[name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I are trying to come up with a name for our third son and are having a disagreement. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband loves the name [name_m]George[/name_m] and is lobbying hard for it. I like it a lot too and don’t have any problem with it other than we’ve already used it as a middle name for our oldest son, [name_m]Henry[/name_m]. I say it would be too weird to use it again for a first name for another child, especially since we use [name_m]Henry[/name_m]'s full name often. I, especially, call him [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_m]George[/name_m] or [name_m]Henry[/name_m] G a lot. I think it would be confusing and possibly upsetting for [name_m]Henry[/name_m] to have to share part of his name with the baby.
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband thinks that I’m overthinking it and that its not a big deal. In his family, I guess it isn’t, since his father’s middle name is his father’s brother’s (my husband’s uncle’s) first name!
Thoughts? Am I overreacting? Any thoughts on how to resolve this issue? (I have already suggested names that I feel are similar to [name_m]George[/name_m] and my husband hasn’t liked any of them…sigh!)
Thanks so much!
I feel like families have done this historically, and maybe do in some cultures… But I am with you! He loves it, and it’s not good enough that he used it for his first son? I think this one deserves his own name…
I see your dilema! I love [name_m]Henry[/name_m] and [name_m]George[/name_m] too that’s why, as tempting as it would be to use [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_m]George[/name_m] if we have a DS1, I would only use one of the names just incase we everhave a DS2 (although I know I’ll be annoyed if we don’t use both of them and then never have two boys, argh!) I wouldn’t want to be in your situation, it’s a tough one isn’t it!
Well our combos are basically [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] and [name_m]George[/name_m] [name_m]Oliver[/name_m]. Does he like [name_u]James[/name_u] or [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] at all? [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_m]George[/name_m] and [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] would be super cute!
I’m with you in that it wouldn’t be fair to give your younger your older’s mn. Yes DH loves it but you’ve already used it once! This LO deserves a name all his own
Some other ideas:
[name_m]Charles[/name_m] (nn [name_u]Charlie[/name_u])
[name_m]Arthur[/name_m] (nn [name_m]Art[/name_m] or [name_m]Artie[/name_m])
[name_m]Archibald[/name_m] (nn [name_m]Archie[/name_m])
[name_m]Edward[/name_m]
[name_m]Joseph[/name_m]
[name_u]James[/name_u]
[name_m]Oliver[/name_m]
[name_m]Atticus[/name_m]
[name_u]August[/name_u] (nn [name_u]Gus[/name_u])
[name_m]Jonathan[/name_m]/[name_m]John[/name_m]
[name_m]Bear[/name_m]
[name_m]Louis[/name_m]
[name_m]Alexander[/name_m]
[name_m]Frederick[/name_m] (nn [name_u]Freddie[/name_u])
[name_m]Theodore[/name_m] (nn [name_u]Theo[/name_u]/[name_m]Ted[/name_m]/[name_u]Teddy[/name_u])
[name_m]Nathaniel[/name_m]/[name_m]Nathan[/name_m] (nn [name_m]Nate[/name_m])
[name_m]Jack[/name_m] (I love [name_m]Jack[/name_m], I would definitely use it if it wasn’t for a horrible association I have personally :()
[name_m]Harrison[/name_m] (nn [name_m]Harry[/name_m] - although a bit too close to [name_m]Henry[/name_m]!)
[name_m]Patrick[/name_m]
[name_m]Peter[/name_m]
[name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Thomas[/name_m]
Good luck and let us know what you eventually decide!
If you call him by his first and middle often, I probably wouldn’t. However, my fiance’s parents did this. His little brother has his middle name spelled a different way and as far as I know it has never bothered either of them. I personally wouldn’t though.
Seeing as you call your first son with both his first and middle names quite regularly, I don’t think it would be a good idea. I think [name_m]Henry[/name_m] and [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] would make a wonderful brother set.
I think you should give him his own unique name. Younger siblings often feel like they are in the shadow of their older siblings as it is. He should at least have his own name and identity. If [name_m]George[/name_m] has already been used for your oldest then it should be off the table.
Edward
Harrison
Winston
Parker
Liam
Nathaniel/Nathan/Nate
Lucas
Hudson
Thanks so much, everyone. I’m glad to know that I’m not just overreacting! Hopefully we’ll be able to come up with something else that my husband likes as much as [name_m]George[/name_m]. Thanks for all the great suggestions, too. I love both [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] and [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], especially. More suggestions always appreciated, and I’ll let you know what we come up with!
I definitely don’t think you’re overreacting! The only time I’ve heard of this being done before is with a family I know who have 10 daughters and 1 son, so by the time they got to one of their younger daughters they used their oldest daughter’s mn as the younger’s fn. Personally I wouldn’t have done it, but I guess when you’re naming so many girls you run out of names you like!
However, in your case I’m sure you can come up with something else for baby boy #3