@g19 – Thanks! As far as [name_m]Eben[/name_m] goes, a quick search shows there’s quite a bit of fluctuation between the two obvious pronunciations and I think both are actually legit. I automatically went with Eh-ben, referencing [name_m]Ebenezer[/name_m]. But it also looks like Ee-ben is correct. Check this out: http://appellationmountain.net/name-of-the-day-eben/
@Kibby – Hmm. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you want him to tell you? I think if the answer is yes, then you should also tell him yours. Common courtesy type thing. If you’re okay with not knowing his name plans, then I think it will only be prudent if you and your brother wind up pregnant at the same time (well, he won’t be but you know what I mean….) then it might be good to as you may be planning to use the same/similar names and it’d suck to be the one going “but I was going to use that…” when they announce their chosen baby name.
If you have a baby and his SO isn’t pregnant and doesn’t become pregnant during that time, then I think it’s okay to keep the names to yourself. However, if the situation is reversed and you’re worried they’ll choose your name, it might be good to discuss it. Again, comes back to common courtesy stuff.
So yeah, considering there is significant chance you’ll use same / similar names, I’d consider talking to him about it to avoid any confusion and frustration and drama. I felt like I just typed in circles, haha. [name_u]Lucky[/name_u] for me my sisters and I don’t have the same name agendas.
I’ve noticed that a lot of the girl’s names I like end in “la” and / or have an “L” presence. Is this too match-y for a sibset? Does it create a theme that will make the other name feel out of place? Ex:
[name_f]Luella[/name_f], [name_f]Viola[/name_f], [name_f]Wilhelmina[/name_f] & [name_f]Henrietta[/name_f]? or [name_f]Luella[/name_f], [name_f]Finola[/name_f] & [name_f]Henrietta[/name_f]?