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I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don’t want to be rude but your partner is being 100%, completely and utterly selfish if she goes ahead with this name.
I can fully understand why you are panicked and upset about it. NyKai is just terrible - I do not have a single positive thing to say about it and everyone will assume it is pronounced Nigh [name_u]Kai[/name_u] as well.
That said, I am terrible at making suggestions, but my advice would be to really calmly and kindly explain how upset you are - and will be - if she goes ahead with a name that you truly dislike like this.
I’m almost angry. This is so unfair to you. I hope some of the more experienced and creative berries will be able to help you.
Rather than making specific suggestions, I recommend you pull up the SSA baby name list and start going through it. If your partner wants something unusual, start at number 250 and write down every name you like. Give her the list; surely she’ll find something there to like.
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I’m so sorry. This is tough and your partner is being totally unfair. I think if she wants to use her maiden name as a middle name, that’s perfectly fine. However, you have a right to have 50% of the say in your child’s name, you have a right to have a say in the first name. [name_f]Trinity[/name_f] is NMS, but [name_f]Kaitlyn[/name_f] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] is lovely. I agree with pp, get a SSA list and go through it - or even start at 1000 and work your way up to #1), writing down names you both like! Nykai is … really, really unique and not something I like. I don’t like how it looks, or how it’s pronounced. Maybe an idea would be [name_f]Niamh[/name_f]? (pronounced Ne-ev) Similar first syllable pronunciation, but this is a legitimate name. [name_u]Unique[/name_u], but recognizable.
I suggest you calmly sit down with your partner. Tell her how her actions made you feel. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t insult the name she chose (NyKai), instead try to talk about how you can combine her naming style and your naming style to come up with the perfect name for your baby.
I’ve heard of using maiden names as a middle name and I think it’s nice. It’s not as great as having a name middle name, but it does honour both parents equally. However, if she’s choosing the middle name, shouldn’t you get even more of a say for the first name?
Why not point her in the direction of name websites and books?
Have her ask for opinions of the name online to get a feel for the type of reaction the child might get in real life.
[name_u]Kai[/name_u] might be a good compromise…similar to [name_f]Kaitlin[/name_f], well known, and unique.
Good luck!
Oh-also, as for the maiden name as a middle name…maybe go with 2 middle names?
[name_u]Kai[/name_u] [name_f]Alexandria[/name_f] maidenmiddlename lastname?
[name_m]How[/name_m] about something like Makiya (muh-kai-uh)? Would either of you go for something like that?
Other suggestions?
[name_f]Michaela[/name_f]
[name_u]Nicola[/name_u]
[name_f]Nicolette[/name_f]
[name_f]Nova[/name_f]
[name_f]Nora[/name_f]
[name_f]McKenna[/name_f]
[name_f]Kaylyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Kyla[/name_f]
[name_f]Kayla[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_f]Coralie[/name_f]
[name_f]Cressida[/name_f]
[name_f]Mckenzie[/name_f]
[name_f]Kyra[/name_f]
[name_f]Keira[/name_f]
[name_f]Cara[/name_f]
[name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Caroline[/name_f]
Some other names…
[name_f]Acacia[/name_f]/[name_f]Akaysha[/name_f]
[name_f]Cassia[/name_f] (pronounced as it’s written or Kaysha)
[name_u]Kacey[/name_u]
[name_u]Kai[/name_u]
[name_f]Kaia[/name_f]
[name_f]Keturah[/name_f]
Kinah (I think this is [name_u]Kai[/name_u]-na)
[name_u]Kari[/name_u]
Kahlia
[name_f]Macaria[/name_f]
[name_f]Mikayla[/name_f]
[name_u]Mackay[/name_u]
[name_f]Nakita[/name_f]
Narelle
[name_f]Neva[/name_f]
thnaks…