In a bit of a dilemma here with honour names, any help would be appreciated.
My daughter is named after both her grandmothers, and my husband would really like to name our son after his grandfathers as well, especially since they have the same name ([name_m]Alessandro[/name_m]). But my husband’s middle name is [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m], my brother’s first name is [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m], my nephew’s middle name is [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m], and I have nieces named [name_f]Alessandra[/name_f] and [name_f]Alessia[/name_f], and I really don’t want to have yet another [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] is the same family. I would consider [name_m]Alessio[/name_m], Alesso or even [name_m]Sandro[/name_m] in the middle spot for our son, and go for something really different in the first position, but my husband really wants to use [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] in the first position, since on his side of the family there is just him and his dad, and to call him Alesso or [name_m]Alessio[/name_m]. But I think that will be confusing with my niece [name_f]Alessia[/name_f], who we see 3-4 times a week, and I do think it will be strange having a son that only uses a nickname when our daughter gets called both her first and middle name most of the time.
I have also suggested we use my father-in-law’s middle name and cut out [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] and its variations altogether, but my husband is really dead set on [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m].
Have you explained to your partner why you’re apprehensive about using [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m]? Maybe you could explain to him that while you’re okay with honouring family, you’d prefer if your son had a more individual name.
Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s any solid advice to give when someone won’t budge on an issue, so all you can hope to do is persuade them otherwise. If your husband is dead set on this name, then it might be hard to sway him, but I think you have convincing evidence as to why it could cause confusion. I’d suggest you just lay out your concerns exactly the way that you did for us in your post.
What about naming him [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m], and calling him by his middle name? Maybe husband could keep calling him Alesso, and you call him by his middle name? It might take your husband seeing how confusing Alesso/[name_f]Alessia[/name_f] is to see why calling him by his middle name (at least around family) is probably a better idea.
Also agree with the previous poster who said to call him by first and middle. Great suggestion!
I’m very much a ‘name your kid what you’re going to call them’ person, so for me, naming him [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] and calling him his middle name isn’t an option. And calling him [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] MN and using both isn’t an option either, since people would still likely just call him [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m].
I think having [name_m]Alessio[/name_m] and [name_f]Alessia[/name_f] together all the time is a bit silly. I think a nice compromise would be to name him [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] but use the nick name [name_m]Sandro[/name_m] instead. I think it’s much stronger sounding anyways.
Honestly, I would use [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m] and call him by that full name. I doubt there would be confusing for your niece, considering that those names are do prevalent in the family. It’s a great choice! You could use a J middle name and call him AJ. Personally, I love [name_m]Alessandro[/name_m]!