Possible family conflict with name...opinions?

[name]Hi[/name] berries! I need opinions! I’m not pregnant, but I just got married and my husband and I talk about baby names all the time (I’m obsessed, and he humors me very well lol). We both like vintage names, and recently we discovered that we both like the name [name]Rose[/name] for a first name. I think it’s beautiful and timeless. [name]Rose[/name] is a family name on my side. My great-grandmother, born in 1900, was named [name]Rose[/name], my aunt (mom’s oldest sister) is named [name]Rose[/name] [name]Marie[/name], and [name]Rose[/name] is my sister’s middle name. Here’s the problem, though, which may seem kind of silly. As I mentioned, my mom’s oldest sister is named [name]Rose[/name] [name]Marie[/name]. My aunt [name]Rosie[/name] (as we call her) has seven grandchildren, my second cousins, ranging in ages 8 to 21. They live in an entirely different part of the country and I don’t see or talk to them very much at all. The thing is, though, I have this thought that if I name my daughter [name]Rose[/name], I might be stealing it from one of my cousins who might want to use it one day, in honor of their grandmother, who they’re all very close to. Is that silly? If I did use it, it would mainly be in honor of my sister. Should I be worried about name stealing?

Dont worry! Since no one has used it yet, I think it’s perfectly fine. Also, even if they had, since you dont see them all the time, it shouldnt be a problem. They may want to use it as a mn anyway, or with a different second name, either way, it’s the right name for you because you both love it, family name, etc. I’d say keep it on your list! And congrats on just getting married! :slight_smile:

Im beginning to think people are way too concerned about name stealing/offending others.

[name]Say[/name] someone used my mothers name and I had always wanted to use it myself but like a lot of people, I kept my names to myself so no one would steal them…then how would they know not to? If this happened to me I would still use the name and if anyone questioned me I would say it was my mother’s name so we will just have to have 2 [name]Rose[/name]’ in the family and everyone can deal with it.

Also, its a family name in more than one place for you so I dont see why they deserve to use it anymore than you do. Which is why I wouldnt go asking everyone if they minded.

Since your family’s plans are important to you, perhaps you’d want to discuss this with your cousins. It’s possible that they are not interested in [name]Rose[/name] as a first name, or want to use it but don’t mind you using it too.

By the way, I love love love [name]Rose[/name] as a first name. [name]Do[/name] you have a middle name in mind?

I totally agree with this… though I have to admit that the possible conflict would have crossed my mind as well but ultimately, I think that 2 future Roses in the family is not a big deal (especially since it has already been used multiple times already) and that you have just as many rights to the name as your cousins do.

If it’s a name you and your husband both love, I definitely wouldn’t scratch it off the list. For me, this possible family conflict is not big enough. If you family is super, super sensitive & possessive, though, then maybe ask? But I don’t think I would.

If you are not in the same town, I wouldn’t worry about it at all.

I don’t think it is a problem. My family has two [name]Eriks[/name], two Katrinas, three Peters, and two Susans.

Thanks guys! I think you all are right, I’m probably just overthinking it. I tend to do that sometimes lol. Name recycling is kind of common in my family anyway. My husband and I both love the name and thats what matters most. And mamusia, you asked about middle names…we have fallen in love with [name]Rose[/name] [name]Emmeline[/name] :slight_smile:

Sounds lovely! Best of luck to you!

They can’t really say anything because you and your husband both love the name, and it’s also a family name. If your sister has the name, who cares? And because you want to not “steal” from your cousins, why not talk to them first! And I wouldnt ask anyone if they minded either, it’s your sister’s middle name for goodness sake!

[name]Rose[/name] [name]Emmeline[/name] is so beautiful!