I posted on nameberry about 7 months ago stating that I had some major name regret over naming our second child, [name]Adelaide[/name] [name]Lauren[/name] (we call her [name]Addy[/name]). Everyone here reassured me that it was a beautiful name and that I shouldn’t change it. Unfortunately those thoughts have come and gone and now my daughter is 14 months and I still can’t seem to shake it.
I know a lot of it has to do with the fact that I wasn’t super connected to her during my pregnancy (although hard to admit). I had a scare at 25 weeks where I thought I was going to lose the pregnancy. I also dealt with low fluid levels at the end which made me worry a lot about her health. I was induced early because of it and wasn’t completely prepared. Thankfully she was born without any complications, but I think all the worry throughout the pregnancy made it hard for me to connect with her when she was born.
While waiting for her to be born, I had my long list of names written down on a piece of paper in my hand. My husband loved the name [name]Adelaide[/name] throughout my pregnancy (while I loved [name]Olivia[/name]) and when I saw him hold her for the first time and his face light up with love - I thought that is what she should be named. Her middle name, [name]Lauren[/name], is after my mom and I have absolutely no regrets about that. Anyway, now I have become obsessed with finding the “perfect” name for our third child and we haven’t officially started TTC yet (although we plan to soon). I’ve obviously been using this as a distraction to my real issue and I know it’s not helping.
A few people commented in my last post that maybe I was going through some post partum issues. I don’t think that was/is the case. It’s more about regret to me. If I could go back to the day she was born, I would have taken more time to decide - more time to bond. I love my daughter so very much, I just wished I loved her name. My amazing husband supports me and just wants me to be happy. So, what would you do? Accept it for what it is and move forward or consider changing it? I would love some unbiased perspective.
Thanks for the help.