Not ttc yet, but will be starting in a few months. My husband is pretty adamant that we don’t find out the gender when we do get pregnant. He says that not knowing will make the surprise even better. My mom agrees. And I agree too with their reasoning…
…but the thing is- I was always the kid that peeked at [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] gifts. I felt like I was going crazy when I found out DH had a ring not knowing when he would propose. I just don’t think I could deal with the suspense… I like to be super organized so I feel like not knowing will drive me batty.
I don’t have any tips but was just thinking about this. If we end up going for one more, maybe we will wait until birth to find out baby’s sex. We just started talking about it because our friends just had their first baby, whose sex was a surprise, and for the first time ever the idea sounded cool to me. I’ve never been able to handle the suspense before, though, so it’s really hard to imagine succeeding.
I couldn’t do it. Like you, I hate surprises and am too much of a planner. Maybe this is crazy, but would you be able to keep the secret from your husband? I don’t think I could, so we will have to be on the same page. You should list out the pros and cons of not finding out/finding out and see where you end up.
I am different. I love surprises and I don’t think there are enough of them in this world. I have made the decision that if ever I am pregnant we will not find out until the birth and luckily my husband is perfectly fine with that idea.
We’ve found out both times, mostly because my husband will only talk about names in a serious manner once we know what the baby is.
I have a cousin who found out with her first two (girl, then a boy) and were surprised with [name_u]Baby[/name_u] no 3. She said since she was so busy chasing her other two that it wasn’t as big of a deal for her, but that she probably wouldn’t have been able to do it for her first.
I think it’s cool either way, finding out or being surprised.
you know… we also considered keeping the gender of our child as a secret but only for the first 2 weeks till we received our first us picture. it worth to be mentioned that we had our baby abroad from one Ukrainian clinic and they always send you latest updates on your surrogacy program and when we found out about the surrogate’s pregnancy we were all so happy and decided to not try and look at baby’s gender, but as i have said after the first us picture was received, we were so curious about the gender of the baby we had to tell our manager that she can tell us the gender when she knows it, we do not want to play the keepitasasecretgame haha. we were surprised that our surrogate mother was pregnant with only one embaby even though we have told that twins would be cool too, but what could we do?
so yeah. i have no advice actually but you may think about the grand finale of your pregnancy when you get to discover the baby’s gender. i am sure the emotions will be great!!