I really thought I was this time, but I did tests and they were negative. This sixth time that we’ve tried and failed. I hate my body! [name]Every[/name] time we try, I’ll have a delayed period, do a test, it’ll be negative, then about an hour later my period will come. It obviously delays at the excitement of a possible pregnancy. I hate this, I’m really upset.
I think maybe we’ll stop trying for a while.
hi hun, I too am waiting for my period today (due today) and it’s not come, but had BFNs! So just waiting it out.
Try not to get down, 6 months might feel a long time but it really isn’t in terms of trying to conceive! xx
It is so hard! Especially those two weeks between conception and the test. This might sound counter intuitive but it might not be such a bad idea to stop “trying” for a while. Anxiety can mess with your cycle and make it harder to get pregnant. PP is right about how long conceiving can take (for perfectly fertile people). Make a plan with your partner about if/when you’ll speak to a doctor about fertility specialist. Then (if you can) forget about getting pregnant. Go about life as usual. Take your tests expecting them to be negative. Hang in there, and practice not worrying. You’ll need the practice for pregnancy and for the rest of your child’s life.
It took us exactly a year to conceive our third baby. I should say that I’m 28 and got pregnant within 3 months with our first two. We tried so hard and had that horrible disappointment month after month. We did get pregnant but had a miscarriage which made things even worse. We finally gave up, literally! I made an appointment with a fertility doctor, and threw some maternity clothes my friend had given me in the basement. I stopped tracking my ovulation and timing things. In fact, we barely had “Special time” at all. It was that month that it actually worked for us. I know how frustrating and heartbreaking trying for a baby can be. My best advice is to try as hard as you can to relax about it. Maybe even try to go get a massage a week after your cycle. The more relaxed you are the better your chances are. I wish you the best of luck in the coming months!
I second the massage idea. I really think that is what got the depo out of my system. I told my massage therapist I was TTC and she worked my ab area. I got pregnant the cycle after she did that.
[name]Hi[/name] [name]Harriett[/name] [name]Emily[/name],
I just wanted to say don’t give up. I second the advice to try not to think about it, although I know how hard that will be! A massage sounds like a great idea!!
We had two “surprises” and figured it would be a piece of cake when we wanted to “try” for our third. WRONG! After several months I was really wondering what was the matter with me! My husband said just forget about tracking things, and voila positive pregnancy test the next month.
[name]Hope[/name] this isn’t TMI but I also have been taking Mucinex every time I became pregnant, it’s the same drug as Robitussin. My doctor had me on it for my sinuses but he said it does sometimes help conception because it thins the mucus throughout the entire body. Who would have thought. Actually I’m not sure if it was starting the Mucinex or quitting the calendar or both that helped us out that time we were having trouble. At any rate, it’s pretty harmless stuff and if you get the time-release kind you hardly even have to think about it. Ask your doctor to make sure it’s ok just to be certain though.
The massage is a great idea too, get a good therapeutic massage therapist! Sometimes your OB/GYN can recommend someone who works especially with women.
Try not to stress, it’s really quite normal for it to take a few months.
[name]Do[/name] you track your cycle? If not, I suggest starting to track your cycle (there are some sites that will help with this). Make sure you’re actually ovulating (buy some of those tests if you need to, temping will help with this, too). Also, don’t get so stressed about it. Stressing doesn’t help your body and could actually make you not ovulate or ovulate late, which would throw everything off.
I recommend not testing until your period hasn’t shown up for a week.
[name]Just[/name] remember that only half of all couples that make love regularly will end up pregnant after 4-5 months of trying. For 85% of couples, it will take a year. If you are tracking your cycles and doing everything possible after a year, then it would be time to see your OB/GYN.
Thanks everyone! Bornthisway I do track my cycle, we’ll have sex multiple times a day when I’m ovulating so I’m always really frustrated every time we get a negative 
I don’t test myself until my period hasn’t shown for 3-4 weeks. My body literally stops having periods when I think I’m pregnant, and then when I see the negative test I’ll come on within the hour, seriously! Although this time my period still hasn’t come. 5 weeks late now but I’m negative.
I think we’re just going to stop buying tests and tracking my cycle. We’ll just have sex whenever we feel like it and if I happen to get pregnant, then great, but if I’m still not pregnant within a year or so then I’ll definitely see a doctor about it
I have been TTC our first for four months now, and it seems like foreverrrrrrrrrrr… I understand how you feel! And there’s nothing quite like the disappointment when your period shows month after month after month.
Have you watched ‘The Great Sperm [name]Race[/name]’? It helped me to understand what spermies go through to reach the egg, and helped me relax a bit when I didn’t catch the eggy. You can YouTube it and watch it in spurts, it’s very informative!
I think doing-away with your charting and testing is a good idea, it will help you to relax and just let nature take its course. When I get overwhelmed that I’m not pregnant yet, my sister reminds me that my body’s just waiting for the baby that’s supposed to come to me… so if this month isn’t it, it wasn’t to be. I try to have that attitude… it’s easier said than done that’s for sure, but it helps 
Also, I think having sex more than once a day during your fertile window isn’t really a ‘good’ idea… his body needs a bit of time to re-produce healthy sperm and in good numbers, so I would say once a day or once every two days is enough.
Good luck to you on your TTC journey, may we get our BFPs soon!
I’d probably go to the doctor and make sure you’re actually ovulating because it kind of sounds like you might not be.
Perhaps you are ovulating way later than you thought you were. 5 weeks late is really late so it sounds like you have an unpredictable cycle. Your best defense is to throw out everything and STOP trying. That’s how I got pregnant (and many other women too it seems). Since you have been trying for about six months, in another six months you can go to your doctor and ask to be referred to a fertility specialist (at least in [name]Canada[/name] that’s how it works) unless you are over 30 where you can ask for a referral after only 6 months of trying (again that’s here in [name]Canada[/name], so I’m not 100% sure about your area) but its worth a shot, I’m an impatient person though, and if there was something wrong I would want to know ASAP ( not that there is for you! It does take the average couple 12 to 24 months to conceive so your right on track) good luck!
Totally understand what you’re going through! My husband and I have been trying for 11 months now, and still no positive pregnancy test. My doctor told me we should only have sex every other day during my fertile time. And she also suggested using an ovulation kit, which was helpful since I found that I ovulate a bit sooner than the average woman. Only one more month and we’ll be able to get some testing done. In the mean time we just keep trying not to stress about it. But that can be so hard!!
My body did exactly the same thing when we were TTC, its extremely frustrating and upsetting and my heart goes out to you
Wishing you lots of success and that you get your BFP soon!