[name]Hi[/name],
I am having baby name remorse over my daughters name. She is 10 mos old. Originally I had planned to name her [name]Rachel[/name] [name]Mariah[/name] but after my grandmother passed I wanted to honor her and my husband wanted to honor his grandmothers as well. We named her [name]Elyssa[/name] [name]Beatrice[/name] to honor [name]Edna[/name]+[name]Alice[/name] and [name]Beatrice[/name]. I initially chose [name]Elissa[/name] but after some pressure from my mom I changed it to [name]Elyssa[/name] and hate the spelling.
[name]Elissa[/name] fits her well enough but It isn’t really my style at all. It is the only thing my husband and I agreed on and even in the hospital I really pushed for a different name because I wanted a hebrew name. In the hospital the nurse started calling her [name]Elissa[/name] before I had even settled on it and between her and dad I kjust felt pressured. Now 10 mos has passed and I have thought of it every single day and it honestly makes me feel really sad. She will probably be my only daughter and I did’nt name her what I wanted. I love her brothers name [name]Noah[/name] it is perfect for him. I want to feel the same about my daughter’s name. I have always loved [name]Eliana[/name] but my husband nixed it along with about 50 other names i liked. Now he really likes it. I feel it is not too different, and it still uses letters from [name]Alice[/name] and [name]Edna[/name] just maybe not so obvious.
I can’t seem to let it go. My husband says if I want to change it just change it as he is tired of talking about it and he thinks I should also like her name. [name]Even[/name] my toddler has been calling her [name]Eliana[/name] the last few days. Her hebrew naming ceremony is coming up and I will choose [name]Eliana[/name] as her hebrew name and would like to also change it to her legal name. Am I crazy? What should I do? Is [name]Elissa[/name] fine or would you change it.
I say change it. A name should be something you [name]LOVE[/name], she is only 10mos and if you change it from [name]Elissa[/name] (which I don’t love) to [name]Eliana[/name] (very cute) she probably could care less. I know someone who changed her daughter’s name from [name]Sydney[/name] to [name]Lily[/name] at 26mos. [name]Do[/name] what you feel is best for you and your daughter.
Definitely change it, you want to love her name and she is still very young; I don’t see any harm in giving her the name you want.
I think [name]Eliana[/name] is much nicer than [name]Elyssa[/name].
I also think you should change her name to [name]Eliana[/name]. Of course it’s a big decision to make, and probably a bit of a process, but it will make you feel so much better. [name]Elyssa[/name] is very young, and you shouldn’t have any issues as far as calling her a new name, especially one that start with the same sound.
Good luck! And take a deep breath, you’ll get through it. [name]Eliana[/name] is a beautiful name
If you and your husband both like [name]Eliana[/name], then I say change it. Your baby’s too young to know the difference and it won’t take everyone else that long to adjust.
Change it. Change it. Change it. I think most of the berries gave the opposite advice to someone recently, but with her it was clear that she had some baby blues and worries over myriad potential nicknames. It’s obvious you never wanted the name from the start (and even with [name]Elyssa[/name], I would prefer [name]Elissa[/name]. I hate seeing i’s randomly replaced with y’s).
I love [name]Eliana[/name]. Not crazy at all about [name]Elyssa[/name]. She’s only 10 months old so it will not affect her in any way. If anything, as she grows up she’ll feel special to have the story of being born with one name and having it changed to another. A friend was given a random middle name by mistake (her mother was in a haze after birth) and her mom always shared her regret but never tried to change it. My friend always wished she’d had the name her mother had wanted to give her, even if it was just the middle.
You should love the name you’re going to call your daughter for the rest of your life. [name]Don[/name]'t let a little paperwork get in the way.
I would definitely change it, especially if you were feeling pressured into liking something you can’t stand…
I love [name]Eliana[/name], I think it’s beautiful, and if your son is calling her it and your hubby and you both like it more then I don’t see why not.
As PPs have said, she’s only 10 months, so it won’t affect her at all.
Good luck, congrats on your baby and I hope you make the right decision (;
Yes, I agree with the other 'Berries. In this particular case, you never truly “chose” this name for your baby. With your husband in agreement and the perfect opportunity of her naming ceremony coming up, I would jump at the chance to deliberately give your much-loved child a much-loved name. She’ll like this story when she grows up.
Plus [name]Eliana[/name] is miles above [name]Elyssa[/name], and [name]Beatrice[/name] still works great in the mn spot.
Thank you all so much for your thoughtful answers. We have decided to rename her [name]Eliana[/name] [name]Beatrice[/name] and her Hebrew name is [name]Eliana[/name] Atira (God has answered my prayer) perfect meaning for this baby girl. I am so happy and feel like it truly fits her. All the comments here really helped me to feel confident with such a big decision. I hope she loves it as much as I love her.
I bowed to family pressure and named my son after his grandfathers. The name was a traditional, classic name, but I never did like it. It never did fit him. If I could do it again, I would give him a name that I loved to say and write. [name]Glad[/name] you are following your heart.
CHANGE IT!!! I was in the same position. I had wanted to name my baby [name]Liam[/name] [name]Andrew[/name]. I had other names I liked too. But, my dh hated all the names. He finally decided he was ok with [name]Ryan[/name], but we had a [name]Riley[/name] already. I had complications from the birth and under the influence of a lot of drugs, let him go with [name]Ryan[/name]. But by the time I was being discharged (almost 2 weeks later) I knew that was a huge mistake. Later, dh always said I could change it, but I never did. Now he is almost 2 yrs old and I never have liked his name and it is a huge regret. Change your baby’s name asap!!! Go for it!!
Im so sorry to hear that, hey maybe its not to late! I loved [name]Liam[/name] [name]Patrick[/name] but when we had our son we both knew he was a [name]Noah[/name] and he really is. I always think of [name]Liam[/name] though because my grandmother adored the combo(she’s Irish) I dont have a tinge of regret at all over that decision though. I also liked [name]Ryan[/name] though. I always thought it was a handsome name.
I agree that baby is much too young to be bothered by a change. We had some friends rename their baby at 18 months… from Shaheen to [name]Tristan[/name], a much bigger change! Go for it and don’t look back!
I agree. Change it to [name]Eliana[/name] at the naming ceremony (how perfect), then change it legally when you can. As long as you’re not intending the name change to defraud, you can legally use it and change it through the courts when you can.
[name]Eliana[/name] is a beautiful name – both Hebrew and English – so I say Mazel tov! Enjoy!
Defintely change it.
10 months might have passed, but that’s no timespan at all compared with all the years ahead.
Changing it may seem like a big deal now, but once done you’ll be very glad you did.
Best wishes and good luck.
