Hello, so me and my fiancé are discussing about having kids in the future. I am half [name_u]French[/name_u] and half Greek and my fiancé is fully Italian, we live in the UK.
Growing up me and my family lived in the UK and our house worked like this: our mum would talk to us in Greek and we would talk to our mum in Greek, our father spoke to us in [name_u]French[/name_u] and we spoke to him in [name_u]French[/name_u] however, when we went out or were at school we spoke [name_f]English[/name_f].
My fiancé grew up in [name_f]Italy[/name_f] and they spoke Italian.
He wants to raise our kids in a bilingual house, him speaking Italian and I speaking [name_f]English[/name_f] but the thing is, I feel like I want my kids to speak Greek or [name_u]French[/name_u] with me, after a long discussion we decided on doing it like him speaking Italian and I speaking Greek as my Greek is better then my [name_u]French[/name_u]. Now, we were facetiming my parents and this came up in conversation because I asked my parents how they raised us trilingual and my father says that he wants to primarily speak to his grandchildren in [name_u]French[/name_u], I didn’t say anything because my father is very strict and adamant about things however, I feel like four languages is a lot for a child and will be confusing but then I thought about it and in the UK, [name_u]French[/name_u] is often taught in schools. I am really confused and overwhelmed about what is best (we plan on having children next year/after we marry) and my fiancé is just saying he is still speaking Italian so it is my decision what to do (which I understand and agree with). I don’t know if I should speak [name_f]English[/name_f], Greek or [name_u]French[/name_u] and I feel a bit trapped.
What are your experiences in raising a multilingual house? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you have any advice? TIA x