My name does not fit

Girl Names
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My nameberry name, a top guilty pleasure I use on here, is [name]Mehri[/name].
My real name doesn’t fit. It is a lovely name, but it feels wrong. The second part isn’t a good nickname [name]IMO[/name], and the first part gives me Madi. Maddee, [name]Maddie[/name], [name]Maddy[/name], Madsy, Midi. I even tried [name]Madge[/name]. All the misspellings and variations I know, but it still isn’t right for me.
But not so long ago, I was reading a book, and a character’s name was [name]Frankie[/name]. I thought nothing of it, but then I was thinking of the book a few days ago, and it hit me. [name]Frankie[/name] is the perfect name for me.
After some careful thought, and lots of Nameberry searching, I found the name [name]Becca[/name]. [name]Frankie[/name] and [name]Becca[/name] are both names which work well with my possible new last name (I’m considering changing it to St. [name]Lawrence[/name]), and [name]Francesca[/name] and [name]Rebecca[/name] are both lovely names. Neither are on my family tree, as far as I know, but they seem so perfect.
To me, [name]Frankie[/name] is slightly rebellious and daredevil but can also be kind and friendly. The name seems to be mine already.
[name]Becca[/name] sounds tough but cool, the kind of name a sassy lawyer might wear, although the words ‘sassy’ and ‘lawyer’ should not be next to each other in a sentence. Either name would be an improvement on the current one.
[name]Mehri[/name] is my favorite guilty pleasure name, but I could never use it. It isn’t from my culture, and although I love it on here, it would not work in the real world.
[name]Genevieve[/name] is my favorite name, which I also considered, but I couldn’t see myself as a [name]Genevieve[/name]. To me, [name]Genevieve[/name] is a pretty, quiet, intellligent girl with soft brown hair and big puppy dog eyes. I cannot see a grown [name]Genevieve[/name], and it wouldn’t work for all of these reasons.
However, I think [name]Becca[/name] or [name]Frankie[/name] ([name]Rebecca[/name] or [name]Francesca[/name] on legal papers and at work) could be women. [name]Rebecca[/name] St. [name]Lawrence[/name]. [name]Becca[/name] St. [name]Lawrence[/name]. [name]Francesca[/name] St. [name]Lawrence[/name]. [name]Frankie[/name] St. [name]Lawrence[/name]. They just sound like me.
So, in your opinion, would [name]Becca[/name] or [name]Frankie[/name] be a better name?
And can you please, please share your story if you have changed a first or last name? The change may not follow through, and I may just continue as a Madi or use my full name.
[name]Every[/name] member of Nameberry is a wonderful person, and if it does work out, I’m sure I will find support here.
Thank you!

  • [name]Mehri[/name]
    (maybe a [name]Becca[/name] or [name]Frankie[/name] soon)
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I prefer [name]Francesca[/name] St [name]Lawrence[/name] (nn [name]Frankie[/name]) to [name]Rebecca[/name] St [name]Lawrence[/name]. I agree that [name]Frankie[/name] is “slightly rebellious and daredevil but can also be kind and friendly” as you stated in your post. I can envision a [name]Rebecca[/name]/[name]Becca[/name] as “kind and friendly” but the phrase “rebellious daredevil” wouldn’t even cross my mind when I think about a [name]Rebecca[/name]. [name]Every[/name] [name]Rebecca[/name] I’ve known as been sweet and perky (think [name]Rebecca[/name] of Sunnybrook Farm). :slight_smile: Good luck in your new name search.

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Aww, sweetie, I feel for you. I grew up hating my name, too. I didn’t think it was me, I hated that it was so generic and popular (oddly, I remember liking that my name was popular, too, but I remember hating it, too? I had very strange thoughts as a little kid, haha!) and that my MN–[name]Marie[/name]–was so filler (and I hated the connection to [name]Marie[/name] [name]Antoinette[/name]!). I had promised my family since I was little (ever since I knew people could change their names!) that I would, and then I fell in love with my name. ugh, it was so disappointing! I was so excited about going through, looking for the perfect name for me, and then one day, I just saw the name [name]Ashley[/name], and I was like, “Wow, that’s a really nice name.” And then I was like, “Wow, that’s my name.” lol. And then I was like, “Wow, [name]Ashley[/name] really fits me.” So I was like, well, forget that. :confused: I still have some issues with my name–I hate that it’s unisex (it’s my uncle’s MN, and his brother’s FN), and I feel like that’s held back my femininity. I’ve grown up loving to wear dresses (so much so that other kids in my class thought I was weird for wearing dresses every day. Oh, well, haha), still do, I’m not a girly-girl, but I’m not a tomboy at all, either. I feel like I would be much more girly/feminine if my mind wasn’t freaked out by my psyche because I share a name with my uncle. :confused: That, and [name]Ashley[/name]… well, it’s a nice name, but I feel like I want to reinvent myself sometimes. Like [name]Ashley[/name], how boring. Thousands of girls were named [name]Ashley[/name]. I want to be something interesting and glamorous and fun! Not [name]Ashley[/name]. haha. But everything I could use as a nn doesn’t really suit me at all. For those reasons, I reconsidered changing my name about a year ago, and had a top four I thought was quite close to suiting me ([name]Eleanor[/name], [name]Lillian[/name], [name]Annabel[/name], and [name]Hannah[/name]), but ultimately I decided against it. I’m [name]Ashley[/name], and I don’t need something flashy or frilly to make me more fun, feminine, or interesting. Besides, I’m sort of a boring person, haha, so [name]Ashley[/name] suits me pretty well.

Hopefully you can find something that suits you and you’re happy with. A lot of people will grow into their name, to grow to like it, like I did, and a lot of people still hate their name but won’t go about changing it. There are a lot of people who post about changing their name, but I’ve never seen a ton of people who go through with it and have actually done it. Maybe it just takes a long time to decide what to use, and they never really post that they’ve done it, and they’re now _____ or whatever. But I do know a lot of people get a lot of flack for considering changing their name. My sister threatened to never talk to me again if I used a pseudonym if I ever got published (nevermind if I actually changed my name!)–she was joking–I think–but I could still tell that she didn’t want me changing my name–to her, I was and always will be [name]Ashley[/name].

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I’ve had my name for enough years now to know that it isn’t the one for me. You said you liked wearing dresses- I’m not girly, my style is interesting (really dark jeans, a brown jacket, boot but not uggs, always an unexpected accessory and dangerously styled hair), but my favorite color is still hot pink. [name]Even[/name] though this is the case, I really am a tomboy. I think [name]Frankie[/name] and [name]Becca[/name] could both suit this.
Thank you so much. It was nice to hear that you rediscovered your name, ash.

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I think [name]Frankie[/name] and [name]Becca[/name] suit your personality. I, personally, want to change my name too, but I’m still a teenager and can’t find something that fits, but if you’re willing to go through with the paperwork and have found a name that ‘fits’, do it.

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I thought I did, too–it took until I was 24 to realize [name]Ashley[/name] really was my name and it wasn’t going to change. I don’t know how old you are, but who knows. I certainly didn’t expect it. I’m not saying [name]Maddie[/name] really is for you, I’m just saying it might be. People can be extremely hostile to people who want to change their name–my experience was under the radar so I never really experienced it, but I’ve heard horrible stories about reactions from others. I’m sure you’re not taking this lightly–I’m just saying. You know. Friendly fyi and all. :slight_smile:

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I’ve hated my name for years. I can remember announcing at age seven that I’d change my name on my eighteenth birthday. My parents laughed and said I would love it when I was older.

Fast forward almost eight years and nothing has changed. Wanting to change my name has fueled my love of names, and I’ve searched for ‘the name’ for years. But I believe I have found it in [name]Lucy[/name] (though I’m still considering and pushing for [name]Eliza[/name]).

For more of a rebellious feel, I prefer the spelling [name]Rebekah[/name]. Although this is the original Biblical version, the name has been integrated enough into the culture to make it easily wearable for anyone. Bekah or Beka is way spunkier than [name]Becca[/name].

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Not to de-rail your thread, but @aurra [name]Lucy[/name] is very nice, esp if you keep your current name as the middle and “correct” the pronunciation back to ‘ren.’

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[name]Ash[/name]; that’s exactly why I think people should wait until their mid-twenties to decide on things like this. A lot of things falls into place at that time, like acceptance of who you are!

[name]Merry[/name]; I think [name]Becca[/name] is quite lovely. It’s difficult to know as I don’t know you though.