A bit of background info…
I had 2 living grand parents growing up: maternal grandfather and
Paternal grandmother. I was closer to my grandmother.
I have one child, a daughter. Her middle name is my paternal grandmother’s name and begins with a B. my daughters initials are YBK
I am pregnant again and I naturally feel obligated to use my grandfathers name as a middle, all the more since he died last year. His name was [name]Everett[/name].
But the problem is initials: SEK? Or worse FEK? Or An ‘E’ name like [name]Elijah[/name], a name I was considering because my husbands fathers name was an ethnic diminutive of it; EEK?
Should I ask my mom what HER grandfathers name was lol? She will be hurt if the baby does not honor her side this time will [name]Everett[/name] ever work as a middle name. I don’t like
It as a first name.
There are other ways to honour your mom’s side. Whatever her name (or middle name) is, is there a masculine version of it? E.g. if she’s [name]Charlotte[/name] your son could have [name]Charles[/name] in his name. Is her maiden name usable as a name? Or perhaps your grandfather’s middle name works?
I’ve heard people suggest using, say, your mom’s favourite colour, the name of the street she grew up on, the town she was born in, etc. to honour her if they work as names. I’ve thought of asking the person I want to honour to pick out a name for my future children if I didn’t like their name. Having a part in picking out a little one’s name is just as special as them carrying your name, [name]IMO[/name].
SEK isn’t that bad as initials, FEK isn’t preferable but not that bad. You should stay away from EEK if initials matter to you. But I’ve a feeling most non-namenerds don’t notice/care much. You can say to your mom or a friend that you’re considering F____ [name]Everett[/name] or S____ [name]Everett[/name] and see what they say, knowing your last name begins with a K. If they don’t notice the “weird” initials you’re golden.
S.E.K. and F.E.K. arent that bad in my opinion…E.E.K., that could be annoying. [name]Even[/name] if most people dont notice, there are many times in life when initials are used–legal documents, monograms, automatically generated email addresses…but I dont think it matters unless its a way negative word, obscenity, or insult.
F. [name]Everett[/name] is worlds better than F. [name]Ulysses[/name]!
I forgot to add my dad buys luggage, duffles, lunch boxes etc for everyone always for [name]Christmas[/name], embroydered with their 3 initials, so we see them alot.
I asked her what her Grandfathers name was and she said [name]Arthur[/name]…works a bit better. But her maiden name is S so that maybe doable
SEK sounds like the beginning of a very rude word in my husbands native language, sorry for not explaining. And FEK is used as an alternative swear word around here
I don’t think SEK is bad. I would stay away from FEK if there was a way to do it, and EEK just screams Halloween to me. I think that usually, except when your dad is monogramming everyones stuff, just the first and last initial (SK, EK) will be used. I have a brother whose initials are MGF, which isn’t an issue unless he has to initial a document…MF. He mentioned it a few months ago that a guy at work laughs every time [name]Mark[/name] has to initial something. My mom apologized, because that was never something she realized. Whoops. It’s something he laughs at though. It doesn’t bother him, and he’s the one that has to live with it. Also, depending on how the items are monogrammed, it still may not pose an issue. I.E., I have a friend whose initials are RKF. But when she got a bumper sticker with her initials for her car, the F was in the middle in a larger font than the other two, so it read RFK. Sorry if that’s confusing. I’m just trying to say that even if you think there is an issue with the initials, it doesn’t mean it will haunt him his whole life.
