Currently 30 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. My husband and I are having trouble agreeing on a name, but I think we are pretty close to settling on [name_u]Elliot[/name_u]. We have not gotten some flack from family, as I have a female niece who goes primarily by the nickname [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] and they are saying it’s too similar/confusing. We don’t see my niece too often, and she will be 5 years older than our baby. I don’t really care that the names sound similar but since it’s taken us so long to agree on a name, I am second-guessing and I want to make sure we make a good choice.
To be honest if you love the name then go for it and your family will get used to it. What is [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]'s full name? I don’t think I would do it personally because I wouldn’t want to choose a similar name but then again I’ve not been in the situation. I have a nephew named [name_m]Reuben[/name_m] and I love the name [name_m]Rupert[/name_m] but I don’t think I would use it because of how similar they are, and also the fact that [name_m]Rupert[/name_m] isn’t the only name that I love.
If it’s the name you both love and the only one you can agree on then I think you should go ahead and use it.
I personally wouldn’t do that, but I would be closer to my niece than you seem…I know you probably feel crappy if it took you a long time to choose a boy name, but well, if your family’s already giving you flack NOW…
It’s up to you of course, but since you’re asking, no I would not choose [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] if I had a niece [name_f]Ellie[/name_f].
I wouldn’t only because I know a baby girl named [name_u]Elliott[/name_u] nn [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]. So, for me I relate them together.
BUT if you aren’t close to her and you love it, by all means go for it.
What is [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]'s full name? if you don’t mind sharing. I think for cousins who don’t see each other very often, it’s fine. You should use the name you love and that feels right. [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] is a fantastic name, but if you are open you could consider one the similar-sounding -ett endng names… [name_m]Bennett[/name_m], [name_u]Emmett[/name_u], [name_u]Everett[/name_u] etc.
I know a family where two ladies have names that only have one letter difference (think [name_f]Lila[/name_f] and [name_f]Lola[/name_f]), and they seem to be fine, never confused despite the fact they are close to each other. So, in my opinion, since you truly love [name_u]Elliot[/name_u], and it’s the only name you agree on, it’s OK to use it. I guess he won’t be seeing [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] a lot, right? Then I would not worry at all.
I think I’d do it. You said you live far away and rarely see each other, and she’s 5 years older than your son will be.
As long as you’re not planning on calling him [name_m]Eli[/name_m] (with the same sound as [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]), then I’d vote go for it.
Of course, figure out how anal your family will all be about it, and decide if you want to pick this battle, and find an equally fitting name for your son.
I was thinking you were going to say that you were considering [name_u]Elliott[/name_u] and your own daughter’s name was [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]! BUT if it is just a niece and she is 5 and you don’t see her that often it is definitely OKAY for your to go with the name you love!
You could have a [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] and a [name_f]Christine[/name_f] in the family and people call them both [name_u]Chris[/name_u], that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be called what their parent’s wanted them to be called.
Or you could have cousins named [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f] and [name_u]Addison[/name_u] or [name_u]Madison[/name_u] and [name_f]Madeline[/name_f] and both are nicknamed ‘[name_f]Addy[/name_f]’ or ‘[name_f]Maddie[/name_f]’. Too bad.
They will come up with a way of distinguishing between [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] and [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] just fine!!
I would go for it. If you rarely see your niece and she is five years older than your son will be, I see little chance of confusion. It’s not like you’re choosing the exact same name.
A few generations ago it was actually fairly common for cousins to share the same first name because of the tradition of naming children after their grandparents.
My niece [name_f]Ellie[/name_f]'s full name is [name_f]Eliana[/name_f], but she rarely gets called by that name. We see her and my nephews several times a year (major holidays and a few other times throughout the year) but we don’t spend a significant amount of time together at this point.
I also like [name_u]Everett[/name_u], [name_u]Emmett[/name_u], and [name_m]Ethan[/name_m] (I’m kind of on a “E” trend lately) but of all of them, [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] is the only name DH and I totally agree on.
Also, we don’t plan on giving [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] a nickname so we wouldn’t have to worry about [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] vs. [name_m]Eli[/name_m] or anything like that.
I would go for it! I love [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] ([name_u]Elliott[/name_u] nn [name_m]Otto[/name_m] is on my list), and I don’t think it would be too confusing
I don’t know, I’ve re-thought this, and I guess I can see how it might feel odd to a relative, say a grandparent to tell ppl they have 2 grandkids, [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] and [name_u]Elliot[/name_u]. I still think if you have your heart set on having an [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] or the name is special to you somehow, you should use it. But if you are still open, I would definitely keep looking. There are so many great names, I’m sure there are more you and your husband would both love. Good luck!
I think you should go with [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] if that’s what you really like! Especially if you don’t see each other that often. Your relatives will get used to the name quickly and I don’t think it will be weird, especially with a 5 year age gap and them being different genders.
I would use it. The ‘[name_m]Eli[/name_m]’ part is similar in the name but the ‘ot’ ending makes it seem so different. I work with children and there is and [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] and [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] and there has never been any confusion over who I am talking to. It’s a great name and one you and your partner agree on (this is hard enough!).
I am sure when he is born and your families meet him, they won’t bring it up!
