My husband is 100% set on the name [name_f]Nova[/name_f], and honestly I kinda love it as well. It really suits our family, and has personal meaning. Our anniversary and due date are back to back in [name_u]November[/name_u], so [name_f]Nova[/name_f] seems fitting.
The trouble I’m having (as my husband does not see it as trouble at all) is I have a cousin who I learned has a daughter named [name_f]Nova[/name_f]. We aren’t close. We don’t live in the same state. I’ve never met the kid, and probably never will and honestly if not for good ol’ facebook, I’d never have even known about the baby at all. But I do talk to other relatives in the family who live near her and see her.
I see the dilemma. if you are worried about it, ask the other couple if they wouldnt mind you using the name as well. (just good manners imo.) But if you dont care weather or not they ever speak to you or what they say about you to mutual family members, just do it. I think its a lovely name and you’ve explained why it would be a great fit for your family. Its your child. And if theres such a small chance the girls will ever meet i dont see it being a problem.
Congrats! [name_f]Nova[/name_f] sounds perfect for you, I’d say use it.
If it were me, I’d send my cousin a PM on Facebook that says something like:
“[name_m]Hi[/name_m], hope you and your family are doing well! Your little girl is adorable! You have great taste in baby names - I see that her name is [name_f]Nova[/name_f]. That’s the name we’ve decided on for our little girl! She’s due in [name_u]November[/name_u] which is also our anniversary month. And of course it is one that my husband and I finally agree on! Looks like the name is serving your little one well so far, we hope our little girl loves it too!”
As long as you compliment her on her choice and give her a heads up so she’s not caught off guard there isn’t much she can say. If you ask for permission or her blessing to use it you have to be prepared to hear “no”
I don’t even think you need to ask permission, they don’t own the name after all! If you’re not close and don’t even live in the same state then I say it’s totally fine. I don’t live in the same state as my cousins yet we see each other on occasion and I would feel totally comfortable naming my kid the same name as theirs, if I really wanted to. If you ask their permission, you run the chance of them saying no; then you’re left in the uncomfortable position of naming your child what you want anyway and having them complain to the rest of your family or not being able to use the name you love at all. Maybe give them a heads up, but I don’t even that is necessary. Hopefully they’re mature enough to take it as a compliment. I mean, did they really expect that their [name_f]Nova[/name_f] would be the only [name_f]Nova[/name_f] to ever exist? I hope not
If the last name will be different, which I assume is the case, I think it is a non-issue. Also, the fact that you don’t know or see the girl confirms for me that you can certainly use [name_f]Nova[/name_f]. BTW, [name_f]Nova[/name_f] is a lovely choice!
I say use it!
Right after I was born, 3 cousins were subsequently named the same name as me (first and middle go figure, my name isn’t that common). My parents never cared and were actually flattered that they (other family) liked the name so much. I finally met all 3 of those cousins a few years ago, it was nbd. I like to joke that I was a trendsetter
That’s the name we’ve decided on for our little girl! She’s due in [name_u]November[/name_u] which is also our anniversary month. And of course it is one that my husband and I finally agree on! Looks like the name is serving your little one well so far, we hope our little girl loves it too!”
