So I found out a close family friend named her daughter [name]Amelia[/name]. Which is an absolutely lovely name, a name I would consider as a back-up love, a name that’s classic and would have been an option for me, however now it’s not. BUT, the real issue I feel now is that it feels like all names similar to [name]Amelia[/name] are out of the running now too, which counts out many, many wonderful Am— names, like [name]Amelie[/name], [name]Amabel[/name], [name]Amalia[/name], [name]Amoret[/name] etc etc I love Am— names in general. I think only other berries might understand this, for me, it would be like a close friend using [name]Emily[/name], and then I would feel the need to cross off the rest of the [name]Em[/name]-- set from possibility (Like [name]Emma[/name], [name]Emmeline[/name], [name]Ember[/name], etc) I even feel [name]Amelia[/name] may have cancelled out some [name]Em[/name]-- names too!!
Has anyone else encountered this? I just feel any of these types of names are off limits now because they are all so similar in sound and have many common nicknames, thoughts? Stories? Condolences? Maybe I’m too crazy even for a berry haha. What makes you decide when a name is a no-go??
(Note: None of these names were officially on my some-day list, but so close, and now it just feels like a loss…)
Sorry to hear that [name]Amelia[/name] is no longer any option for you in the future. I still think [name]Amabel[/name] and [name]Amoret[/name] are usable. I think they’re different enough from [name]Amelia[/name].
But I think even [name]Amelie[/name] is still usable. The others are fine ad their vibe is different & they’re at a different popularity level imo.
I think since you don’t share a surname even [name]Emilia[/name] is fine.
I understand wanting a name that is distinct among your friend’s children, but [name]Amelia[/name] isn’t uncommon so two Amelias isn’t strange to me. [name]Araminta[/name] on the other hand would be off my list if a friend used it since where I am located it’s incredibly uncommon and probably would’ve been chosen at least in part for it’s unique quality.
My best friend has a [name]Violet[/name] but I still have [name]Veronica[/name] on my list and I don’t rule out flower names. My other best friend has an [name]Olive[/name] & I still would consider [name]Lavinia[/name]. I think if I ruled out sounds & variants based on my friends kids I would be hard pressed to find anything usable.
Unless a friend had [name]Amelia[/name] & I gave birth in the following weeks…that might rule out things like [name]Amelie[/name] & even [name]Cecilia[/name]!
I’m like you. I could never use a name that a friend or family member already used, which is why I’m on the fence with [name]Flora[/name] because I have niece named [name]Nora[/name]. The rhyming aspect just bothers me. We only see her like 1 or 2 times a year, but I just can’t get over the fact it rhymes. [name]Flora[/name] is only an option if we ever have two girls, then I wouldn’t feel like we were copying.
I wish it weren’t that way but I feel the same as you. It feels like you liked their names so much you selected the next runner up. Hopefully you aren’t in need to make a selection right away, that way you have time to fall in love with new names! But I completely understand your pain
Another reason, I didn’t initially want to mention, was that her baby was born with a rather severe disability, and a similar name to her name, could end up very confusing for the child herself in the future, and I would hate to hurt the mother, or be distasteful by using the same or a very similar name, because then there would be two Amelias, or [name]Amelia[/name]/[name]Amelie[/name]/etc, and I know most people wouldn’t admit it, but there would be “[name]Amelia[/name] with …” and [name]Amelia[/name] that’s healthy and etc in some peoples minds. I know the same thing occurs when people in my family talk about [name]Lucas[/name], my nephew, who is healthy, and [name]Lucas[/name] my cousins son who also has a disability. No one ever says it to the parents, but I have heard the reference. (It’s awful and I do not condone it, but when people are trying to get you to know who they are talking about in any situation, they use defining features and etc, like “[name]Shelby[/name] with the blonde hair” but worse)
for me it depends how close i am with the friend/family member that used the name and how often my child would be interacting with their child.
for instance, my cousin gave birth to a daughter recently and named her [name]Charlotte[/name]. my cousin and i aren’t close and it’s unlikely our children would see each other more than a couple times a year so i would still use [name]Charlotte[/name] as a middle name, which is all i had ever considered it for anyway.
another cousin has a son named [name]Will[/name], i’m closer to that cousin but we live about 6 hours apart so our children still wouldn’t interact often. i wouldn’t name a future son [name]Will[/name] (it’s not my style) but one of my favorite girl names is [name]Willa[/name], and i would still use that.
but if you love a name and it fits your child then you should use it even if you know 5 other kids with the same name.
