Have you ever had a name you were going to use (whether you were pregnant or not) and someone beat you too it. I don’t share my names with family members so I don’t blame them for using a name on my list but it bums me out that I can never use that name now. What about you? What are names that can’t ever happen for you? Is there any names you might consider that someone else has already used?
Now, my husband has always loved and still loves the name [name]Chloe[/name] and I have never been a fan of it. Well, about two years ago his sister in law (married to his twin) told me that [name]Chloe[/name] was the only name they could really agree on. Well, when I got pregnant, I came across [name]Chloe[/name] and fell in love with it. (I never told my husband though) Thank goodness we are having a boy but now I feel bad that I like a name they might use if they ever get pregnant. Take it that if they beat us to it than I would be okay but they have been trying for 4 years now and can’t get pregnant and her kids are getting in their teens and I know they don’t want to have like a 15-20 year gap between them. However, were done having kids for 5 years before we start again. Having said that, I would never name our child something that someone else has verbally said they love without discussing it with them first.
Names that are forever gone:
[name]Cooper[/name]- Close friends son
[name]Parker[/name]- Cousins Daughter
[name]Emmett[/name]- Husbands step brother
[name]Erica[/name]- Husbands Ex wife
[name]Willow[/name]- Cousins Daughter
[name]Ella[/name]- Part of cousins name ([name]Bre[/name]’ [name]Ella[/name])
For me, my standard is that a name isn’t claimed until I see the baby who has it, or, a big pregnant belly being called this name. (As is common with people I know, to use the baby’s intended name after finding out the gender). Not many people local to us share the same style, so its not something I really experienced a lot. I do have a,local friend pregnant with her first and they are considering the name [name]Violet[/name] if a girl and she asked me if its “ok” and I told her of course, I do not own a patent of the name and it does not negate the meaning for which it was chosen.
I remember liking [name]Gabriel[/name] when pregnant with our oldest and had 2 friends who had boys with this name…I only sort of see the one any more over FB so its not like if we had chosen it we would spend so much time confused or anything. Family can be tricky, but friends, not so much.
[name]Shiloh[/name]! I loved the name [name]Shiloh[/name] as a child, then [name]Angelina[/name] [name]Jolie[/name] used it and now it will forever be associated with a celebrity baby so it is long gone from my list.
For me it depends on the name. I used to kind of feel if someone used a name I liked it was out. We have one boy and one girl name picked out for this baby. We’ve actually had them picked out since before we started trying for our second. If someone uses either of these names first, I will probably just use them anyway because they are are our absolute favorites. (In fact I have a cousin who is naming her baby [name]Allison[/name] [name]Claire[/name] but calling her [name]Claire[/name]. I never see or talk to her and she lives hours and hours away from me so I will still use [name]Claire[/name] if the wee babe is a girl. )The only exception would be my sister, who is also pregnant. [name]Anneliese[/name] is on my list but not for our first choice. (We will use [name]Claire[/name]) My sister’s husband is really picky about names and just told her he likes [name]Anneliese[/name]. This is also my husband’s favorite. My sister knew this was on our list, but if it is the only name they can agree on I won’t make an issue of it. If she wanted to use [name]Claire[/name], I would probably make any issue, lol! Some people don’t care if cousins share names, but we would care. I really adore [name]Anneliese[/name] and would use it for another girl and also [name]Elena[/name], but I have a good friend who says they will be using [name]Elena[/name] if their baby is a girl. She said I ccould still use it though since it was on our list for a long time, before she even considered kids, but it wasn’t our top name anyhow.
When I was a teenager, after carefully analyzing a bunch of names, I decided that [name]David[/name] was the perfect boy’s name. (It was a bit too popular for my taste, but I adored the distinctive sounds and the history of the name.) I did not hide the fact that it was the name I intended to use for my future son. As it turns out, my twin sister used the name first. I was a tiny bit miffed, but quickly got over it. I do believe that names should be freely used by whoever has a baby first. As it turns out, I am glad I was forced to use other names for my sons.
[name]Sunday[/name]
I have had dreams of naming my daughter [name]Sunday[/name] for years…dissapointed when [name]Nicole[/name] Kidman and [name]Keith[/name] [name]Urban[/name] used it.
[name]Malachi[/name] - half gone at least. A friend is using it for her baby. I’ve loved it forever, but its so distinctive it might be strange? It’s not like coincidentally having 2 Jacobs in a group, which would not be weird. But she lives in another country so they’ll never play together… it’ more a question of if she would be mad.
[name]Ilana[/name] - too many friends/relatives/relatives-of-relatives have this name.
[name]Rachel[/name] - same as [name]Ilana[/name], but more so.
This is a very sore subject for me. I have 2 boys and I had my girls name picked out for years - [name]Elle[/name]. [name]ONE[/name] name and it was set in stone (or so I thought) for my future daughter. I then stupidly told my intentions to a friend who also happens to have the same last name as us. Neither of us was pregnant at the time, but about 9 months to the date after our conversation, she had a baby girl and named her [name]Elle[/name]. I knew from our conversation that it was not a name that she had ever thought about before, so stunned does not even begin to describe how I felt when I read the birth announcement. She got the idea from me telling her that it was going to be my daughter’s name and just used it without a care in the world! I don’t care that I wasn’t pregnant with my daughter yet, because I was soon after. What she did was rude.
When I did get pregnant - even though her name had been chosen for years - I had to start all over with picking a name. I scoured every name book and site I could find with no luck. I went through hell trying to find another name for her. She was not officially named until the day we left the hospital. We ended up naming her [name]Ella[/name] - which I specifically did not want because of the popularity. BUT after our friend used [name]Elle[/name], my husband kept saying “Lets just name her [name]Ella[/name]. I like [name]Ella[/name] just as much or more.” I kept saying no, but agreed to it last minute because he loved it and because she looked like she could be an [name]Ella[/name]. It took me a while to accept it, since I had planned on using [name]Elle[/name] for so long. It’s amazing how one little letter made such a huge difference to me. Still, I don’t think I’ll ever be completely over it. I’ve never said anything to our friend, but she knows what she did. She goes out of her way not to say her daughter’s name when she’s around me. I was tempted to just name our daughter [name]Elle[/name] anyway, since she knew that was my plan, but since my daughter is younger, I would have looked like I copied her. [name]How[/name] ironic.
I don’t agree with some of the previous posters. Having a baby first doesn’t always make it ok. [name]Do[/name] you know how frustrating it is to see another little girl with the full name I had planned for MY daughter for so long? First AND last name? It was the WHOLE freaking name! Well, not the middle name but that’s besides the point. No one knows you by your middle name!
If I know that someone intends to use a name, I will not use it - out of common courtesy. I wouldn’t want to cause any resentment or awkward feelings with a friend or family member. [name]Even[/name] though I will never say anything, I will always hold some degree of resentment toward our friend for stealing our intended name. And I don’t care what anyone thinks - she did steal it. If I had kept my mouth shut, I’m 99% certain that her daughter would have a different name. She has no idea how much I agonized about my daughter’s name after that and I’m STILL sort of annoyed that I ended up using the version of the name that I didn’t want to use. I would NEVER do that to someone else. Oh well, SHE is the one that has to feel awkward any time she is around me and if she ever dares to bring it up, I will tell her exactly how I feel about it.
[name]Henry[/name]- My cousin used it for her son. He was both of our great grandfather. She didn’t know it was on my list and its her family name too. A little sad though.
This hasn’t happened to me personally (as I don’t have any kids) but a family I know well had this happen:
Couple #1 and Couple #2 are cousins, sharing the same grandparents obviously. Their grandfather’s name was [name]Leo[/name]. Couple #1 was pregnant, and found out it was a boy. Right away they asked their grandpa [name]Leo[/name] if it was ok that they use his name for their son. Couple #2 was pregnant at the same time, and slightly farther along. They had a boy as well, and he was born before Couple #1’s- his name is [name]Leo[/name]. Couple #1 was so upset, but decided on another first name, with the middle name [name]Leo[/name]. Bummer!
[name]Riley[/name]. I’ve always loved that name but a friend of mine named her daughter that (although she spelled it “Rileigh” or something like that to match her name “[name]Ashleigh[/name]”). I was so ticked, but I’m over it now as that name is pretty popular and I usually avoid popular names like the plague!
The first was accidental - DP and I decided on the name [name]Georgia[/name] for a girl before we were even pregnant, but then DP’s counsin who lived interstate named his daughter [name]Georgie[/name]. We did think about using it anyway because we don’t see them often (in fact we’ve never met [name]Georgie[/name] and she is over 2) but ultimately decided it wasn’t worth putting us - and our DD - through the family drama a certain few relatives love to create.
The second, I’m madder about the circumstances than the name buf it was the last straw. DP and I are friends with a couple, we’re much closer to the guy but are friends with his wife too. When we were pregnant with DD the husband put a significant amounrlt of pressure on us to tell them gender and name shortlist - information we shared with very few people prior to the birth. We figured they were close friends so we shared our shortlist includibg out ultimate top 2 names. At the time, the wife said that she didn’t like one of our top 2, [name]Harriet[/name], but liked the NN Haytie. About two weeks later, we find out they are pregnant - by FB! They explained that they wanted to tell family first and then told everyone else by FB which is fine, but I think it’s harsh they pushed us so hard to share our information but then wouldn’t share theirs. Anyway we ended up using our other choice for DD - it suited her - and they had a boy. However, we find out a couple of months later that the wife had bought a sewing machine of all things and named it [name]Harriet[/name]. As I said, it wouldn’t bother me otherwise, just the circumstances around the disclosure in the first place really annoyed me - and also that she pickeda name we told her was in the top 2 for a girl as an inanimate object. I get that if we wanted any claim to the name for a child then we should have used it for DD, and I’m being petty, but it still irritates me.
This (as far as I know) hasn’t happened in my family but my sister and I (we are both teens) had an argument once because I have wanted for several years to have a son one day and name him [name]Charles[/name] nn [name]Charlie[/name] after my grandfather and great-grandfather who both mean a great deal to me. My sister, on the other hand, decided that she wants to have a [name]Charlotte[/name] nn [name]Charlie[/name] solely because it is cute. I know the chances aren’t huge that either one of us will get a future [name]Charlie[/name] but I can’t imagine this argument if there were actual children’s names at stake.
