Do any of you have name regrets? I am regretting my baby’s name. What did you do if you did? Did you eventually feel your baby fit her name? Thanks 
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I change my mind on [name_u]Sloane[/name_u] [name_f]Edith[/name_f]
So I don’t have any personal experience with this but I know what I would do in this situation. How old is you daughter? Because if she is under the age of 1 then I would definetly change it. You child will barely remember being called something different and it will be fairly easier to teach your baby its new name. Anything older than 1 then it would be harder but still doable I guess. How much do you not like your daughter’s name? You don’t want her to grow up and not like her name. Everytime you call her you don’t want to feel weird or guilty. When you write her name down you want to like it. When you introduce her to other people you want to feel proud of her name. I think it would be better to change it while you can so you don’t regret her name in the future. This is coming from someone who hasn’t been in the actual position but this is what I would do. Hope it helps!
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I have not been in this position, but my advice would be to think about why you regret it. Have you noticed a negative association or issue with the name? [name_f]Do[/name_f] you just not like the sound anymore? [name_u]Or[/name_u] do you think the name doesn’t fit her?
If it’s something like the people who named their daughter [name_f]Liz[/name_f] [name_f]Anya[/name_f] (lasagna) and didn’t realize it until their family pointed it out, I’d say definitely change it.
If it’s just that you’re not sure you like it anymore, I’d say it would really depend on how much you don’t like it. Changing a baby’s name shouldn’t be taken lightly, since they do start to recognize their name pretty early on, and obviously you can’t just keep changing it. So if it’s a situation where you weren’t sure about the name before and now found the perfect name you really love, then maybe consider changing it, but definitely do it ASAP so it isn’t too confusing for the baby and your family. Also keep in mind that changing their name right from the beginning will automatically provide them with a legal alias, which can make their life slightly more difficult in the future on paperwork and such. But if it’s a matter of hating their name then it may be worth it. It’s so hard to say, so weigh the pros and cons to changing it and go with what you believe will be the best decision for her. Ultimately as a parent it should be about what’s best for her.
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Hello
Firstly I’m so sorry your experiencing baby name regret that’s such a difficult emotion to deal with.
I had my daughter [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] on 3rd [name_u]February[/name_u] 2021 and as soon as she was born I felt like [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] was her name. I had decided her name was [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] before she was born but had some last minute doubts on the day of my planned c section. However when she was born I was like yep she’s [name_f]Lilia[/name_f]. Fast forward 2 months later life returning to normality I’m able to drive again and just do normal stuff I started feeling name regret which I now realised was caused by others. [name_m]Just[/name_m] whenever I said her name to strangers I was always met with odd looks/comments which just weren’t welcomed. No one just said oh that’s nice & moved on. After that I started bombarding the berries about her name along with my friends & family trying to get some reassurance that I did the right thing. I considered changing her name discussed it with my OH, friends & family but no one was behind the change. In the end to try and figure out my thoughts on [name_f]Lilia[/name_f], my emotions surrounding the name & see what triggered my baby name regret I made a pro & cons list about the name. This list really helped me work out how I was feeling about [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] and I realised that it was others (strangers) making me not like [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] and in fact I absolutely love the name so I should stick with it. Obviously me changing her name would be silly if the only reason is because Strangers struggle with it! Now I’m really loving her name and can’t imagine her being called anything else. But honestly that baby name regret is such a horrible feeling.
Anyways personally I feel you can definitely change your child’s name as long as the child is under one as the child won’t remember being called x and therefore won’t affect them.
I think you need to figure out what is it about that name your not liking. Maybe a pros & cons list could work for you or alternatively write down all your emotions surrounding the name. I think something like that will definitely help but honestly if you feel the name you’ve chosen isn’t right don’t feel guilty just change the name to the right one. You could always use her current name as a middle name.
Good luck with it all x
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I did have name regret for about six months after I named one of my daughters. And then I did some research on her name and started looking in the Latin and the Greek and all of these things have many many years and years back and I found an original beautiful meaning to it that fit so perfectly. And I’ve never regretted it since. That’s just my story.
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I think my problem is exactly what you are describing. I named her [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] and people sometimes pronounce it cassette, like cassette tape. I do like her name but I sort of wish I would have gone with something a little more simple. I really struggled to pick a name and I didn’t have one picked out. I ended up going into early labor so I just kind of picked that one out of the air. I think you made a good point to make a pros and cons list and then sort of decide from there.
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@Blueskyblue honestly other people suck! Choosing a baby name is so hard it’s such a huge responsibility and I really struggled I found the whole naming process hard which is annoying as I’m a name nerd and thought I would be loving life when it came to naming [name_f]Lilia[/name_f]. Firstly [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] is beautiful with great connotations such a lovely name! But people can butcher names even simple ones honestly Lilia’s name is constantly butchered it’s just lily with an a on the end not challenging at all yet for some reason it’s never pronounced correctly which was one of my issues with her name and the reason why I considered changing her name to something simpler. I’m glad now I didn’t people just need to learn how to say her name it’s not hard just like [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] isn’t. Anyways make that list and hopefully you’ll find the right solution. Also I sometimes just say her name is [name_f]Lily[/name_f] to make life easier maybe you could say [name_u]Coco[/name_u] or [name_f]Etta[/name_f] to make yours easier.
Once again good luck
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[name_f]Lilia[/name_f] is a beautiful name 
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I understand baby name regret but I feel that a person makes the name rather than a name making the person. [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] is so so lovely. There are lots of cool nicknames you could use also if you felt that would be a good solution, Ette, [name_f]Ettie[/name_f], [name_f]Etta[/name_f], coco, cosy xx
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No name regret here but a different prospective.
Oh [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] is lovely. and the nn ‘Cosy’ is an adorable one. People may mispronounce it but people mispronounce my name, and my daughters all the time. galilee, they pronounce it guh-li-ly like the [name_f]Lily[/name_f], specifically the medical industry is really consistent on it. I would blame all of the uniquely spelled names making people say cassette. I just tell people no galilee like the sea and you can see the visual “I am an idiot” come over their face. Cosy [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] is lovely, just politely correct them with a smile and know your daughter will have a built in topic of discussion if she has any social anxiety like I did, it gave me something to talk about when maybe I need a moment to steel myself.
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We named our unborn babies [name_u]Owen[/name_u] and [name_f]Cordelia[/name_f]. These are names I’ve loved since first reading the [name_u]Anne[/name_u] of [name_u]Green[/name_u] Gables books as a young girl. Many years later, I had sadness about [name_u]Owen[/name_u] because I taught a student named that who was a complete jerk (and his mother too). Had [name_u]Owen[/name_u] gotten to be born, I might have been immune, and I do know a lot about how I picture our unborn [name_u]Owen[/name_u], but it did tarnish the name itself for me.
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People always mispronounce names, even simple ones. [name_f]My[/name_f] boyfriend’s name is [name_m]Tylor[/name_m] (pronounced just like Tyler). He constantly gets called [name_u]Taylor[/name_u], or people will spell it [name_u]Tyler[/name_u]. No matter how many times he corrects someone, it keeps happening. Since we’ve been trying to name our baby boy I was asking him if he ever wished his mom had named him something else, and he said no not at all. He said that when people get his name wrong he just gets annoyed with those people, not his own name or anything. Other people shouldn’t affect how you feel about the name you picked. It’s not their kid, so their opinions don’t matter. If you genuinely don’t like the name anymore, that’s totally fine, but just don’t let other people’s rudeness or stupidity change how you feel about a perfectly good name that you loved.
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[name_f]Beautiful[/name_f] advice! I could have written this myself. I struggled naming my second daughter and felt this intensely her first 6 months. I had so many strong emotions attached to my first daughter’s name that the second daughter’s name just didn’t sparkle in the same way. The pro/con list is a good idea. No one overthinks a child’s name like their own mother! Especially with those postpartum hormones. Best of luck. For me, it did settle in with time. [name_f]Hope[/name_f] it does for you too. [name_f]Cosette[/name_f] is lovely.
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Yes, the more I think about it my problem is mispronunciation. People can call her Co-sette and that is fine. Cassette is what gets me. I hated cassette tapes as a kid and I don’t want to think about all the times I had to wind up my spice girls tape with a pencil. Whenever someone says her name wrong that’s all I think about. Oh Lordy. I may just have to train my brain to get past that and maybe all that crazy stuff will go away with the post partum hormones. Thank you all for your responses. I needed some neutral ground where I could talk about this. Hearing that others had some pause after they named their baby but overcame it helps.
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Thank you! 