Name search is becoming exhausting! Need advice...

For weeks and weeks (and weeks) now, I have been searching for THE perfect name for my daughter. I have been spending endless hours on here and other sites, looking in books, tv and movie credits and any other source possible looking for a name. My husband hasn’t looked anywhere. If he hears a name he likes, then he tells me. And that’s all. [name]Just[/name] about every name I have given him, he has denied. I have adored so many names just to have him say no! I went from exotic, to Shakespearean, to popular, to Irish, to classic. I can’t find something that I really love and adore that we can both agree on. It has become an exhausting search. I feel that I’ve looked at almost every name out there, and still have come up empty handed. But I am still “addicted” to finding the perfect name, and even tho the names are spinning round and round in my head, I keep looking. There are only 2 names that we agree on at this point… [name]Anissa[/name] and [name]Cadence[/name]. I don’t [name]LOVE[/name] either one, but if I had to pick one it would be [name]Cadence[/name]. And of course, he would chose [name]Anissa[/name]!!! But I still feel like I need to keep looking b/c those names aren’t right.
I don’t know where to go with this anymore. I don’t want to give up, but I feel that I’m just wasting my time. Does anyone have any advice, please??? And thank you.

I’m sorry! But, you will find the perfect name. [name]Cadence[/name] and [name]Anisa[/name] aren’t quite right…


[name]Cerys[/name] means “to love,” maybe a good compromise middle name? [name]Esme[/name] also means “loved,” as do [name]Priya[/name] and [name]Suki[/name].

Good luck! You’ll find THE name.

Hmm, based on [name]Anissa[/name] and [name]Cadence[/name], I think something unusual but somewhat word-y. Some of these may be too hippie, but maybe some others will strike a chord.
Here are a few suggestions:
[name]Felicia[/name] or [name]Felicity[/name]

I know you will find something! If nothing else, the baby will help you, once you’ve met her!

[name]Just[/name] a few suggestions.
[name]Hope[/name] this helps.


No advice on names, really–I just wanted to offer sympathy, since I seem to be going through a similar chase for The Perfect Name (son #2). My husband has been very slow to look for and talk about names–our baby is due in a month–and one consolation is that the folks who post and reply here on nameberry are very smart, savvy, and tireless when it comes to considering names. Maybe if you post some of the girl names you love (even the ones your husband has nixed) then people will suggest some others in the same style that you (and he) might mutually love.

When is your daughter due? I’ve gone through cycles of being obsessive about finding The Right Name this pregnancy, but finally have stopped bugging my husband about names and am just letting all the choices we’ve discussed mull/settle for awhile. Might you be more likely to stumble upon the name if you aren’t searching? A few people have also suggested that we might not know the name of son #2 until he is born–which I’m not sure I’m entirely comfortable with believing (I’m a writer & I like to name my characters at the BEGINNING of a story. And we had our first son’s name picked out fairly early in the pregnancy), but the possibility of this actually does make me feel calmer and more patient.

Good luck–your daughter’s perfect name is out there, and you will find it :slight_smile:

I’m so sorry! :frowning: What is your husband’s naming style? It sounds like he’s dismissing every name you share with him, and that he’s dismissing your choices. If you compromise, I’m sure you can both find a name that encapsulates what you’re both looking for. [name]Don[/name]'t worry! :slight_smile:

[name]Alanna[/name], [name]Jacob[/name], and (names that remind me of [name]Anissa[/name] and [name]Cadence[/name]):

[name]Marissa[/name] (a bit dated, though)

I’m sure I’ve suggested these before, so I apologize for repeats.

[name]Just[/name] rest assured that you’ll find the perfect name. :slight_smile:

Take care!

Thank you ladies for your suggestions so far. But, believe it or not - he doesn’t like any of the names that have been advised so far. He is more of a popular or common name person. I’m actually quite surprised at him liking [name]Anissa[/name] and [name]Cadence[/name]. If this helps our sons names are [name]Jacob[/name] and [name]Justin[/name]. Our other daughter is [name]Alanna[/name], but that is only b/c I fought for that name until he caved (only b/c HIS family persuaded him to) when she was 3 days old. Otherwise he wanted [name]Layla[/name].
For this baby, he has suggested [name]Marissa[/name], [name]Anastacia[/name], [name]Riley[/name], [name]Abigail[/name], [name]Ariel[/name], [name]Summer[/name] and [name]Madalyn[/name] (generally within the top 100).
Whereas I prefer names like [name]Cailyn[/name], [name]Nayeli[/name], [name]Laurel[/name], [name]Seneca[/name], [name]Elsie[/name], [name]Taryn[/name], and Angelise (generally not even in the top 300)!

Oh, I forgot to add that when I put a spin on a name like [name]Summerlin[/name] instead of [name]Summer[/name], or [name]Ariella[/name] instead of [name]Ariel[/name]… trying to compromise, he won’t agree to that either!
Some of the names that he has picked are pretty, BUT I just don’t like how popular or trendy they are.

SloppyArt… btw, I’m due [name]Jan[/name]. 17, but we will be having a planned c-section either the 2nd or 3rd week of [name]December[/name] (@ 34 or 35 wks). I’m pushing for the 2nd week so we can try and get her home before [name]Christmas[/name] - my daughter [name]Alanna[/name] was in the NICU for 10 days (she was born @ 35 wks), and I’m afraid if we do it the 3rd week, she won’t be home before [name]Christmas[/name]

For this baby, he has suggested [name]Marissa[/name], [name]Anastacia[/name], [name]Riley[/name], [name]Abigail[/name], [name]Ariel[/name], [name]Summer[/name] and [name]Madalyn[/name] (generally within the top 100).
Whereas I prefer names like [name]Cailyn[/name], [name]Nayeli[/name], [name]Laurel[/name], [name]Seneca[/name], [name]Elsie[/name], [name]Taryn[/name], and Angelise (generally not even in the top 300)![/quote]

From his list, I love [name]Anastasia[/name], and from your list, I really love [name]Laurel[/name]. :slight_smile:






[name]Romilly[/name] (nn [name]Romy[/name] or [name]Milly[/name])
[name]Lily[/name] (super popular, though)








[name]Lauren[/name] (it feels dated to me, though)


[name]Anneliese[/name] (he loves [name]Anastasia[/name], and you love [name]Elsie[/name]/[name]Elise[/name])



I’m not personally a fan of “invented” names like [name]Summerlin[/name] and Angelise, but I understand that you’re trying to make your favorites appeal to your husband.

I’m thinking that you can find a legitimate name that meets both of your styles half-way, so that you can both be happy with the name.

His love of [name]Marissa[/name] and [name]Anastasia[/name] seem to most closely fit your more exotic style, so maybe you can use those names as a starting point. It sounds like each of you is going to have to give a little bit to meet in the middle.

I know you’ll find the pefect name! :slight_smile:

Good luck!

Okay, maybe some of these will appeal to him? I looked at medium-popular names (250-500 ish) and picked out ones that sound current / normal.

[name]Mallory[/name] (253)
[name]Cassandra[/name] (284)
[name]Aurora[/name] (288)
[name]Cynthia[/name] (310)
[name]Monica[/name] (317)
[name]Rose[/name] (344)
[name]Fiona[/name] (347)
[name]Rebekah[/name] (354)
[name]Serena[/name] (374)
[name]Holly[/name] (365) (too much for a [name]Christmas[/name] baby?)
[name]Bridget[/name] (394)
[name]Natasha[/name] (413)
[name]Meredith[/name] (445)
[name]Cara[/name] (463)
[name]Norah[/name] (476)
[name]Shannon[/name] (482)
[name]Rosemary[/name] (754)
[name]Lilia[/name] (932, but feels much higher because of the prevalence of [name]Lily[/name] names)

And I always like to suggest [name]Naomi[/name] (which is a bit higher, at 118) because it seems like it goes with everyone’s naming style, and it’s such a classic.

If you have [name]Jacob[/name], [name]Justin[/name], and [name]Alanna[/name], I think you should use another A name for baby girl!




Like any? I think [name]Aliza[/name] [name]Gabrielle[/name], [name]Arella[/name] [name]Vivienne[/name], [name]Adelyn[/name] [name]Cerys[/name], [name]Annabel[/name] [name]Cadence[/name], and Aviya [name]Catrin[/name] are all cute!

I will put stars next to the names that I would be willing to name my own daughter.
[name]Anastasia[/name] nn [name]Tansy[/name] or Stassia
[name]Arden[/name] - [name]Shakespeare[/name] place name.
[name]Camden[/name], [name]Cameron[/name], [name]Camryn[/name] - my favorite boy names for girls
*[name]Camille[/name] nn [name]Cammie[/name] or [name]Millie[/name]
*[name]Caroline[/name] - one of my faves. nn [name]Calla[/name] or [name]Callie[/name]. This could be a great solution!
*[name]Cecilia[/name], [name]Cecily[/name] - nn Cessie, [name]Celia[/name] - one of my faves!
*[name]Eliza[/name], love [name]Eliza[/name] [name]Jane[/name]
[name]Estella[/name] nn [name]Stella[/name]
[name]Evelyn[/name] - popular, but pretty
[name]Hollis[/name] - my favorite last name for a girl
*[name]Jane[/name] - such a wonderful name. Sounds popular, but isn’t.
*[name]Jessamyn[/name] - love
[name]Julia[/name] - my niece’s name. This is a gorgeous name that I think a lot of men love. It has been popular, but not overly so.
[name]Juliet[/name] - a lovely spin on [name]Julia[/name].
*[name]Katherine[/name] - a gorgeous and popular name. To make it more unusual, you could use the nn [name]Kathe[/name] - I think this is how you spell it. It is pronounced [name]KATE[/name]-teh, and it’s [name]German[/name], I think. I knew a lady with this name.
*[name]Keira[/name] - my favorite trendy-sounding name.
**[name]Laura[/name] - my own daughter’s name. A lot of men love the name [name]Laura[/name]. It is a classic.
*[name]Leonora[/name] nn [name]Nora[/name] - [name]Leonora[/name] is so exotic for you, [name]Nora[/name] is sensible for him.
*[name]Madeleine[/name] nn [name]Maddie[/name]- popular and pretty. I would use it.
[name]Marina[/name] - but it reminds me of the brand of toilet paper.
*[name]Melina[/name] nn [name]Millie[/name] or [name]Lena[/name] - sounds popular, but itsn’t.
[name]Natalia[/name] nn [name]Talia[/name]
*[name]Natalie[/name] nn [name]Tally[/name] - has been very popular, but I have to say that I love it.
*[name]Olivia[/name] nn [name]Ollie[/name], [name]Livvy[/name], [name]Liv[/name] - this is my favorite popular name. It’s really pretty. I would be happy to name my own daughter this name. My name was incredibly popular when I was young, but I just love it.
*[name]Paloma[/name] nn [name]Polly[/name]
*[name]Rebecca[/name] nn [name]Becca[/name]
*[name]Rosalie[/name], [name]Rosalind[/name], [name]Rosanna[/name], *[name]Rosemary[/name] nn [name]Rose[/name] - sounds popular, and yet it’s not.
[name]Simona[/name] - has that feminine sound, but is so unusual.
[name]Sophia[/name] - if you get really desperate, you could name your daughter this super popular name. At least it’s incredibly beautiful.
[name]Victoria[/name] nn [name]Tori[/name] - this has been popular, but it’s very pretty.
*[name]Vivian[/name] nn [name]Vivi[/name]
[name]Viviana[/name] nn [name]Vivi[/name]
*[name]Zandra[/name] nn [name]Zandie[/name] - love it!

I just wanted to suggest two discussion activities that might help if he just shoots down every suggestion without coming up with better ones (sounds a lot like my husband!).

You write down your six favorites (if you have more than six and can’t pick tops, the first six that come to mind and make it on the page) and he does the same. Exchange lists. Next to each name write another that seems similar to you, but you like better. Put the combined list (your six, his six, your six alternative suggestions, and his six alternative suggestions) on the fridge. Discuss the pros and cons of each one.

Make a tournament bracket. Write your suggestions and his (limit it to maybe 20 each) on slips of paper, draw them from a hat, and write them on a tournament bracket. The matches will be random that way and each set of two will “battle” so one can be crossed off. In the end you’ll be down to two. They can be combined to form first and middle, both can go to the hospital to let baby decide, you could let the older kids vote, etc.

We did both of these to come up with a name for our first daughter. The fridge thing led to the discovery of several names that went on our tournament bracket. In the end we took our two tournament names to the hospital, and had picked a family middle name that went with either. She seemed more like a [name]Clementine[/name] than a [name]Susannah[/name].

If nothing else it might get him talking about names without feeling like you want him to come up with endless lists of names he loves (hard for most men, it seems like they consider one name at a time only and either reject it or latch onto it like a life preserver).

I love the bracket idea, orangesunrise! It does make it more exciting than endlessly poring over lists.

that’s a great idea about the bracket list!

We did further discuss our list last night. Here is what we have agreed upon so far. I’m pretty happy with it.
[name]Anissa[/name] (mainly his choise, I’d prefer other names on this list)
[name]Cadence[/name] (one of my top names)
[name]Sienna[/name] (this one is in the middle for me. I like it more than some names, but like other more than this one)
[name]Anastacia[/name] (i like this name, but it’s on the popular side AND I do not like any of its nn)
[name]Rozlin[/name] (we decided on this one last night and were both pretty happy about it, but we’re not certain which spelling we’ll choose yet)
He insists to keep [name]Summer[/name] on the list, so I’m insisting to keep [name]Cailyn[/name] on the list.

I personally hate the name [name]Cadence[/name], but I do like the name [name]Anissa[/name].

Heres some of my Favs

[name]Rylie[/name] (yes, pronounced [name]Riley[/name])
[name]Jenni[/name] (a long time favorite)
[name]Devin[/name] (yes, for a girl)
[name]Joey[/name] (For some reason I find this name great for a girl)

[name]Hope[/name] this helped!!!

I have a friend called [name]Roslyn[/name], and I have always thought it was a beautiful name. It suits her perfectly too. I like that it’s unusual, feminine but not too fussy. I think it sounds very contemporary. I’m delighted you’re considering it! I also really like [name]Sienna[/name] and [name]Anastacia[/name].

thank you ladies.
Lamps… so far we are settled on [name]Roslyn[/name]/[name]Rozlyn[/name]. I think we’re going to go with the [name]Rozlyn[/name] or [name]Rozlynn[/name] spelling. I like both [name]Ros[/name] and [name]Roz[/name], but we were afraid that if it’s spelled [name]Roslyn[/name], people’s first instinct would be to call her [name]Rose[/name]-lyn. I haven’t been this excited about a name since I picked out my 1st daughter’s!

I just wanted to reassure you that I believe people will not confuse [name]Roslyn[/name] with [name]Rose[/name] lyn I would be extremely surprised if they did. I really like the traditional spelling I feel it is soft and pretty and [name]Roz[/name] can still be spelt as [name]Ros[/name] the same as Caz can also be [name]Cas[/name] a nn for [name]Carolyn[/name] without pronunciation problems.