I have a feeling this is going to be long, so please hang in there with me…
My husband and I are expecting our first child, a boy, in [name]September[/name]. We have extremely different tastes in names, and I really don’t like many boys’ names at all. We’ve discussed names on and off for years and have a name picked out for this child. However, I’m really not excited about it. My husband thinks that every name should be a family name (his family has loads of people for centuries with the same names), and family names are just not important in my family. I think that a name should be meaningful, but it doesn’t have to be found on one’s family tree. We’d agreed on some non-family names for a girl, but low and behold, we found at at 15 weeks that we are having a boy. My husband has started calling the baby by the name we picked out, and I need to learn to like this name because I think it’s sticking fast.
The name is [name]George[/name] [name]Anthony[/name], and the baby will go by [name]Anthony[/name].
[name]George[/name] is not negotiable as a first name. My husband really wanted a junior, and I hate my husband’s middle name and would never have chosen [name]George[/name], except that it’s my husband’s name. Our compromise is that the baby gets my husband’s first name but will be called by a different middle name.
However, my husband really wanted the middle name to be a family name, since he isn’t getting his “junior.” [name]Anthony[/name] was my great-grandfather’s middle name.
I know I should like [name]Anthony[/name] because it was my grandmother’s father’s name. My grandmother was sick in the hospital when I got married and passed away shortly after I got back from my honeymoon. I was born on the date of her father’s death. My grandmother and I always had a special relationship, and I wish so much she were here to see me have my first child.
I also sometimes think [name]George[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] is cute, but I’m just not excited about it like I was about the girls’ names we liked. I don’t want to have a child whose name I only have tepid feelings for. My husband says I’ll love the name when our child has it, but I’m not so sure.
I’ve even thought about calling the baby “[name]George[/name] [name]Anthony[/name]” (yes, I live in the south: double names aren’t super-common on boys, but they’re not unheard of), but I’m worried that later in life, he’ll drop the name down to just [name]George[/name] (and people throughout his childhood will be even more likely to mistakenly call him just [name]George[/name]), which is exactly what I don’t want. I know there’s a chance of this anyway, but I’d rather he not go by my husband’s name, which isn’t one of my favorites anyway (I feel terrible for saying I don’t love my husband’s name!).
So, enough rambling. Please tell me why [name]George[/name] [name]Anthony[/name], especially [name]Anthony[/name], is such a great name. I’ve got to love this name, or else it’s back to the drawing board, and onto a huge fight with the husband.