Renaming myself

[mellona]

I’m a bit hesitant to post this here, as I’ve not told a soul save for three friends, but here goes. After years of introspection and subsequent denial, I have finally decided to put my happiness first and come out as transgender. I’m terrified, but I’ve come to the realization that the only way to live a fulfilling life is to transition and become who I truly am inside. In light of this, I need your assistance.

As much as I adore my childhood nickname, [name_f]Sashi[/name_f], I’m concerned that it is too feminine to fit me now, and thus I am searching for a more suitably masculine name. I’m open to any and every suggestion, but I am looking for something not too common or stereotypical. I like spunky, whimsical names, preferably with a nickname, but it’s not a requirement. it’s an added plus if they stem from mythology, the arts, or history.

Here are a few names I could see myself using …

[name_m]Ajax[/name_m] - I like the mythological connection, and it sounds quirky with the punchy ‘X’. The meaning, “eagle”, symbolizes freedom, which is significant to me as well. One of my friends has a friend named [name_u]Jaxx[/name_u], and my step-nephew’s name is similar as well, but I don’t interact with either often.

[name_u]Arlo[/name_u] - I’m a fan of the [name_m]Edmund[/name_m] [name_u]Spenser[/name_u] connection, and it’s adorably vintage.

[name_m]Benno[/name_m] - [name_f]My[/name_f] concern is that it’s too nickname-y, or cutesy.

Finlo/Finnegan “Finn” - I’m aware that [name_u]Finn[/name_u] is a popular name chosen by transgender men, but I think either of these forms are distinct enough to stand out.

[name_m]Hugo[/name_m] - “The Invention of [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] Cabret” is one of my favorite childhood books, and the film adaptation is dear to my heart as well. There’s also [name_m]Victor[/name_m] [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], one of the greatest authors, in my opinion.

[name_u]Huxley[/name_u] - It came to mind while I was reading “Adventures of [name_m]Huckleberry[/name_m] Finn”, and I think that it’s awfully sweet sounding. I also like that it can be shortened to [name_m]Huck[/name_m]. No one else seems to like it, however. Perhaps it’s too trendy ??

“Theo” - [name_f]My[/name_f] only qualm is that I can’t find a full name for it that I like. [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] just isn’t for me.

[name_m]Wilbur[/name_m] “Will” - I could definitely see myself as a [name_u]Will[/name_u], and [name_m]Wilbur[/name_m] is a longtime name love of mine, but everyone’s immediate association has either been an elderly man or a pig, which isn’t the most flattering, admittedly.

I apologize if this is not the correct space for this thread. If it is not, I’ll request to have it moved. Thank you all ever so much for any replies I may receive !!

[venezio]

congrats on coming out!!

although unisex, i think Sasha could be a good alternative for you! but it seems like you’re looking for something that’s more masculine

thoughts on the names you mentioned

ajax is lovely! the nn jax is very cute as well

arlo doesn’t have a nickname like you want, but it is nice nonetheless

benno doesn’t feel like nickname to me, nor is it very cutesy, so i think you would be fine!

finlo & finnegan are great ways to get to nn finn. and if it makes you feel any better, i only know one trans fin (spelled that with one n). i wouldn’t consider it a typical trans guy name

hugo has some great associations for you, which is always a plus!

huxley isn’t my favorite either honestly, however! you should love your name, it doesn’t matter what other people think (: huck is an adorable nickname, as well

theo can work as a full name imo! maybe you would like theon, theoden, or theodis?

wilbur feels more modern to me due to the wilbur soot association! like with huxley, if you love it, you should use it! wilbur is definitely my favorite for you, with it being a longtime love & how you can see yourself as a will

a few additional suggestions

alistair “ali”
ambrose “rose”
caspian “cas” “ian”
claude “claudie”
elias “eli”
emery / emrys “em”
flynn
percy
soren “ren”
victor

[NoMoreTopTen]

Thoughts on the names:
[name_m]Ajax[/name_m] was (maybe still is) the name of a cleaning product. It’s also something using in programming.
[name_u]Arlo[/name_u] is nice.
[name_m]Benno[/name_m] does sound like a nickname from somewhere like Australia.
I like [name_u]Finnegan[/name_u] but prefer [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] more, without the “G” sound.
[name_m]Hugo[/name_m] - nms but it’s easy to spell and pronounce.
[name_u]Huxley[/name_u] - Seems too much like a last name.
[name_u]Theo[/name_u] can be a standalone name also.
[name_m]Wilbur[/name_m] - Seems kind of dated and I think of the pig, but if you use [name_u]Will[/name_u] as a nickname that is pretty common.

[Victory55]

[name_u]Sasha[/name_u] is a nick name for [name_m]Alexander[/name_m], so you could do that or something like [name_m]Xander[/name_m]. [name_u]Huxley[/name_u] [name_m]Xander[/name_m] is cool. [name_u]Or[/name_u] you could take the [name_u]Ash[/name_u] sound and get [name_u]Asher[/name_u]. [name_u]Asher[/name_u] [name_u]Huxley[/name_u] or [name_u]Asher[/name_u] [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] is great too.

[mellona]

Thank you very much for your kind words, and for your valuable input as well !! I do love [name_u]Sasha[/name_u], but I unfortunately present very femininely at the moment, and I think that it’s a bit too ambiguous. Among your marvelous suggestions, my favorites are [name_m]Theoden[/name_m], [name_m]Caspian[/name_m], [name_u]Percy[/name_u], and [name_m]Soren[/name_m]. Again, many thanks !

[mellona]

[name_m]Alas[/name_m], when I brought up [name_m]Ajax[/name_m] to my friends, they said the same thing. It’s unfortunate, as it would be a good choice if not for that association. I suppose it’s too inextricably tied to it to be used ?? Thank you for your help !! [name_m]Finnian[/name_m] is a good recommendation.

[mellona]

[name_u]Asher[/name_u] is brilliant !! You have my gratitude.

[the_common_fool]

so happy for you! it’s scary but such a beautiful moment to finally realize something so important about yourself (:

as already suggested, [name_u]Sasha[/name_u] is great (one of my favorites) and you could keep your nickname if that’s terribly important to you!

off your list, [name_u]Arlo[/name_u], [name_u]Finnegan[/name_u], and [name_m]Wilbur[/name_m] stand out. funnily enough I considered just [name_u]Theo[/name_u] for myself but never fully thought [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] fit!

📖 other suggestions

[name_f]Albertine[/name_f] “Al” “Alby”
[name_m]Ambrose[/name_m] “Ro”
[name_u]Arthur[/name_u] “Art” “Teddy”
[name_m]Astrophel[/name_m]
[name_m]Atticus[/name_m] “Kit”
[name_u]Auberon[/name_u] / [name_u]Oberon[/name_u] “Berry”
[name_u]Barrett[/name_u] “Bear” “Barry”
[name_m]Benvolio[/name_m] “Benno” “Ben” “Leo”
[name_m]Calvin[/name_m] “Cal”
[name_u]Cassio[/name_u] “Cas”
[name_m]Claudius[/name_m] “Claude” “Claudie”
[name_m]Conrad[/name_m]
[name_u]Dorian[/name_u]
[name_m]Edmund[/name_m] “Eddie” “Teddy”
[name_m]Emile[/name_m]
[name_m]Fabian[/name_m]
[name_m]Gilbert[/name_m] “Gil”
[name_m]Gulliver[/name_m]
[name_u]Harper[/name_u]
[name_m]Hector[/name_m]
[name_u]Jasper[/name_u] “Jaz”
[name_m]Langston[/name_m]
[name_m]Lemuel[/name_m] “Lem”
[name_m]Malcolm[/name_m] “Mal” “Mac”
[name_m]Magnus[/name_m] “Mags”
[name_m]Ossian[/name_m] “Ozzy” “Ian”
[name_m]Owain[/name_m]
[name_m]Percival[/name_m] “Percy”
[name_m]Phineas[/name_m] / [name_m]Finneas[/name_m] “Finn”
[name_u]Pippin[/name_u] “Pip”
[name_u]Praxis[/name_u] “Pax”
[name_m]Quintus[/name_m] “Quinn”
[name_u]Rhys[/name_u]
[name_u]Sawyer[/name_u]
[name_m]Silas[/name_m] “Si”
[name_u]Taliesin[/name_u] “Tal” “Lee”
[name_m]Titus[/name_m]
[name_m]Truman[/name_m] “Truey”
[name_m]Valencio[/name_m] “Val”
[name_m]Winston[/name_m]

I hope you find a name that you love for you! Best of luck on the journey ahead

[Greyblue]

Congratualtions!!

I really like [name_u]Arlo[/name_u], [name_m]Wilbur[/name_m] and [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] for you!! [name_m]Finlo[/name_m] and [name_u]Huxley[/name_u] are nice too!

Alessander “Sasha”
[name_m]Edwin[/name_m]
[name_m]Leon[/name_m]
[name_m]Apollo[/name_m]
[name_u]Percy[/name_u]
[name_m]Isidore[/name_m]
[name_m]Dashiell[/name_m]
[name_m]Orson[/name_m]
[name_u]Orion[/name_u]
[name_m]Winston[/name_m]
[name_m]Tobias[/name_m]
[name_m]Patton[/name_m]
[name_m]Franklin[/name_m]
[name_m]Ronan[/name_m]

[Halloween_Jacqueline]

Congratulations and I hope you find the perfect name!

Out of your list, I like [name_u]Arlo[/name_u] and [name_u]Theo[/name_u] the most (and I think [name_u]Theo[/name_u] works fine as a “full” name). Other names I thought of:
Felix—seems to combine some of the sounds/vibes from the names you listed
[name_m]Matheo[/name_m] (ma-tay-o)/Mateo
[name_u]Leo[/name_u]
[name_m]Mathis[/name_m] (as either MATH-iss or Ma-TEES—I go for the second pronunciation myself)
I also love the suggestion of [name_u]Asher[/name_u] and would also suggest [name_u]Ash[/name_u] on its own (or as a nickname for Asher!)

[mellona]

Thank you for your suggestions, I greatly appreciate it !! You really hit the nail on the head. From your list, I adore [name_u]Arthur[/name_u] (I can’t believe I didn’t think of it myself !!), [name_m]Atticus[/name_m], [name_u]Oberon[/name_u] and [name_u]Barrett[/name_u] (I do have a friend named [name_m]Bear[/name_m], however …), [name_m]Benvolio[/name_m], [name_u]Cassio[/name_u], [name_m]Claudius[/name_m], [name_u]Dorian[/name_u], [name_m]Edmund[/name_m] (on my longer list !!), [name_m]Fabian[/name_m], [name_m]Gilbert[/name_m], [name_m]Gulliver[/name_m]. [name_m]Hector[/name_m], [name_m]Magnus[/name_m], [name_m]Owain[/name_m], [name_m]Percival[/name_m], [name_m]Phineas[/name_m], [name_u]Sawyer[/name_u], and [name_m]Winston[/name_m].

[mellona]

Thank you !! The reception I’ve been receiving so far is quite refreshing. Hopefully it continues !

From your list, I’m fond of …
Alessander
[name_m]Edwin[/name_m]
[name_m]Apollo[/name_m]
[name_u]Percy[/name_u]
[name_m]Isidore[/name_m]
[name_m]Dashiell[/name_m]
[name_u]Orion[/name_u]
[name_m]Winston[/name_m]
[name_m]Ronan[/name_m]

Much thanks !!

[mellona]

[name_m]Felix[/name_m], [name_m]Matheo[/name_m], [name_u]Leo[/name_u] are sublime. Much obliged !!

[the_common_fool]

I’m so glad you enjoyed so many! [name_u]Arthur[/name_u] is a huge favorite of mine & I almost used it as my middle name! (:

[EllArePea]

Hmm you have a lot of great choices! [name_f]My[/name_f] favorite for you is [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], but I also really like [name_u]Huxley[/name_u], [name_m]Ajax[/name_m], and [name_u]Arlo[/name_u]

[Conqueror1991]

I love [name_u]Arlo[/name_u], [name_m]Hugo[/name_m] and [name_u]Finnegan[/name_u] for you!

How about:
[name_u]Dexter[/name_u]
[name_u]Jericho[/name_u]
[name_u]Vaughn[/name_u]
[name_m]Benji[/name_m]
[name_m]Wilfred[/name_m]
[name_m]Orrin[/name_m]
[name_u]Phoenix[/name_u]
[name_u]Noble[/name_u]
[name_u]Quincy[/name_u]
[name_u]Maddox[/name_u]
[name_m]Clark[/name_m]
[name_m]Zechariah[/name_m]
[name_m]Fletcher[/name_m]
[name_m]Xavier[/name_m]