Naming Trends - Why is this?

So perhaps some of you mothers here can help me understand this.

Over the decades there seems to be a consistent trend of giving girls boy/masculine names. There are lists all over the place for hot boy names for girls, but never the reverse.

Names like [name_m]Jake[/name_m] [name_m]Kaden[/name_m] [name_u]Kyle[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_u]Parker[/name_u]. I don’t quite get it. I myself have a name that went from pretty uncommon but mostly a man’s name, that became super popular girls name, [name_u]Courtney[/name_u]. There are a host of boy names that have become girl names, and a host of unisex names now no longer acceptable for boys. I googled around quite a bit, but haven’t found any answers.

Careful, you are summoning the Nameberry Gender Militia and they are fierce.

I completely agree with you. I’m glad you made this thread! So many people tell me my name choice Annakin is “too feminine” cause of the nn [name_f]Anni[/name_f], or [name_f]Ashleigh[/name_f] is too feminine, even though it’s originally a boy’s name. I’m all for getting back some names for the guys so they’re unisex! I’m anxious to see what moms have to say about it.

I don’t think this is a “name trend” but rather a “life trend” I mean for the longest time, girls were expected to only wear dresses until girls in pants became totally acceptable. but if you put a boy in a dress…? If you tell your friends you’re signing your daughter up for basketball or karate, they’ll think it’s great but if you tell them you’re signing your son up for ballet…? I think it’s unfair to think this trend is just a “new name fad”

I really don’t have a better answer for you other than the double standard is just something parents today have grown up with and always known. I’m not saying it’s right, it’s just what’s been accepted for generations

Lately I like these for boys and would love to see the boys side get them back:
[name_u]Taylor[/name_u]
[name_u]Dakota[/name_u]
[name_u]Ashton[/name_u]
[name_u]Hayden[/name_u]
[name_u]Riley[/name_u]
[name_u]Morgan[/name_u]
[name_u]Emerson[/name_u]
[name_u]Payton[/name_u]
I know I forgot a bunch.

The history of this comes from second wave feminism, although I believe it was actually done earlier, this is where it became common practice, with names like [name_u]Courtney[/name_u], [name_f]Shirley[/name_f], [name_u]Leslie[/name_u], and later [name_u]Ashley[/name_u], [name_u]Morgan[/name_u], etc shifting over.

It’s history is in the feminist idea women can do anything men can do, and that names are fluid, but also the not-so-feminist idea that masculine traits are more desirable than the feminine ones. Most people who do this do it somewhat unconsciously, but some parents expressly do it because they’d prefer their daughter to be either tomboyish or they just dislike names with a connotation of delicateness, prettiness, fragility, etc.

In post feminism days, names like [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f] or [name_f]Cordelia[/name_f] or [name_f]Sara[/name_f] were seen as perfectly suitable for a woman who was becoming a homemaker, teacher, nurse, or secretary. But as times changed and parents aspired for their daughters to do “men’s jobs” like become doctors, engineers, astronauts, business people, they believed women with “feminine” qualities, such as being sensitive, nurturing, emotional, or vain, wouldn’t stand much of a chance, so gave them names to reflect that. These kinds of ideas and trends sparked the radical “feminazis” who believed things like not getting an abortion if you accidentally got pregnant negated their work, or desiring to be a SAHM gave working women a poor image. It connects to the idea that if you hold “feminine qualities” (including your name) it would hinder your success in a professional or once-male dominated field.

It’s not a new trend, it’s just that a lot of the names used in your generation that are seen as female may not have been as common before, so you probably don’t associate them as male.

I feel for you. I wanted to name my son [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] so badly, but my husband flat out refused. He said it is a girl name, even after I pointed out it was originally exclusively male. Ironically we named our son [name_u]Riley[/name_u] instead, which is about 75% used for girls atm.

Have you ever listened to the very beginning of the song “what it feels like for a girl” by [name_f]Madonna[/name_f]? To me, it explains the double standards about men and women pretty perfectly .

I also love [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] for a boy as well. I feel your pain lol. I actually only know one [name_u]Reilly[/name_u], he’s a guy. But it’s definitely crossed over now

I do know the song. [name_u]Haven[/name_u]'t listened to it in years though lol so don’t remember much of it.

I was looking at Social Security information for [name_m]New[/name_m] [name_m]York[/name_m] and it’s interesting to see right when the switch was made for [name_u]Courtney[/name_u]. From like the 20s to the 50s it was about evenly given to males and females with a slight edge to males. Then it was slight edge to females for 2 years and then bam suddenly 8-10 males a year and 200+ female Courtneys every year till the 80s and 90s where it skyrocketed to 400-700 per year. Similar things happened with a lot of unisex names. The only male Leslies I know are all like 50-70.