One more round - still can’t agree

Girl Names
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In order of preference…

DH ‘s list: Miriam “Maisie”, Marjorie “Maisie”, Primrose “Prim”, Louisa “Lulu”
My list: Emmeline “Emme”, Rosalind “Rosie”, Primrose “Primie”, Clementine “Emme”

Neither of us want to compromise. We both love our top nicknames. DH’s main complaint for Emmeline is the multiple spellings and pronunciations. He’s also not sure people will pronounce Rosalind the same way. I pointed out Miriam can be spelled differently and Marjorie can be called Marge. :smiley:

The nicknames are only used at home and holiday cards so they have to make some sense. I know Marjorie and Maisie came from Margaret but it doesn’t seem that intuitive to people who aren’t name nerds. Clementine Emme is not that intuitive either. Our only problem with Primrose is we don’t want to compromise.

She already has a middle name in another language. I suggested Miriam Primrose Y*** (2 middles) nn Maisie but DH read that’s also trouble.

Which name will cause her the least amount of headache? ETA we are in the US.

I’ve also attempted to start over: Beatrice, Florence etc but it’s taking DH a long time to warm up to my list I don’t think we have enough time. But if you have suggestions feel free to add them (again for some of you :slight_smile: ). Brothers: N@than1el & Ol1ver

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First I’d like to say that if you are giving birth I think you have first choice when it comes to names. [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], [name_f]Marjorie[/name_f], and [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] are my favorites. I don’t like [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] as a NN to [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] and [name_f]Majorie[/name_f], it feels like a stretch. I think [name_f]Miri[/name_f] is much better for [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] and [name_f]Marjorie[/name_f] will likely just become [name_f]Marjie[/name_f] or [name_f]Marj[/name_f]. If you both like [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] why don’t you use that as the FN? You could call her both Prim and Primie.
Other FN suggestions:
[name_f]Flora[/name_f]
[name_f]Willa[/name_f]
[name_f]Nellie[/name_f]
[name_f]Ophelia[/name_f]
[name_f]Penelope[/name_f]
[name_f]Gwendolen[/name_f]
[name_f]Josephine[/name_f]
[name_f]Isadora[/name_f]
[name_f]Naomi[/name_f]
[name_u]Juniper[/name_u]
[name_f]Rena[/name_f]
[name_f]Lilibet[/name_f]
[name_f]Maeve[/name_f]
[name_f]Vienna[/name_f]
[name_f]Frances[/name_f]
[name_u]Frankie[/name_u]
[name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]
[name_f]Esther[/name_f]
[name_f]Diana[/name_f]
[name_f]Poppy[/name_f]
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]
[name_f]Isolde[/name_f]
[name_f]Hildie[/name_f]
[name_f]Golda[/name_f]
[name_f]Goldie[/name_f]
[name_f]Jessamy[/name_f]
[name_f]Aurelia[/name_f]
[name_u]Aspen[/name_u]
[name_f]Prudence[/name_f]
[name_f]Amelia[/name_f]

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I don’t see what’s wrong with having [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] and then you using different nicknames for her? Prim and Primie are hardly wildly different and it may be that you both end up mixing between them anyway.

The compromise is ‘we use a name we both love and then use ever so slightly different nicknames’. I know lots of families where different parents use different nicknames etc. or one uses a nickname and one doesn’t at all (my mother only ever used my full name, my dad usually uses my nickname) in fact it’s what myself and my partner plan to do (I love nns, they don’t).

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I agree with PPs. Prim and Primie are so close that I think both would probably end up getting used instinctively even if you pick just one to go with. Personally, I have two sets of parents and each of them has a different nickname for me and it’s never been a problem. (And mine arent as intuitive or as similar as Prim/Primie) I would definitely go with [name_f]Primrose[/name_f].

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[name_f]Rosalind[/name_f] [name_f]Miriam[/name_f]

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Sorry I wasn’t too clear :slight_smile: Prim and Primie is not a problem! We just didn’t want to compromise and keep thinking the other person’s top name will also cause problems pronunciation and spelling wise

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The only FN I see people having a little bit of trouble with is [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]. But if you love it, go for it! It’s a great name.

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[name_f]Primrose[/name_f] makes sense to me! It’s the name the crosses over on both lists and it’s easy to spell and pronounce. It’s flowery and sweet and Primie and Prim are lovely but there’s also the possibility of nns like [name_f]Ro[/name_f], [name_f]Rose[/name_f] etc. that make it versatile

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We just never thought we’d be picking a floral name! :smiley: it’s so hard when two people are involved:P

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I feel [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] would be great. It’s on both lists. I think Primie for around the house as it is more cute and Prim on [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] cards as it’s more ‘proper’? [name_m]Just[/name_m] an idea

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I’m sorry that this has been such a drawn-out struggle for you two, but the good news is that you still have a lovely list.

If the main concern is to avoid a headache for the child, I would steer clear of two middle names. I think that does end up being a bit of a hassle here, at least for my best friend who has two middles.

As for the names themselves, these are my thoughts:
[name_f]Miriam[/name_f] - I love [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], and I love this option for you. [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] does have multiple spellings, but I think almost everyone in the U.S. will intuitively go for [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] over a variation like [name_f]Maryam[/name_f]. [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] seems like a straightforward name that won’t cause much trouble. I also love [name_f]Maisie[/name_f], and it doesn’t make a ton of sense for [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], but then, it doesn’t for [name_f]Margaret[/name_f], either.

[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] - I know this one is your favorites, but I’m inclined to agree with your husband. I’m never quite sure how to pronounce [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]. I do really like [name_f]Emme[/name_f] and [name_f]Emmy[/name_f], but this isn’t my favorite way to get there. If you are using the “Emm-ih-lynn” pronunciation, I think many Americans will misspell it, as well.

[name_f]Marjorie[/name_f] - [name_f]Marjorie[/name_f] is kind of cool, but it’s not as nice as [name_f]Miriam[/name_f] and more likely to be misspelled, I think.

[name_f]Rosalind[/name_f] - The difference between [name_f]Rose[/name_f]-uh-lind and [name_f]Roz[/name_f]-uh-lind is slight to me. I like this name a lot, and [name_f]Rosie[/name_f] is so sweet. Again, I can see American parents misspelling it by writing [name_f]Rosalyn[/name_f]. In terms of my preference for the name and the level of hassle, I would put this with [name_f]Miriam[/name_f].

[name_f]Primrose[/name_f] - Choosing something you both love is a win, not a compromise. [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] also has the added benefit of the [name_f]Rosie[/name_f] nickname from [name_f]Rosalind[/name_f], if you’d like. This has always been my top choice for you, and probably still is.

[name_f]Louisa[/name_f] - Nope. I don’t love this with your other boys, and I think you have much better options on the table.

[name_f]Clementine[/name_f] - I like [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] a lot, and, being a word name, you wouldn’t have to worry about misspellings or mispronunciations. I think [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] nn [name_f]Emme[/name_f] is fairly intutive, since it’s only one step off from the most intuitive [name_u]Clem[/name_u]. Does your husband like [name_f]Emme[/name_f] at all? If so, this seems like a more hassle-free route than [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f].

Good luck choosing!! Whatever you decide, I know it will be lovely.

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@quirkflower thank you for such thoughtful response!

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You both like [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] so I say go with that.

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With the brother names, I love [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], [name_f]Louisa[/name_f], and [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]. All have the same groundedness and gravitas. To my ear, [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] is a bit less established, but I do like the nn [name_f]Rose[/name_f] or [name_f]Rosie[/name_f] in the sibset.

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My two favourites are [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] and [name_f]Louisa[/name_f]!

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@erin beth I agree! Which is why I brought [name_f]Rosalind[/name_f] into the mix but it still has pronunciation issues.

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[name_u]Love[/name_u] the nickname Prim. So cute!

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This might seem farfetched, but I could kind see [name_f]Maisie[/name_f] as a nickname for [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] too–it’s got the “me/mai” sound in it. I’m less a fan of [name_f]Primrose[/name_f] than others because it doesn’t really seem like the name of a real person to me–a great middle or a great character, but harder to imagine on a person. Overall, I love [name_f]Clementine[/name_f], [name_f]Miriam[/name_f], [name_f]Rosalind[/name_f], and [name_f]Louisa[/name_f] the most. But these are all great. Any chance you’ll wait until delivery to see her and see if anything sticks? I didn’t expect to name our second son his name–it was one of my husband’s favorites that I just never vetoed–but during delivery that name sprang to mind. It may still come to you.

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@oftenoverseas I like that idea since it’s already a stretch sound-wise. We’ll think on it. And yes she may not have a name for the first few days at this rate :smiley:

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I completely understand wanting YOUR name with no compromises, but I really do think the most logical way forward is [name_f]Primrose[/name_f]. Prim/Primie are essentially the same, and you can hash out what goes on holiday cards later (whoever addresses them all gets to put their preferred nickname, maybe??). I think [name_f]Primrose[/name_f], while a little whimsical, is a perfectly reasonable name with no pronunciation issues, whereas some of your other choices could cause some confusion in terms of sound or spelling.