I don’t want to feel like I’m beating a dead horse, but my new attorney suggested that I give my unborn daughter the last name of her well known athlete father…also the man who abandoned the baby and me 3 weeks before our wedding, changed his number and has not even bothered to call in almost 2 months. (Ironically, he wanted this baby and tried to get me pregnant! Came to first sonograms and after his mother laid the guilt trip on him, left me and moved back into his parents basement as I struggle to work and function like a normal person.)
The attorney thinks it will “sit better with the judge” if this goes to court. He also said that my ex has the “right” in [name]Florida[/name] to be in the delivery room if he wants to be despite not calling, not responding to emails and not contributing financially to any of my medical care or baby needs. I doubt he will show up but where are my rights?
I do not want to give the baby the last name of a man who essentially abandoned his fiance when pregnant with their first child, especially a girl. I would rather her have my family’s name, the only family that has supported her and her mother in this process. I don’t see how a judge would look poorly on a woman who was left in this situation and gave her baby her own last name. Wouldn’t it look worse for him? The attorney argues that in terms of privilege and things of that nature, she would fare better as well. While I understand that side, what is the point of giving her the last name of a man who didn’t care enough to call to even learn her gender? [name]Tom[/name] [name]Brady[/name]'s ex girlfriend seems to be doing okay with the baby having her last name!
So…do I go with the legal advice or what my heart tells me? Sometimes the heart does not always make the best decisions in a courtroom.