Hello,
We both love the name [name_f]Mary[/name_f] but we have already used [name_f]Mary[/name_f] as the middle for eldest daughter. Is that the end of the road for [name_f]Mary[/name_f]?
Thoughts please!
Thanks Berries
It’s a personal decision. You certainly can. Would I? Probably not. I wouldn’t want my second child thinking I named them after the first. I’d want them to feel special in every way possible. But just because some people like me feel this way doesn’t mean anyone is going to judge you for doing so. Most people don’t pay attention to middle names. I doubt it would be a big deal. But for me personally, it’s a deal breaker. If you can’t bring yourself to use it, there are lots of names that can give you mary as a nickname. What about going this route?
I think each child should have their own name but I would love to see you use an International Variation of [name_f]Mary[/name_f] (list on Nameberry), many of which are lovely. Both girls would have a connection to the name but each their own. Some that I like, but there are many to choose from…
[name_f]Marinka[/name_f]
[name_f]Maryse[/name_f]
[name_f]Mara[/name_f]
[name_f]Miri[/name_f]
[name_f]Mirielle[/name_f]
[name_f]Mura[/name_f]
Mauri
I agree with previous posters. I would have hated sharing a name with my sister. I like having my own unique name and believe every child should.
Some other options that weren’t posted are [name_f]Marie[/name_f] or [name_f]Marina[/name_f]
I personally think it isn’t a good idea… Also are there no other names you want to use? I feel like it would almost be like ‘wasting’ a name spot.
Yes, I think that’s the end of [name_f]Mary[/name_f].
Each child should have their own identity, and one is already owning [name_f]Mary[/name_f].
I personally wouldn’t use it again. I hated sharing the same initials as my oldest sister, and our youngest sister felt left out because she didn’t have the same initials as us (and my goodness did she moan about that lol!)
I can imagine if you had a third daughter, she might not feel as special as her sisters because she didn’t have the name Mary.
I would perhaps use a variation of the name, such as Maria or Marian.
I wouldn’t, for the reasons other commenters mentioned, and there are lots of other names similar to [name_f]Mary[/name_f] that you could use! My best friend’s name is [name_f]Marielle[/name_f], for example. (She was named for her grandmothers, [name_f]Mary[/name_f] and [name_f]Ellen[/name_f].)
Perhaps [name_u]Marion[/name_u] would be better? It has the same meaning and sounds pretty similar but this retains the identity of your first born 
I agree with everybody else. However, I think the suggestion of [name_f]Marina[/name_f] could do the trick. It’s close enough to [name_f]Mary[/name_f], but it’s it’s own name and your daughther wouldn’t feel less special. Personally I think [name_f]Stella[/name_f] [name_f]Marina[/name_f] would be a gorgeous choice…
What about [name_f]Rosemary[/name_f]? It goes really well with your other childrens’ names (all of which I absolutely love, by the way!) and is a way to include [name_f]Mary[/name_f]/get to it as a nickname if you want without using it directly.
It’s completely up to you. But I wouldn’t. I think that the name [name_f]Mary[/name_f] belongs to your eldest daughter that’s part of her name the name you chose for her. Therefore for your second daughter I feel you need to chose a different name first and middle which can form her identity. However I do not see the harm in choosing a name related to [name_f]Mary[/name_f].
Names similar to [name_f]Mary[/name_f]:
[name_f]Miriam[/name_f]
[name_u]Marion[/name_u]
[name_f]Martha[/name_f]
[name_f]Margaret[/name_f]
[name_f]Mara[/name_f]
[name_f]Rosemary[/name_f]
[name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]
[name_f]Ann[/name_f]
[name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Bridget[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]Susannah[/name_f]
[name_f]Frances[/name_f]
[name_f]Josephine[/name_f]
[name_f]Caroline[/name_f]
[name_f]Laura[/name_f]
[name_f]Florence[/name_f]
[name_f]Rebekah[/name_f]
[name_f]Ellen[/name_f]
[name_f]Louisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Lillian[/name_f]
: )
I personally wouldn’t do it. Each child deserves their own name.
I definitely think you could. I know a couple sisters who have this situation (the second one has the same first name as the older one’s middle name) and as far as I know it’s never bothered them. In fact I think it would be fun to have something in my name connecting me to my sister, my best friend in the world, especially since one day when we’re married we won’t share the same last name anymore.
[name_f]Mary[/name_f] is a very pretty name. I think if I saw that someone had used it twice I would assume it was for family reasons or something since [name_f]Mary[/name_f] is so familiar and relatively common. I wouldn’t think it was weird.
My boyfriend is the oldest of 7 children. When the youngest was born, the fourth boy, he was almost 18 years old. They used my boyfriend’s middle name for the youngest’s first name. They joked about doing it at first, but it ended up being the best choice for them. We all think it’s cool that there’s that connection between the oldest and youngest kid.
At the end of the day it is your kid and you can name her what you want. In my personal opinion though, it seems redundant and I would say it’s the end of the road for [name_f]Mary[/name_f].
I don’t think it would be fair unless you were going to give her your eldest’s first name as a middle name too. So they both have each other’s first name as a middle name.
But that would be very confusing for official papers and things - I would choose a different name entirely.
Well, it’s weird but if you feel like [name_f]Mary[/name_f] is the perfect name then use it I agree with whitegardenia, you could choose a variation and as ashleyf mentioned it could work and be a cute way to connect your children’s names