I’m usually the type of person who loves being alone, I’ve got my own room in our house that’s just mine, I love just sitting reading and drinking tea and being by myself. But now that I’m pregnant, I get really nervous when my boyfriend isn’t around. When he’s working and I’m home (which is more or less all the time as I’m not working at the moment) I bring my laptop and my books to his studio to be in the same room as him. Of course he finds this annoying, so I try not to do it, but I really hate being without him. Is this normal? (I know my sister was like this, but she is like this all the time, she has always hated being on her own.)
Pregnancy is the first time in most of our lives, as young healthy women, where we become acutely aware of our own mortality and the fragility of life. You are more vulnerable, and the little human you’re gestating certainly is. It’s normal to subconsciously seek reassurance and protection-- as outmoded and anti-feminist as those emotions appear, on the surface.
Thanks for replying. I think I just had a little meltdown yesterday, I didn’t want to bother my mum but I eventually called her and she said she was the exact same way, so I’m okay now. Thanks though!
Yes, I would say it is perfectly normal, I went threw that as well: typically being an introvert and enjoying being alone to actively seeking reassurance and wanting to be around my mate. Like [name]Blade[/name] said, you become much more aware of your own mortality and more vulnerable emotionally.
And then I nearly went threw a nervous break down towards the latter months of my being pregnant because I didn’t have any comfort or reassurance, rather the opposite, and was alone.
I got like this way especially when driving - either around town or to our nearest city. My husband drives about 300km a day for his work and I used to hate it and would call and message him constantly to know he was ok!