Santa doesn't come to our house?

For those of you who are not [name]Christian[/name], or do not celebrate [name]Christmas[/name], but live in the [name]West[/name] where [name]Christmas[/name] is a popular holiday, what do you tell your kids?

A little late, but [name]Happy[/name] Hanukkah to all the Jewish Berries!

My daughter is not yet 1 but I am in the same situation kinda!

I was raised Catholic & my husband is a Jewish raised Atheist. No other kids on my side & a bunch of Jewish cousins who proudly know that [name]Santa[/name] is fake & laugh about what morons the [name]Christian[/name] kids are at their schools! I guess I’m going to just see what pans out but I certainly don’t want my kid to destroy anyone else’s holiday or have that smarter than the rest attitude but I also don’t want her to feel [name]Santa[/name] just doesn’t like her cousins & all the Jewish kids or something like that!!

I was raised [name]Christian[/name] and I still never believed in [name]Santa[/name] [name]Claus[/name]. We celebrated [name]Christmas[/name] and enjoyed the fun of [name]Santa[/name] but it was never taken remotely seriously. [name]Santa[/name] lived with the tooth fairy and the [name]Easter[/name] [name]Bunny[/name] in a chateau floating above the north pole, lol–it was all considered fun silliness along with all things Disney. I’m sure it must be tough to try to raise your kids 100% free of all Christmasiness, but not all Christians are into the [name]Santa[/name] side of it either.

I’m sure there are other things you can do to make the holiday season feel super special and fun. My family always goes and walks around a beautiful area that has tons of lights (many of which are Hanukkah themed!). Honestly, most of our traditions aren’t particularly connected to anything “Christmasy”. We bake cookies, we hang lights, we give gifts to the less fortunate, we spend time with family, we shop! I’m sure it can be hard for kids, but maybe search around on pintrest for some awesome non-religious traditions and activities for kids.

I feel like the [name]Santa[/name] issue is separate from the religion issue. I never had any intention of presenting [name]Santa[/name] as real, only as a story. Maybe it’s because I saw my mom putting presents under the tree when I was pretty young (like 2 or 3) and can’t remember a time that I believed in him, but I don’t really see the appeal. The whole [name]Santa[/name] thing seems kind of sacrilegious anyway, but to each their own. I can tell him that other kids do believe and that there will always be people that believe things different from him, and that’s ok. Maybe that part will help with the religion issue too, since my family is Baptist, his dad’s mom is Jewish and neither of us is religious. Hopefully I can teach him to respect everyone’s beliefs.

I like this. I still want him to get the family togetherness and the lessons of appreciation, gratitude and kindness to those less fortunate. I just don’t know how much religion (or even which one) to throw into the mix.

We always did [name]Santa[/name], but none of us took it seriously.

We’re not [name]Christian[/name], but so many of the things Christians do at [name]Christmas[/name] was taken from the original pagan celebrations anyway (such as the tree, the fire, gift giving (which is just for pagans of course), the Red and Green colors, holly, mistletoe, wreaths, etc.) and the date itself was taken by a pope from pagan celebrations, so we’re going to do everything the same. Besides that, some scholars even believe Santa was taken as a mixture of Odin and St. Nicholas (as they share a lot of physical properties and whatnot). It’s just going to be [name]Yule[/name] to us and if we decide to do [name]Santa[/name], we’re going to approach it like my parents did, as a sort of game. [name]Santa[/name] was never real to me (and it never bothered me that my friends believed in him, my mom just said that some people did and to keep it secret). Of course, the spirit that [name]Santa[/name] embodies is something we want to teach our kids, but [name]Santa[/name] is just not something I think we need to lie to our children about and then have to explain later. There’s plenty of other ways for children to be filled with wonder (natural ways) and they don’t need silly lies for it.

[name]Hope[/name] that doesn’t offend anyone. If anyone is offended, I’m sorry, and I’d be happy to elaborate on the Pagan origins of Christmas if anyone is offended or has questions.

We do a secular [name]Christmas[/name] filled with [name]Santa[/name], family, cookies, and cheer. It’s just like regular [name]Christmas[/name], but without the religious aspect.

I’m Catholic and we plan not to do [name]Santa[/name]. [name]Christmas[/name] to me is much more than just [name]Santa[/name]. It’s [name]Jesus[/name]'s Birthday and he is the real meaning of [name]Christmas[/name]. We plan on just being honest with our children if they ask and find some way to let them know that other kids want to believe and therefore to keep it a secret that [name]Santa[/name] isn’t “real.”

[name]Santa[/name] is just too superficial/commercial and there is a lot more to [name]Christmas[/name] than a jolly man. There’s decorating the tree, baking cookies, donating toys/gifts to those in need, advent, seeing holiday lights, etc!

I just want to point out that being [name]Christian[/name] doesn’t mean you have [name]Santa[/name]. There really is no religious aspect to [name]Santa[/name] other than St. [name]Nick[/name]. For the most part everything is just “fairy tale” Magical elves, he lives at the north pole, flying reindeer? He might have once been part of Christianity, but I wouldn’t consider him to be anymore.

Dabtea; you are spot on, this is being thought in Norway from an early age (and it’s a christian nation).
I’m raised protestant with a little jewishness, now I’m jewish living with a catholic. We think Father [name]Christmas[/name], as we call him here, is a cute story, but we won’t make our kids believe in him. There are some great stories with Father [name]Christmas[/name] (or Julenisssen as he is known in Norway), and we will read those to our kids. But if they ask if he’s real, I’ll be honest with them (as with everything else).

I’m also a Catholic but [name]Christmas[/name] has always been less about religion and more about family, friends, fun, food and happiness to me. My brother and I went to a Catholic school so we were in nativity plays every year etc but Father [name]Christmas[/name]/St [name]Nicholas[/name] was always talked about too. At home and at school we were taught about [name]Jesus[/name]’ birth (though told that he was more than likely born in the summer instead ;)) AND about the origins of the pagan festival that was originally on [name]December[/name] 25th.

I like celebrating random holidays from other religions too (e.g Diwali) and when I have kids I’d like to do the same thing with them. There’re so many interesting and fun holidays that take place over [name]November[/name]/[name]December[/name] and I think it’s a great way to learn about other cultures and traditions. :slight_smile:

Not really sure what my point was here… I think I had one at the start and then waffled on…

I like the idea of exploring holidays and traditions from other religions/cultures. If he does decide to follow a particular religion at some point, I’d much prefer it be because he finds meaning in it, not just because he was raised a certain way, and that’s how we always did it growing up, so I guess I’ll just keep on doing the same things without ever questioning it…

I don’t see what [name]Santa[/name] has to do with Christianity. [name]Santa[/name] is secular. We do celebrate [name]Christmas[/name] complete with [name]Santa[/name] and I make sure my girls know the story of [name]Christ[/name]. We give gifts to continue the tradition of the Three Wise Men. I don’t want it all about [name]Santa[/name] since that’s really not what it’s about but [name]Santa[/name] is a lot of fun for little kids and I don’t want to take the fun away from my girls. Grandma’s house is a downright [name]Winter[/name] Wonderland come Christmastime, with [name]Santa[/name] riding a [name]Harley[/name] over the garage. I do have a friend who doesn’t celebrate any holidays or birthdays-some sort of Muslim religion, she’s not very good at explaining things so I don’t really know what it is other than something to do with Muslim. I know she has a bit of a tough time because [name]Easter[/name], [name]Christmas[/name], all those big celebrations are hard to avoid and children naturally want to participate. Kids don’t like to be different from all their friends. Had a hard time getting her mom to not get presents for her daughter and that to me is just taking your religion to the extreme. I can’t imagine telling Grandma, nope you can’t get your grandchild anything. I’ve wanted to as our children have so much stuff they do not need more [name]EVERY[/name] birthday, [name]EVERY[/name] holiday, [name]EVERY[/name] [name]Christmas[/name]-it’s just overwhelming how much stuff kids get, at least when their the only grandkids/nieces in the family!

We do celebrate [name]Christmas[/name] but no [name]Santa[/name]. MY kids know its a “game” other people do and not to tell people “its pretend” or what not. So far so good with that sort of thing. I just do not feel right telling my kids somebody is watching theur every move and deciding if they get gifts or not based on behavior that may be age appropriate (melting diwn before bed “[name]Santa[/name] is watching” etc). It just is not something we feel futs wuth how we parent, so we take the “magic” of the season and childhood and celebrate in other ways but no [name]Santa[/name].

We’re atheists but we still celebrate [name]Christmas[/name]. It is all about family, friends, food, gifts, drink, fun and the magic of the season! [name]Love[/name] the magic of [name]Santa[/name], it is so much fun for children!

Well I’m a godless Heathen, I still plan on having winter festivities, celebrating the [name]Yule[/name] so the little one can enjoy the season; but I see no reason to lie to my kid and tell her [name]Santa[/name] is real. I do not care for the commercialisation of [name]Christmas[/name] or the religious aspects associated with it.

My son is 4yrs old. We’re Christians (poorly practicing) and he’s [name]Joseph[/name] in his daycare [name]Christmas[/name] program, because they children wanted to learn about the nativity. [name]Even[/name] though it’s a religion-free house. :slight_smile:

I remember learning about [name]Santa[/name]… and I remember wanting to keep the secret for my younger siblings.

So… our plan - [name]Santa[/name] is real until he asks. [name]Santa[/name] finds him wherever he is [name]Christmas[/name] [name]Eve[/name]. And all the mall Santas and elves - they are [name]Santa[/name]'s helpers. It’s their job to spread [name]Christmas[/name] cheer and give [name]Santa[/name] messages from children. [name]Santa[/name] and the [name]North[/name] Pole are very busy this time of year.

I think the whole point is to fall into the magic of the holidays - the family, the lights, the joy, the love, the food, and even a few gifts. I have Jewish friends who have trees and celebrate both holidays. We all watch “[name]Christmas[/name] Vacation” together. Together is what matters.