My brother in law and sister in law are expecting their first child in [name_u]November[/name_u] and have changed the name of the if it is a girl. They want to name her [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] [name_m]Hayes[/name_m] and call her [name_m]Hayes[/name_m].
My wife and I are very weird that we already have our first four kids’ names picked out. We only want 3, but have 4 because when we have multiple of whatever gender we already have names picked out. For our second daughter, we picked [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f].
Would you have a problem choosing that name if they name their daughter [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] [name_m]Hayes[/name_m]? My wife doesn’t want to have two kids named the same, but they will be calling her by her middle name. This is years away from even knowing if we will ever have a second girl and if they will have a girl at all.
I think it depends on how close you are, how often you will see them and if they really will call her [name_m]Hayes[/name_m] her whole life or if they occasionally want to call her [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]. Maybe you could tell them you had that name picked out and see what they think? However if you decide you can’t both use the name, I do think they have more of a ‘right’ to it if they are currently expecting; and by the time you are ready for [name_u]Baby[/name_u] #2, you might have changed your choices anyway.
We might see them once or twice a year. We aren’t too close to them. They live in [name_u]North[/name_u] [name_f]Carolina[/name_f] and we live in [name_u]Texas[/name_u].
Since this is years from now. I think you don’t have to worry about it now. Your name choices might change. You might find something you love more than [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]! No point in worrying about it now. Maybe you can do a variation like [name_f]Eliza[/name_f], [name_f]Elsa[/name_f], or [name_f]Elise[/name_f]?
If it was me, I would still use the name I loved even if someone I know got to it first. You can’t claim a name, but it really depends on how you feel about the situation. Would it cause a fight? Would you be thought of has a copycat? Are you prepared for that? Or would no one care? It’s up to you, only you know your family and know how you feel.
But don’t worry about it now, worry about it when you are having a girl and you still like the name [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f].