[name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I have had such a hard time agreeing on a name so we are desperate. I love the name [name_f]Julia[/name_f] and he likes it. However, his ex before me (13 years ago) was named just [name_f]Lia[/name_f]. I have been trying to find the perfect name for our daughter (I know perfect does not exist) and I wasn’t sure if I only noticed this because I have been obsessing over finding the right name? Would anyone else make this connection? I have not brought this up to my husband because I don’t want to plant the seed in his mind in case he doesn’t connect [name_f]Julia[/name_f] with [name_f]Lia[/name_f]. I still love the name [name_f]Julia[/name_f] and would consider naming my daughter that. Now I’m just paranoid they are similar. Am I over thinking this and it’s not a big deal or should I let go of the name [name_f]Julia[/name_f]? Thank you so much!
it’s been thirteen years, not one or two. so it really doesn’t matter imo. i doubt anyone’s gonna make that connection.
unless, of course, it was a long-term, serious relationship. but if it was just a teenage relationship or something, i don’t see why you should worry about it. however, you should definitely mention it to him, as it was his ex rather than yours and his opinion would be valuable in this situation.
maybe you’d like juliet instead?
I don’t think it’s that big a deal! Julia and Lia feel like very different names to me, and 13 years is a long time. If it bugs you though, I think Juliet or Juliette are great alternatives!!
If you were comparing [name_f]Elle[/name_f] to [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] I would see a connection, but to me those names are different enough that I don’t think it’s a big deal! If your husband has concerns then choose a different name but if he hasn’t made the connection yet I don’t think he will. I agree with others, you could also go for [name_f]Juliet[/name_f] or [name_u]Julianne[/name_u] instead
It would never occur to me to associate [name_f]Julia[/name_f] and [name_f]Lia[/name_f]. They’re completely separate names to me, and the first-syllable stress of [name_f]Julia[/name_f] means I don’t even really hear the similarity even now you’ve drawn my attention to it.
If you both like the name, go for it! [name_f]Julia[/name_f] is stunning, one of my favourite classics and so chic and fresh still.
I think making a connection there is a stretch. If the ex was named [name_u]Julie[/name_u], Julianne/a, or Juliet/te I might hesitate, but [name_f]Julia[/name_f] and [name_f]Lia[/name_f] don’t remind me of each other.
I don’t think that anyone will make the connection between the two names, except you. Is it something you can live with or will it just play at the back of your mind?
I think it’s a really pretty name. Good luck x
I think if it because you or it was a thought to you I would personally scrap it. You may just associate the name with [name_f]Lia[/name_f] even though it might be a stretch
There is some compromise or similar names
[name_f]Juliet[/name_f]
[name_u]Julianne[/name_u]
[name_f]Julienne[/name_f]
[name_u]July[/name_u]
[name_u]Juniper[/name_u]
[name_f]Julianna[/name_f]
[name_f]Juliette[/name_f]
[name_f]Julietta[/name_f]
Thank you everyone! Yes I love just [name_f]Julia[/name_f]. Our list that we actually agree on is very small so I am hoping that this silly connection will fade. I feel so much better hearing from you all that it is a stretch. Maybe this is the reassurance to let it go and this connection will fade also.
Since it’s been such a long time and he hasn’t even mentioned it while you’ve been considering it, I think it’s fine. The Ju- sound of [name_f]Julia[/name_f] is really distinctive and has a very different vibe 
I think it’s fine
[name_f]Julia[/name_f] would never make me think of [name_f]Lia[/name_f]. They aren’t that similar - dozens of names end in [name_f]Lia[/name_f] so it isn’t a distinct feature of [name_f]Julia[/name_f]. If the ex was [name_f]Juliet[/name_f] or [name_u]Julie[/name_u] I’d say maybe, but in this case it seems totally fine no matter how “serious” his relationship with [name_f]Lia[/name_f] was.
If your husband hasn’t brought it up by now, it obviously doesn’t bother him. And I’d never connect [name_f]Lia[/name_f] to [name_f]Julia[/name_f].