We are expecting our second child in about 8 weeks and are having much more difficulty choosing names this go around (we don’t know the sex). We have a bit of a dilemma that I’d like to get opinions on from impartial strangers.
We have a daughter that will be 22 months when this baby is born. We both [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] her name. It is our favourite name and we may never find a name we love as much for either a boy or a girl (we both like the same style of names as well). Of course, our love for this name is why we used it for our daughter. But, I always said growing up that I would name my daughter after my mom, who was very beloved and passed away when I was in elementary school. Part of me regrets not using this name for our daughter, but we just loved the name we used so much. We did not use my mom’s name as a middle name either because we wanted to leave it open to possibly use as a first name for another child.
My question is, is it ok to use an important family name for a second daughter when the first daughter does not have an important family name? I worry that maybe our first daughter would feel slighted or upset about this when she grows up. I’m not sure if I am overthinking this or not. Any comments or opinions would be appreciated! Thank you
Use your important family name! Both girls can feel special about their names for different reasons, and that’s fine. We all have different reasons we name our children what we do, and they’re rarely identical.
Some of my kids are named for relatives, some for famous contemporary people, and some for biblical people.
I definitely think you’re overthinking it. My sister has my mom’s middle name as a middle, I have a name my parents loved as a middle. Both of us are happy and neither feel upstaged by the other! Go ahead and use it
I agree! We had a similar situation, where my son doesn’t have a family name, but we chose his names based on our love of [name_f]Ireland[/name_f]. (We have an Irish surname) My daughter has family names, from both sides.
