I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks in early [name_u]January[/name_u]. Since then I have been navigating the grief process.
Recently I have felt like I need to give the baby a name. I don’t know the gender but feel like it was a girl. Regardless I would choose a unisex name.
Has anyone done this? I am wanting to honour the life lost in the best way possible.
Thinking [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] [name_u]Grey[/name_u].
I did not do this and don’t think I would, but if it helps your grieving process and gives you a way to honour and remember the baby you lost, I think it’s a great idea. You chose a beautiful name.
I know several people who have went ahead and named their little one they lost.
The name is lovely.
It’s lovely.
I named the baby I lost. It helped me move on. My husband didn’t understand why but if it helped me he was willing to go with it.
I think [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] is a great name and [name_u]Grey[/name_u] goes with it nicely.
I also named the baby I lost and I was only 9 weeks. It helped me to feel connected to the baby I didn’t get to meet. I chose the name [name_m]Arrow[/name_m]. I didn’t even tell my husband because he wouldn’t understand. Grief is different for everyone, you just gotta do what you think feels right. [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] [name_u]Gray[/name_u] is sweet., I would lovingly refer to him/her as [name_u]Sonny[/name_u]/[name_u]Sunny[/name_u]. I’m sorry for your loss, feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.
I have never been pregnant, but I have heard of people naming babies they lost. I think if it helps you, why not? It is still your child after all.
I’ve been doing it just for myself. I feel like it helps. I’ve had three early miscarriages or chemical pregnancies as the doctors like to call them. I have been giving them all meaningful first names. [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] is lovely!
We thought about it with our miscarriage we had in 2015, I think I actually posted about it on NB. We eventually decided not to and I don’t feel like it did effect my grieving process. I ended up having two more last year and didn’t name them either. That was my decision though.
I think it’s a great idea if you feel it will help you with your grieving process. Emerson Grey is a lovely name, and a lovely way to honor your baby.
Friends of ours recently had their second pregnancy loss and named their first but not their second (at least not publicly). I believe it’s conditional, some people feel that life starts at conception and others don’t, so there’s no unanimous “right way” to do things. I think if you feel a name has come to you, and would help you refer to your loss by name, then you should absolutely do it.
I’m so sorry that you have found yourself in this situation and I do hope you find the support necessary to help you grieve. We are helping our friends as they go through fertility treatment and venture into the process of pursuing fostering to adopt even though we are currently pregnant with our second - I think it’s amazing how strong and honest they’re being about where they at so we can meet them in their sadness while they can meet us where we are at in our joy.
[name_u]Emerson[/name_u] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] is a lovely name, it sounds like it sits well with you and wouldn’t be a name you’d give to future children because it’s already been “claimed”. I do hope you feel confident in whatever decision you do make!
Yes, I just lost quadruplets last weekend and I named them all. We felt like if we did, it would be a good way to remember them.
I lost my little one in [name_u]December[/name_u]. I too felt she was a girl, very strongly. I knew her name as soon as I knew that she would be a girl, but I didn’t tell anyone her name until after I’d lost her. Giving her a name has helped me cope, and it validated her existence.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have not lost a baby of my own, although we came close with the last two. I know in my heart that if I did I would most definitely give him/her a name. [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] [name_u]Grey[/name_u] is a beautiful name.