See the results of this poll: Daughter’s name should be…
Respondents: 86 (This poll is closed)
- Mary Josephine : 21 (23%)
- Mary Louisa Josephine : 59 (66%)
- Mary Josephine Louisa: 10 (11%)
Respondents: 86 (This poll is closed)
So sorry to hear about all the aggravation you are experiencing. It is so sad that something that should be joyous is turning into chaos for you.
I voted for [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f], it is absolutely fabulous and if you want a second middle name for your little girl than you should be able to give her a second middle name.
I agree with you that next time just tell the people who need to know to put it on the birth certificate. [name_f]My[/name_f] DH and I are currently TTC our first and have already decided we won’t be telling family the name until the baby gets here.
[name_f]My[/name_f] opinion is to go with [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f]. Since you had already agreed to [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f], I feel like the only way that [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] should be included is as the second middle name. I understand your frustration that you want the name in there, but at the same time I can understand why he would be angry that you want to put the name you like in the middle spot after accepting [name_f]Josephine[/name_f]. [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] seems like a win-win to me; you get the name you want and more peace in the family.
Also, I’ve known people who have nicknames that aren’t even close to their given names. You could always continue to call her [name_f]Louisa[/name_f].
[name_u]Ever[/name_u] thought about [name_f]Mary[/name_f]-[name_u]Lou[/name_u]? In all its spelling variations [name_f]Marylou[/name_f], [name_f]Marilou[/name_f], [name_f]Mary[/name_f]-[name_u]Lou[/name_u], [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_u]Lou[/name_u].
I know you weren’t thinking of double barreling but I figured I’d suggest this as [name_f]Marylou[/name_f] is a known combo name and [name_f]Marylou[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] would hit all the criteria.
I think you’re already compromising by putting [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] in the middle, and that it’s unfair of your husband to be so opposed to [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] when he got to pick her first name! Personally, I think [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] sounds timeless and elegant. Best of luck with this difficult situation!
[name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] is a thousand times better than [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f].
[name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] is so pretty, i dont think its that big of an issue.
I voted [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f], really like the sound of this combination.
Fighting over your babies name is not really the best start when bonding as a family, especially when other family members an friends start to give their opinions and get angry or upset when they don’t like your choices
We have 14 kids, so a lot of naming experience.
In my husbands family we had naming traditions (always naming after grandfather, father, uncles, and paternal side of the family was more important than maternal side, my father in law had strict rules for naming his children and grandchildren)
We didn’t follow these rules and had some really angry conversations with some family members (my own family didn’t mind, as long as we chose a name we loved) We chose names we both liked, and only biblical/Hebrew names for both first and middle names.
If we had followed the ‘rules’ the children would have had different names, following ‘proper tradition’ most likely
We originally came from a very religious community, and some women had no say at all in the naming process. This has caused a lot of tears with some mothers for example: [name_m]Cain[/name_m], [name_m]Abel[/name_m], [name_m]Esau[/name_m], [name_m]Jacob[/name_m] & [name_f]Delilah[/name_f].
A friend wanted to name her children [name_m]Edward[/name_m], [name_f]Rebecca[/name_f], [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] and got [name_m]Eddy[/name_m], [name_f]Becky[/name_f], [name_m]Jimmy[/name_m] & [name_u]Joey[/name_u].
and her brother in law did the same thing to his wife and named the kids [name_f]Dora[/name_f], [name_u]Dana[/name_u], [name_f]Lottie[/name_f], [name_f]Suzy[/name_f] & [name_u]Danny[/name_u] ([name_f]Suzy[/name_f] was named after the mother’s twin sister, her husband was a jealous pig)
I love the names of my children and would have been quite unhappy if we had to follow the traditional naming pattern.
[name_m]Long[/name_m] story here, but it’s very important to choose names YOU and you husband like, if other family liked another name then they should have used that name themselves or get a pet and name it whatever they like.
[name_m]Nathan[/name_m] always gave me first choice in names since I’m the one giving birth (his way in honoring me as mother to his children) We always chose names together and never (really) disagreed on any of them. I did choose [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f] without him, and he loves her name a lot, [name_f]Grace[/name_f] wasn’t something he would have chosen but he loves it as a middle name for [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] (I’m not even sure why I chose it, somehow it just seemed to ‘fit’)
Good luck and I hope everything works out for the best
[name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] does sound the best but really [name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] is really pretty too…honestly I’d go for whatever gives you the most peace.
Thank you everyone for all of your insight. Really you’ve brought up all excellent points and I feel better knowing others have gone through this as well (and you have my sympathies). I’ve made my opinion known with my husband and am going to take until early next week to finalize my decision while we both calm down about this. I think the single middle name is out for me so just deciding whether to put the [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] first or second as a middle name. Or maybe double barrel the [name_f]Mary[/name_f] and [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] as first names if that compromise works out better. [name_m]Will[/name_m] update you all when we decide. Liking the poll in my favor ; ) Maybe I will share the results with my husband. Thank you!
p.s.- I’m leaning toward Mary Louisa Josephine unless you think the aunt will be offended or hurt; If you think she will please chime in, then I’ll settle for Louisa tacked on the end.
[name_f]Mary[/name_f] [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] has the best flow!
Good luck!