mother’s [name]Day[/name] message at my church, so I won’t be able to go to church with my mom. I’m hoping she will come with me though. But either way, I will see her after church. As the the sucky personality question, the frustration that my mom causes sometimes is because she still sees me as her child, so she tries to offer advice or help and we just disagree on certain things. Maybe its the same for your mom, she is trying to help and she still sees you as her child even though you are an adult, capable if functioning without her help. I hope you and your mom work our whatever your going through before Mother’s [name]Day[/name].
I live about 19hrs away from my mom (that’s nonstop driving!). Last saw her 3yrs ago ([name]May[/name] 2009) when we made the trip out there. Before that, about 3yrs ([name]May[/name]/[name]June[/name] 2006)…when my first child was born. She was here 3wks & OMG was that too long! Before that, about 1yr ([name]May[/name] 2005). Before that, [name]March[/name] 2002, the year I graduated high school. So I’ve not seen her alot in the last 10yrs & I don’t call her often 'cause I usually get “my food is getting cold” or “I was just about to eat”. So communication is mainly email or facebook. She is not very talkative on the phone, so it’s like a one sided convesation.
Actually this is one of the reasons I’m not sure about having kids. She did (almost) everything right as a mother when I was growing up, but when I became a teenager and started having my own views on things, our relationship started falling apart. I think it would be extremely hard for me, as I know it is for her, to have raised successful children who don’t really want to spend time with me.
My mother is a very trying person for me to get along with. There’s been a lot turmoil in our relationship, as well as in her relationship with her own mother.
It’s a fear of mine, that the same will happen to me and my future daughters. However, I feel that I’ve learned enough from my mother’s actions as well as my grandmother’s to lay out a better foundation for my future kids.
It’s a trend in my maternal side apparently, a lot of my grandmother’s sisters have issues with their kids.
I think mother’s tend to be so invested in their kids, that they end up crossing lines. They don’t always realize that their children are their own persons, and will have conflicting ideas, opinions, etc. Some mother’s don’t believe in letting their children make their own mistakes, or even give their kids basic respect. There’s almost always some form of crossing a line in a mother-child relationship.
And I think it’d got to do with the fact that the mother is so invested, and involved in a child’s early life that distancing/censoring themselves isn’t the easiest thing to do.
I am a teenager, so in theory I should be arguing with my mum all the time. But I don’t! My family are all quite close, we sometimes argue but that comes with most families. Of course, people interact with their parents a lot so they are more likely to annoy the people they talk to more, and vice versa. 
But yeeah, sometimes she nags me to unload the dishwasher or stop kneeling on chairs and to stop putting my feet on the desk, or freaks out about what strikes me as nothing, ha ha.
At the end of the day, though, I love my mam and I owe her so much, she’s one of the people that encourages me to make my own decisions based on what I know, as well as tolerance to the opinions, views and beliefs of others. I think that is one of the most valuable things you can teach a person. Sometimes our opinions do conflict when we discuss things, but that is never an issue for her. Plus, I can talk to her about anything, which means I trust and respect her. I think trust is definitely something that should always be between a mum and child. There should never be anything that you and your kid can’t say to each other - that kind of thing would only ever act as a barrier in your relationship.
When I have kids, I intend to raise them to make their own decisions based on the facts, to be tolerant and kind, and that we all trust and respect each other. Ha ha this all probably sounded sappy but I really admire my mum.
I’m a teenager and I sometimes argue with my mom. Usually it’s about how she doesn’t pay attention when my brother trys to get me in trouble. I’m really young, so the things I argue about are so small on the importancy scale they are basically inconsequential.
Is it just a mother-daughter thing or do boys have this problem? I have 1 idiotic brother (& I say that in the most lovingly way) & 2 sisters. My mother seems to be very tolerative of my brother’s idiotcy. Is this just 'cause he’s a boy?
My mother-in-law on the other hand, has no daughters; 4 boys. They are all very close with their mom & only the youngest one tends to argue with her (I think mainly 'cause his wife is such a ditz). Or maybe it’s 'cause he’s the youngest one? I’m the youngest in my family, so is there a parallel there? Though this brother-in-law is quite an idiot too.
I have a much much better relationship with my dad. Try to call him every couple weeks & usually chat for about an hour. So do boys tend to fight more with their dads than moms?
My mom and I don’t get along, however she doesn’t know this. She thinks we are fine, she is oblivious! She is the reason I was adamant about NEVER having children because I don’t want to be her or have her around my children. My fiance’ really wants one so I am leaving it at one. I kind of want a kid now, but the fear of my mom and her getting involved bothers me. If I have a kid I want to be the sole caretaker. I don’t trust her or anyone else. The trust issues also probably come from her.
My mother was not the best mother. I was just NEVER good enough for her. I get a B on a test and she screams and yell as to why I didn’t get an A. She rewarded us with money for every A we had. Of course my smarter, younger sister always had straight As, but to her I was dumb, I always had B’s and a couple of A’s. When it came to the flute and piano. I never went to state for either, last time I tried I was one point away on my flute solo (4 years ago), I burst into tears. I hardly ever play them now. My sister on the other hand went to state twice for swimming.
She also gets into fights over the stupidest of things. Probably because even though she’s lived in [name]America[/name] for over 21 years, she still doesn’t seem to understand nice English from mean English. She often misunderstands me and then throws a tantrum. She acts like a two year old! I don’t want that around my children. I plan to exclude her as much as possible from my life when we have kids. Right now I only see her about 3 -5 times a year since we live a state away. Thank God. I am afraid she is going to be one of those parents though that say they are coming to visit and if we say no, she’s going to throw a fit. I plan to keep the baby a secret until we know the sex, so we are just going to have to put our foot down.
I like my dad and I remember when I was little I wish they would just divorce because I want to live with him and not with my mom. Never happened. Somehow, despite my mom’s craziness, he’s still with her. I have no idea how he puts up with her!
Since I started working retail its hard to forget mothers day honestly. Because a couple weeks ago we had to stay after closing hours to rearrange the entire store for mothers day. And we’ve had so many mothers day quotes it drives me bonkers :l In previous years I have though.
Me and my mother have a really bad relationship. Well, we can act civil together, but we have many unresolved issues that tend to be an elephant under the living room rug for us- there always there and visible, but we pretend we don’t notice 
My mother is VERY religious, and I am not. Therefor according to her religion she isn’t allowed to be very close to me. Though she also tends to be very opinionated and strong willed which hinders a lot of things too. Our relation ship turned sour when I was eleven for various reasons of things happening in my life. So I can honestly say I know the feeling of those UGHHHHH moments! However, I don’t think most moms are like mine, so I wouldn’t really compare my family situation to anyone elses. I went through a time of major depression and therapy because of my mother <3 I always feel bad blaming her, but its the truth… She was the type who’d tell me I’m stupid, worthless, insignificant, etc when I was being “rebellious” and not doing things her way. I think she tried to cut my self esteem to where I’d think I needed her and listen for her “words of wisdom” or something.
But besides that, in normal mother terms, I know she sometimes says things loudly just to annoy me because I like indoor voices. And I sometimes whine at her just to irritate her. So its a two way street here 
As I said, we normally act civil like two aquantences or something. But seeing as we’re only human, we both get annoying to each other sometimes Things definitely improved most when I moved out and she saw the independence in me and that I was my own person and an adult making my own decisions. Not living together makes a HUGE difference!!! Not dealing with annoyances every day makes us a lot happier to see each other lol!