[name_f]Mourning[/name_f] the loss of my beloved [name_u]Dorian[/name_u] today, so I had to rant and wanted to see if anyone else has gone through something similar! I’m curious to hear.
Essentially, I thought [name_u]Dorian[/name_u] was a really good pick for me and my partner, for many reasons:
I have a family member named [name_f]Doris[/name_f], and thought this would be a really great modern way to honor her. I also love the literary connection, and think it’s just uncommon enough too.
[name_f]My[/name_f] S/O is also very big into history, specifically Greek, and it honors the Greek tribe of the Dorians, which were made up of the Hellenes (and I also have another very close family member named [name_f]Helene[/name_f] who I would like to honor).
However, he told me today that he knows a [name_u]Dorian[/name_u], and turns out this person did some very awful things (will not go into detail, just very much not a good person in any sense) and does not think he can get over it. I of course won’t push for it, just makes me sad that a name with so much meaning gets taken off the list in one fell swoop.
So, does anyone else have any experiences with this? I would love to read (and commiserate!!) with anyone with similar experiences
[name_f]Iris[/name_f]! I absolutely love it, but there’s an unfortunate and awkward family association that makes it unusable for me. I have recommended it to a few close friends because I want someone in my life to use it, but no takers so far!
I do sometimes wonder if I love it more because I can’t use it (‘the one that got away’) and I do think the ever-increasing popularity would probably bother me anyway.
I think I’ve come to the conclusion that [name_u]Julian[/name_u] would be unusable for me. [name_f]My[/name_f] dad knows a person who goes by the most obvious [name_u]Julian[/name_u] nickname and said person holds some very unpleasant views would definitely get mentioned if I ever brought it up and I don’t know if I could be doing with trying to get family to look past that.
i have a LOT because i don’t want to use names that don’t work in spanish (my main language), like: river (my fav ever❤️), jasper, jude, bodhi, etc. also wouldn’t use zeppelin & indigo (they’re guilty pleasures) or leon bc that was my grandad’s name
also love elio but i think it’s too attached to call me by your name
sophie is this name for me! she’s so versatile and i just love the sound and her international femininity. unfortunately i have a cousin sophia and it’s also the name of my ex’s sister
i guess i’m happy that others are seeing her appeal but i doubt i could use her, even in the middle or for a pet.
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]! I think she was one of my first name loves. [name_f]My[/name_f] great-aunt is named [name_u]Ruby[/name_u], and if I were to ever use it, everyone in my family would associate it with her.
[name_f]Cordelia[/name_f], too, has a similar situation. It checks of all my boxes; has a literary association, Shakespearean mention and is the name of one of Uranus’s moons. Plus, the meaning is lovely as well. However, I know someone named [name_f]Cora[/name_f], so this name would be unusable for me.
Today I’m thinking
[name_m]Rikard[/name_m] - a name of an ex boyfriend’s father. He is a great man and me and the ex parted ways as friends, but I think it would be weird to use. [name_u]Love[/name_u] that Scandinavian prononciation
[name_u]Edward[/name_u] - maaaaybe I could use it, but my s/o has a bad association with it
[name_m]Dominic[/name_m] - I think it’s so handsome! I would use it in a heartbeat. But [name_m]Dom[/name_m] is a sexual slang word and [name_u]Nic[/name_u] souds exactly like another sexual vulgar verb in my language, also I understand that [name_u]Nick[/name_u] = di*k in [name_f]English[/name_f]? [name_m]Just[/name_m] a bad bad everything
Also forever mourning River for the same reason (just an impossibility in our multilingual family). How cute would Robin and River be, sigh? It would also have links to important places and moments to us, since throughout the different stages of our relationship we’ve always lived near a river, and have made many an important an exciting decision walking along the riverbank or staring into the calming waters
[name_f]Lovely[/name_f], cuddly, raffish [name_m]Rufus[/name_m] it means red haired (which my husband is!), and goes so perfectly with our favourite girl, [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f]. Sadly, he has a younger cousin with the name and even though I’ve never met the kid, I think it would be confusing/weird for his side of the family.
that’s beautiful river’s a lovely name and it does go amazing with robin (which i also love) have you ever considered rio? that’s my alternative for river and one i can and would actually use
@vida Ooh, [name_u]Rio[/name_u] has not been on my radar but I need to have a good think about it - it does sound beautiful and it’s very versatile and translates well across different languages… Thank you, I think you’ve given me a new favourite!
very unfortunate relative that the name fran and all of her variants has become synonymous with. i don’t think anyone in my family would bypass the association and it would bring me a lot of heat.
Favourite boy name [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] is my nephew’s name - my mum told me the name and I much later suggested it to my sister when she became pregnant m! Poop!
Then I had to scratch [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] from my daughter’s name list after my mother was bullied at work by a [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f] (her new hospital superior at the time). She went a little ashen when I raised the name.
I had wanted to use [name_f]Shasta[/name_f] as a middle name for a boy for a long time but I recently found out it’s the name of a Native American tribe which just feels a little weird since I don’t have any personal heritage or association with it. It does seem to have separate origins as well but I’d still worry about people thinking I was trying to fetishize the culture, as well as the fact that it just seems a little odd, like naming a kid “Chinese” or something when he is not
it means red haired (which my husband is!), and goes so perfectly with our favourite girl, [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f]. Sadly, he has a younger cousin with the name and even though I’ve never met the kid, I think it would be confusing/weird for his side of the family.
river’s a lovely name and it does go amazing with robin (which i also love) 
have you ever considered rio? that’s my alternative for river and one i can and would actually use
