Despite the fact my family is pretty screwed up and all over the place, I have always loved the idea of using family names for my future children. We are Scottish, Irish, English, [name]German[/name], Greek, very Italian, Polish, etc. so there are alot of really cool names I could choose from! The thing is, again, my family isn’t close and there is a huge rift in it and I know that if I were to choose certain names, my mother’s side would be highly offended. [name]Case[/name] in point, on my dad’s side I have and Italian aunt called [name]Valley[/name]…I never met her but I would love to use her name as a mn or something…but my mom’s side would know and wouldn’t take that kindly and it would be awkward to explain to the ones who don’t know.
So…
- if you love the name, would you still use it despite family qualms?
- if you didn’t know the relative…say you want to use your great-great-great-great grandfather’s name…is that acceptable to use the name still? would that be too weird to say “i found the name in our family tree and wanted to use it?” especially if you don’t know if the person was like abusive or something…
[name]Just[/name] curious! 
edit: i suppose my reasons for using family names, with a few exceptions, are family is important to me and also…it could also be a way to justify using some rather ecentric/unusual names that my family would normally scoff at 
) to choose from but I wouldn’t use the names of living relatives because I favor my father’s side and I know it would cause some hard feelings for my mom if I honored someone on my father’s side without doing the same for her side