So my husband and I already have two boys, [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_m]Joshua[/name_m] (named after my husband [name_m]Joshua[/name_m] [name_u]Lynn[/name_u]) and [name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] (named after my husband’s late father [name_u]Kelly[/name_u] [name_m]Joe[/name_m]) and we’ve been discussing baby names in case our next one is a girl. We both love the name [name_f]Judith[/name_f] [name_f]Anne[/name_f], which is exactly my dad’s mom’s name (I was named after her, [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] [name_f]Anne[/name_f])
I’m really nervous to tell my family since my mom has been pestering me that I should name my first daughter after her (both me and my sister are named after our parent’s moms) and I think my mom expects me to follow the tradition. But the problem is that my husband doesn’t like either my mom’s first or middle name ([name_f]Laurel[/name_f] [name_f]Jeanine[/name_f]) and it’s not that I don’t want to name a kid after my mom, it’s that I just feel like I should name my first daughter after my granny [name_f]Judith[/name_f], and the middle name is named after me. My mom doesn’t understand why I’d want to name my kid after myself when I’ve brought the idea of having my girl with either [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u] or [name_f]Anne[/name_f] as a middle.
Anyway, how can I bring this up gently to her to try and minimize the freak out? I don’t want her to be angry at me for something that’s entirely mine and [name_m]Josh[/name_m]'s decision. (She’s had a poor history with me when I was naming my sons ((she insisted that both my boys have the named after my dad)) where she tried to manipulate me into using the names that she liked.) [name_m]How[/name_m] can I be brave??
HELP!