[name_m]Hi[/name_m] Berries! It’s me again. We are 99% sure we are going with [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] for our third baby girl. [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] is for my FIL, [name_u]Lawrence[/name_u].
However, the topic of if we will have a 4th baby or not is swirling around. The biggest cons are financial, but we would really love to have a boy or 4 sisters would be really sweet too. Anyway, the question of whether or not we should save this honor name for a boy is there. It’s tricky, because if we don’t have a fourth, then we won’t be honoring my father in law at all. We’re really not sure what to do.
If we did decide to “save” his name, we would honor my stepmom, who is amazing. Her name is [name_u]Michele[/name_u] [name_f]Renea[/name_f]. I don’t really want to use either of these, as I’m sure my stepsisters would like to use her name, but I would like to twist it. Below is what I am thinking.
(For reference my daughters are [name_f]Hazel[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] and [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Brynn[/name_f]. They have honor names as well. [name_f]Hazel[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] for both of our grandmothers and [name_f]Brynn[/name_f] for my dad Bryan.)
Other options I’ve considered: [name_f]Michaela[/name_f], [name_f]Helen[/name_f], [name_f]Helena[/name_f], [name_f]Elsa[/name_f], [name_f]Eliza[/name_f], [name_f]Nell[/name_f], Ellie… Is there anything I am missing? [name_u]Or[/name_u] anything you prefer out of these choices?
[name_f]My[/name_f] first couple thoughts were [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Renea[/name_f] and [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_u]Ren[/name_u] before I looked at your list. Other name considerations would be [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Rena[/name_f] and [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Renee[/name_f].
I used honor names as middles too, and can sympathize a bit with being uncertain who to honor with each baby. I suppose my suggestion for you is to proceed with honoring your father-in-law with your little girl. A baby named for her grandpa is so sweet. If you have a fourth, he or she can be named for your stepmom. [name_u]Ren[/name_u] would be a cool middle for a boy, if that’s how it works out.
[name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] is amazing!
Agree with the last poster. Don’t save the name for another maybe boy. If you do have a 4th you’ll still be able to come up with an amazing name, but if you don’t you might regret not using it for this baby.
Also, sharing a similar middle name (Lauren and Lawrence) would be a sweet link between siblings and is always an option if you like it.
I personally prefer [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f], [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Isobel[/name_f], [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Elowen[/name_f] and [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_u]Ren[/name_u] to [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] but in saying that, I wouldn’t save the honour name. If it’s important to you that you honour your FIL, then the regret you’ll feel at never using it will outweigh the frustration of not being able to use it for a potential son. If not using it doesn’t bother you that much, then I’d go with one of the first four I mentioned, which are gorgeous.
Since the future is unknown, I would use the honor name now. A female [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] honors just as much as a male [name_u]Lawrence[/name_u] would
[name_f]My[/name_f] name is [name_f]Michelle[/name_f] [name_f]Renee[/name_f]! [name_m]Just[/name_m] a different version. A lot of these ideas that you sound nice, but are a bit of a stretch for honor names. What about [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Michaela[/name_f]?
Thank you all so much. I hate the idea of changing it, because down with the patriarchy obviously!, but my husband and his dad have such a close relationship I know he would like to pay tribute to that with an honor name for a potential son. But 4 girls seems more likely for us. We might stay with [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] this time and use [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] or [name_f]Elowen[/name_f] or maybe [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] for a fourth baby!! Thank you all!!
I agree with @Alix2016 you do not know what the futures hold and if it was me I wouldn’t want to miss out on honouring an important loved one. Have you thought of using of using two middle names? Maybe [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Renea[/name_f] [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] honouring both your FIL and step mother. I gave my daughter two middle names to honour all my loved ones and I’m really happy I did that so everyone important is honoured.
I actually think [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_u]Ren[/name_u] would be a really cool way for honoring both people if that’s something you were interested in!!
Otherwise, [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Lauren[/name_f] is lovely as is
A lot of these ideas that you sound nice, but are a bit of a stretch for honor names. What about [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Michaela[/name_f]?
