So I really love the name [name]Sophia[/name]. I know it is in the top of popularity, but it has sentimental meaning for me. I was set on this name, but today it all changed. Today I found out that a family member is naming her daughter - 3 months away, [name]Sofia[/name]. so now I am running into the issue of “should I use the name also or not use”. Did any of you berries lose a name to someone else who gave birth first? Did you still use the name? And if you didn’t, are you happy with your decision?
I’m so sorry I don’t have much practical advice, but I can tell you that I know what you’re feeling and you have my sincerest empathy. My husband and I had agreed on [name]Ivy[/name] for our little girl extremely early on in my pregnancy, and found out a couple weeks after having her that my 16 year old cousin (who, incidentally, purposely got pregnant to rope her bf into getting married) was going to be using the same name for her daughter due a few months later. We were kind of devastated. I think it would be one thing if it was a friend whose children your kid will never really interact with, but cousins that are the same age who will be at family events … yuck, right? Luckily, after kind of freaking out for a couple of months, I was talking to my aunt and found out that my stepmom had gotten it wrong. Enter baby [name]Evie[/name]. WHEW.
[name]How[/name] close is this family member? Would your children be growing up together? Honestly, if I was dead set on a name, especially one with meaning, I would still use it. I don’t believe in people having dibs on a name, or a name being ruined by another person using it first, unless it was a super uncommon name. [name]Sophia[/name] is very popular and pretty, so I don’t think anyone would say anything against you.
I’m sorry you are going through this. [name]How[/name] devastating. This is why I’m torn between letting my family know my favorite names - do you and ask them not to use it or don’t you so if they like the same name there is no animosity.
[name]Sophie[/name] is a family name and I absolutely love it. I think my advice would be to keep it as a choice. I’d probably plan to use it as a mn and search for another name that can have as much meaning to me. If you don’t find a name that means equally as much to you, I’d use it - I’d also find a nn that works that isn’t the traditional [name]Soph[/name] so that the girls can be differentiated more easily (esp if they would see each other frequently).
Well, I think if you love the name go for it! I think if they lived in the same community and had the same surname that would be alittle too ‘same’ for me, but if that isnt the case I think its fine. I think if it was a name they had made up, and you went for the same one that would also be a bit weird, but [name]Sophie[/name] is a popular name anyway so that isnt the case… I totally think you will regret not using a name you love - and they are spelt differently anyway…
good luck deciding…
What a tough spot! I’m sorry. That’s really bad luck/timing!
For me, it would come down to how close the relation was. If the children would be first cousins (so my brother’s child or my brother-in-law’s child), I would not do it. If it were my cousin’s child (so the kids would be second cousins and see one another only on holidays - which is the reality in my family), I would probably forge ahead if I truly LOVED that name and no other came close for me. I would tell the cousin up front (i.e. NOW) that I had also selected that name.
Wow, that’s upsetting! I wouldn’t use it because it would bother me A LOT if there were another kid with the name around. But you chose a popular name, so did they. So there will be [name]Sophia[/name]'s around anyway, in there school, playgroup whatever. So I think you could do it.
I feel like it it were a very uncommon name, it would be worse, using the same name.
I don’t have much practical advice, but I can tell you that I know what you’re feeling and you have my sincerest empathy. My husband and I had agreed on [name]Ivy[/name] for our little girl extremely early on in my pregnancy, and found out a couple weeks after having her that my 16 year old cousin (who, incidentally, purposely got pregnant to rope her bf into getting married) was going to be using the same name for her daughter due a few months later. We were kind of devastated. I think it would be one thing if it was a friend whose children your kid will never really interact with, but cousins that are the same age who will be at family events … yuck, right? Luckily, after kind of freaking out for a couple of months, I was talking to my aunt and found out that my stepmom had gotten it wrong. Enter baby [name]Evie[/name]. WHEW.