Time and time again I see a post usually from a new berry who heads up the the thread with something like “I NEED HELP NOW!!”
I love to help nameberries and it is a pleasure to spend my time helping them IF they plan on replying to the thread. Countless times I have answered a thread usually with a desperate heading only to find that the OP never replies to the thread.
So, please if you need help stick around to answer the thread - even to say thanks but no thanks. I am getting tired of timewasters.
[name]Do[/name] any of the other berries agree with me?
I’ve been on nameberry for long, but I have also noticed this. I usually look through the treads I have posted in to see what the OP have liked or not liked. I have to say it’s frustrating when the thread has quite a few posts, and the OP doesn’t reply back.
I too think this is rude. I’m also new, and have been diligently checking back on the threads I’ve started, even if just to say thanks for the input! Also, I’m a little wary of the posts that scream EMERGENCY! Is it really an emergency? Are there really THAT many naming emergencies out there?
Doesn’t bother me. I’ve posted on other websites for advice/suggestions and have read the responses but didn’t have anything to say back, so I didn’t. Yes, it’d be nice to be thanked for your help but not really necessary.
Thank you to geauxtee, tintri and melissaintlouis for your comments, it is interesting to see that it isn’t just the ‘old nameberries’ who are noticing this trend.
I would be very interested in hearing from all the other nameberries too.
I can never find the posts that I’ve commented on tbh! So, it doesn’t bother me. But I agree that it’s polite to say thank you when someone has helped you out with a problem!
When you log on go to Forums, on the rhs of the page you will see your username click onto that and on the page look to the left hand side of the page and it will say Find latest posts click onto that and you can see the posts that you have started or commented on.
Personally I don’t care if the OP never replies…I mean its the internet and as much as society attempts to apply mainstream manners to the internet, the simple fact of the matter is that on a forum you are anonymous and faceless (hence, normal manners are difficult to apply). Is it annoying? Sure. Am I guilty of this? Probably. Is it rude? Perhaps. But I do have to say, I think that I’m cruising pretty well when this is the biggest annoyance in my life! (You may notice that even now I am being ruder than I would be if this conversation was occurring at a dinner party). I just don’t think it matters all that much if the original poster doesn’t reply. Usually the forums turn into a discussion anyway which continues for the enjoyment of everyone else who contributes. I am adding this smiley face because reading back…I sound quite opinionated and snarky =D…but then…you did ask for opinions.
Sometimes I can tell people put a lot of time and thought into their replies and offer really appropriate suggestions. I guess I am less annoyed at posters who do not reply than I am at trolls who are faking the whole thing. Nameberry is gathering a reputation for housing fakers. For that reason, it would be nice if the original poster would reply, and become a member of the community, as cheesy as that sounds, so I would know it’s a real person!
I’ve been around here for a long time, and a lot of other boards – mostly as a lurker. It’s definitely not a new thing for people to not respond to replies, but that doesn’t make it any less slightly irritating
(I feel kinda like a cheeseball, but I just realized I’ve been doing name boards since, oh, about '96-‘97! Good ol’ AOL.)
ETA: I do feel like people back in the earlier days of name message boards were more responsive and conclusive about the help they received, but it may have also been because it was the advent of commercial internet, and people hadn’t yet learned that it was okay to be e-barbarians.
Honestly one of the things that I love about nameberry is its manners. I would not stay for a minute if there was a culture of internet rudeness on nameberry, although this year I have seen a rise in odd behaviour is that a troll? I don’t know. I just can’t understand people who come here with urgent requests only to disappear into thin air. What is that all about?
I think it’s annoying but it’s no different then someone not replying to a suggestion you make in another thread. I do admit the threads never seem to go anywhere because of the lack of the OP’s input but I dont find it offensive, it’s just a boring, waste of my time.
I agree that it is slightly annoying, especially when there are many posters who come and offer great suggestions. It does make one feel as though you’ve wasted your time.
It doesn’t bother me…only, I get so curious! I always wonder what name the person ends up choosing, if mine or another [name]Berry[/name]'s suggestions helped them pick out a name or solve a naming dilemma, and how their whole story turned out! I guess when I read a post looking for suggestions and help, I get wrapped up in it, interested in the story they tell in their post, and I always wish I could know the outcome!
I always take time to say thank you and/or respond further when people have been kind enough to respond to my posts. So it does feel a bit rude when you take the time to write something and the OP doesn’t acknowledge it.
What I find even ruder though is when someone posts a name suggestion and people reply with “that’s ridiculous” or “I hate that” it’s just disrespectful and unecessary. I have read names on here that have made me raise my eyebrows but I have enough good grace not to try and mock or make the other person feel bad about it. I wish everyone else did too.
Hey [name]Rollo[/name]! I’ve always thought about this too. I’m not as active as I was in the past so I don’t have that many posts that I am following, but when I make suggestions, I do usually go back to that thread to see other posts after mine.
In these “Emergency Help me! I’m due tomorrow” situations – I really don’t understand why the person does not come back. They are obviously on a short time frame and up against a deadline! Its not like months have gone by and they forget their log-in info.
For people who are just trying out some names, potential sibling sets, new name crushes, etc … I think it’s fine that they don’t reply or acknowledge each post. After all, there is not really an end-result for these situations.
So, I think there are just two types of posts. I find it suspicious when the “emergencies” don’t resolve. Like someone else said… is it really a true emergency? [name]Do[/name] people really wait until the day before they are due to START thinking about names? (I can definitely see being down to a handful and just wanting more opinions on them). Anyway, those are my, as usual, long rambling thoughts.
I don’t stress about it too much, but it is a pet peeve
