[name_m]Hi[/name_m] momberries! Hoping you can help me with some name angst. DD2 is almost 8 mos, named [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] and have been calling her “[name_f]Cate[/name_f]”. DD1 is [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] “[name_f]Eliza[/name_f]” [name_u]Rae[/name_u]. I am not sure what it is, but [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] “[name_f]Cate[/name_f]” doesn’t seem to fit. [name_f]My[/name_f] reservations about it have been that I know many people with the name, it’s boring, has a “royal” association; I got over it by thinking it is so common that there are no insurmountable associations and I don’t know many who spell it with a C. It took us very long to decide; our original choice was [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] but DH has two coworkers who recently used it so it seemed too popular. We considered many options (runner-up was [name_f]Lillian[/name_f] but in hospital I had a strong preference for [name_f]Catherine[/name_f])… it was DH’s favorite, my mom’s favorite, went well with DD1’s name. But now I feel strange using it.
I am considering calling her by her middle name instead because it is much less common (also love the nickname “[name_u]Lou[/name_u]” which feels fresher), but would have to deal with telling everyone the change, confusing DD1 who is only 2yo, and it is very similar to my first name. I still have angst over DD1’s name, which took a long time to get used to, and I wonder if it just the same mistake made twice: first names chosen mainly for practicality and middles chosen for fun. Feeling like we should have just swapped first and middles!
DH thinks I am crazy (I probably am) but is supportive of doing whatever would help me overcome the angst. He expressed opinions throughout the naming process but ultimately left the decisions up to me. He loves the mn also. What do you think I should do? Thank you for reading and your thoughts. x